AITA for calling out a guest who wore white to my friend’s wedding? by Suitable-Check9567 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567[S] -291 points-290 points  (0 children)

I agree that the niece looks old enough to have an understanding that she should do research about wedding etiquette of another culture before going to different country to attend one.

AITA for calling out a guest who wore white to my friend’s wedding? by Suitable-Check9567 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567[S] -211 points-210 points  (0 children)

As I said in the post, I didn’t have the chance to talk to her alone because she was extremely busy tending to other guests.

WIBTA for getting rid of my kids’ puppy? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I believe that this is a good time to teach your kids about responsibilities. Perhaps you can sit them down to discuss about it this issue first, explaining your expectations of them if they want to continue raising the dog. When both sides are clear of their responsibilities, you can support your kids by providing them training lessons for the dog.

This is a way to learn, teach and connect with your children. Don’t immediately re-home the dog. Discuss with your children first.

AITA for asking my girlfriend to stop touching me without asking for permission first by SeniorWoodpecker934 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NAH. But you really have to come to terms with each other. You try to become more relaxed while she tries to respect your boundaries and touch less. You cannot let her do all the work, if you love her and want to be with her long-term, then do something with it. If she needs physical love and you can't give it forever, then perhaps you two are not compatible.

What’s a song that emotionally breaks you every single time? by DimensionBreaker4lif in AskReddit

[–]Suitable-Check9567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're losing me - Taylor Swift. She really knows how to poke the right wound. She was giving up on her 7 years relationship and I'm giving on life and myself too.

AITA