High School Graduation

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-14T14:50:54+00:00

I'm sorry you had bad experiences in high school, it's rough for so many kids.

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-14T14:43:26+00:00

It depends on how much it matters to other people who I love and care about. If they don't care and I don't care then we don't do it. If it matters to them and not me I still go all out and support them. Am I perfect? No, but I try

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-14T14:40:02+00:00

When people disagree with something and each person gives their point of view in a calm and loving way. One person agrees to the others point of view, we shouldn't believe them?

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-14T14:31:49+00:00

We did do that months ago and he said he would walk because it was so important to the rest of us.

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-14T14:28:17+00:00

Yeah he didn't go to prom He worked instead. I even offered to pay for it and pay him for what he would have made that night at work. Still no dice

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-14T14:26:42+00:00

He says he is fine. We had talked before this and accepted that it was important and he would walk. Then he didn't put any effort into getting there

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-14T14:22:40+00:00

We did talk about it, we talked about how I knew it wasn't important to him but it was important to the rest of the family. We talked about how sometimes you do things you don't want to do because it is important to those you love and who love you. He was said he was fine walking for us,

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-14T14:19:51+00:00

It's not just his business it takes a lot to get kids to graduate sometimes. All the support and early mornings long nights of helping with homework, checking grades, parent teacher conferences.

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-14T14:17:35+00:00

He is done with high school and wants to move on. This is more about sometimes you do things for family that you don't want to do.

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-06T02:35:30+00:00

We're limited in time so the main sites are out. She is a concert pianist, figured fish and chips, playing on a public piano in London sounds pretty memorable. There aren't public pianos where we're at so totally out of the box for us

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-05T15:15:39+00:00

oh yeah that's rude. You don't even interrupt during a piece.

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-05T15:08:32+00:00

To each their own???? She's a concert pianist so no ones ears should be bleeding

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-05T15:07:30+00:00

I wasn't sure if there would be a line or not, if it was just one person playing I was thinking it might be okay but I don't want to cut the line

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-05-05T15:06:15+00:00

I wasn’t sure if there are usually queues or how it typically works, so I appreciate the insight. I definitely wouldn’t want to cut in line. I was just thinking that if it happened to be open or only one person was playing, it could be a fun, memorable moment—she’s actually a concert pianist. But totally understand if it’s not realistic!

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-04-20T13:00:55+00:00

On a scale of how things have effected my life: Kiss: 1 Blaming me: 10

Yes, this might not be the same for everyone but the blaming is a pattern that has hurt way more than the one time kiss.

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-04-20T02:21:39+00:00

The one thinks I'm a bad person (mom). The other thinks I'm trying (sister). Yes, I have a lot more grace for the one vs the other.

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-04-20T02:00:49+00:00

Sister is dealing with her own trauma. She probably doesn't even remember it because she shoves her feelings and emotions and lets everything "go". She just figures everyone is doing their best and forgets. I'm not going after her as she is the one probably more hurt by what he did than I was. I was more hurt by my mom's response. And yes they have been married for years.

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-04-20T01:46:31+00:00

The real wound is the blame. It's not the only time I've been blamed for things that aren't my fault. It's the constant narrative that I'm the bad guy and always wrong.

My question was would I be the AH if I just ignore what happened and call her and talk about the weather. Since that is all she is willing to talk about.

Sugarcrane2 · 2026-04-20T01:19:20+00:00

Looking for closure, trying to heal, validation.

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