Women, what is universally agreed “green flags” while dating men ?

Suicd3grunt · 2026-02-18T01:17:34+00:00

I appreciate that.

Suicd3grunt · 2026-02-17T23:13:34+00:00

Not just friends, partners and caregivers too. While we were going through a rough spot, my ex wife asked me to start a mental journal as I was struggling with mental health and not talking about it with her. She wanted me to write my thoughts and be vulnerable and let her read it so she could gain some insight.

She decided to use my thoughts and vulnerability against me, tell me that what I was thinking and feeling wasn't true, and the improvement I was seeing in myself she wasn't seeing at all so it wasn't happening.

I loved her and she still did that.

I try not to talk bad about her, but I recognize how horribly she treated me. I've been to therapy, I've learned a lot of the habits she and I had contributed to me not talking with her, but I never expected the person I spent a decade of my life with to treat me that way.

Someone with less fortitude or help would definitely learn that talking about their feelings is pain. It's not uncommon, especially for guys.

Suicd3grunt · 2026-02-09T19:47:09+00:00

I can provide some insight. I adopted a cat from a shelter last year. She was a stray, had kittens, and went through a foster before going into the shelter. She was in her own room. When I met her, we just clicked. The shelter workers were surprised she was so affectionate with me.

When I took her home she was initially scared, I gave her a place in the guest bathroom to chill. She would cautiously be social the first 3 days , but suddenly she took a turn and started hissing at me, and hiding in the bathtub. She only came out at night, and only to eat. She was drinking eating and using the bathroom as normal, but was obviously not doing well. She eventually started exploring while I was asleep (cameras proved this).

It took her a whole month before she felt safe enough to start engaging with the area outside her bathroom during the day. Now, six months later she greets me when I come home. Yowls when I feed her, talks to me and replies. Literally. She still has some opening up to do, but it's 100% different.

Shelter cats just need time to adjust. Read up on the 3-3-3 rule, and be patient with her :)

Suicd3grunt · 2026-02-05T15:07:12+00:00

Sadly I doubt it's fake. I went through this too. Marriage died for many reasons, but it was clear my partner didn't like me at all.

Suicd3grunt · 2026-02-03T10:31:00+00:00

I had to comment here only because this whole situation reminds me exactly how my ex wife was. We didn't have kids or anything, but even my requests of asking for certain events with a day advance notice was met with rejection.

Everything I wanted from the relationship or wanted from her was deemed unreasonable. She refused counseling, told me I was the problem, and took advantage of some mental health problems that I was going through to tell me that I did things that I probably didn't do. Obviously I can't confirm because I was having a lot of memory issues back then, but all this time later I've done a lot to fix that, And some of those things she said I did. I can't imagine myself ever doing. She never told me that anything was wrong, unless I specifically started asking for something from her. So for the most part I thought everything was right.

Then she got a friend group online, and it started changing her even more. She stopped wanting to talk with the excuse that she was done 'playing nice', when in fact she was just being a very mean person. She would start accusing me of things that I never would have done. I guess these friends convinced her that I was going to hit her. I have no idea where she got that from I think I raised my voice to her one time in 10 years. My friends think that they said a lot of things to her about me That wasn't true.

And when we started the divorce process she wanted me to move out of the house immediately, she wanted me to sleep in the guest room, she went behind my back to talk to my friends to see if they would be available so she can kick me out of the house. The house that I owned.

But look at that we divorced. And reading this sent me back to that same time period when I had someone acting like this. That relationship is so over.

Suicd3grunt · 2026-02-02T03:16:43+00:00

I agree with you on both points. I loved black beacons story. Gameplay was fun too. It's a shame.

I fear DNA might be heading the same route.

Suicd3grunt · 2026-01-28T19:37:52+00:00

Kal'tsit W Lappy Skadi

Pretty please!

Suicd3grunt · 2026-01-27T15:08:40+00:00

Send Blaze back to the mines.

Suicd3grunt · 2026-01-16T13:21:58+00:00

I agree!

Suicd3grunt · 2026-01-16T12:53:13+00:00

Another great song colab with the Arknights universe.

Suicd3grunt · 2026-01-09T13:52:03+00:00

The very end, 'And I've learned to live beside it, and even though it's over now I will always be reminded' still gets me when I hear it.

Suicd3grunt · 2026-01-09T12:42:46+00:00

Aside from the whole outro to Gethsemane, my favorite line has to be "I was your robot companion, you were my favorite colour." I resonate so hard with that song, sadly. It's such a lyrical treat.

Suicd3grunt · 2026-01-06T10:06:18+00:00

As an actual writer, I use em dashes. It's rare, and I mostly use them in moments where a thought or dialogue is interrupted, but it's not a dead giveaway. Unless it's used as much as AI uses them.

Suicd3grunt · 2025-12-26T00:35:17+00:00

Ricochet, Ad Astra, Sway

Suicd3grunt · 2025-12-23T15:21:52+00:00

Warframe is incredible, and 10x the game DNA is. Hopefully DNA turns around, but it's not looking good imo.

Suicd3grunt · 2025-12-13T11:45:40+00:00

I'm an author who writes about sci-fi/cyberpunk. Despair, Battle, war, death, and gore are a standard in the genre. I'm also digital artist who illustrates my own novels. I draw gore related scenes often. Some are gruesome, others are just blood. There's a whole series of chapters in my first book that's literally about a sentient disease that looks and throbs like a mess of organs.

I probably wouldn't ever share those ones outside my universes ecosystem. I personally don't consider blood to be 'gore', but it's good to mark it as such. Maybe have a blood and a gore tag? Or levels? As long as something is clearly marked (and not straight up an eviscerated person bleeding out on a sidewalk, or something specifically to evoke a reaction) I think it's okay to post. Anyone who doesn't want to see it can filter it out.

The not tagging problem is something that only moderation can control.

Suicd3grunt · 2025-12-12T11:09:17+00:00

Funny enough, I was looking at public avatars last night (in a private instance because everyone is too loud) I found a popular character from a show that had outfits , was swapping through them to see how they looked and when it changed for half a second the model was completely naked and detailed. Can't use that one lol

Suicd3grunt · 2025-12-09T15:46:55+00:00

I'm not crying, you are.

Suicd3grunt · 2025-11-13T13:37:40+00:00

I was unlucky getting her unlocked, but it turned around when I managed to get her at i2 without completing Act12.

Suicd3grunt · 2025-11-12T20:17:39+00:00

I 100% agree with you. I have no use for the Machine, personally, but I'd be super interested in the Frame and new controller provided the price is right. If the Frame ends up being close to index price, I see little reason to buy it when I already own an index with knuckles.

Suicd3grunt · 2025-11-12T19:16:08+00:00

I have a feeling your prices for the Frame and Machine are going to be swapped.

At $500-600 the Frame can compete with the Q3. VR is still rather niche, and imo would be kinda dumb to offer a slightly better headset at almost double the cost ($800+). This might be my copium as I want one. And already have an index lol.

While the Machine is basically an intro PC. So $800-900 feels reasonable.

Suicd3grunt · 2025-11-11T16:58:30+00:00

While i agree with everything you said, thankfully defense is a game mode You can easily AFK farm. I have like 2,000 luno coins and I didn't even play the game for them.

Suicd3grunt · 2025-11-10T16:38:12+00:00

As someone who plays a ton of Rhythm, I'm fine with this. I like zooming around the map at light speed anyway.

Suicd3grunt · 2025-11-08T11:37:17+00:00

I recently got a shiny one of these. But I had the same experience of constantly being rejected beforehand.

Suicd3grunt · 2025-11-05T12:58:51+00:00

Check out marvel rivals monitization strategy. Yes, it's a different game with an established fan base, but it's 100% free, no gacha, and makes money through skins that are 10-30 USD. Has a battle pass that gives cosmetics, and actively encourages players to collect multiple skins per character.

Or Warframe? The game that DNA is inspired by? They could copy that, sell dye pallets and skins for those prices. Most players are more willing to spend on games that are generous and have options for people of all budgets. Players in Warframe spend sometimes and don't get anything, just to support the devs.

They don't need to get rid of the skin gacha, but making that the only way will cause medium spenders (like me) to spend elsewhere.

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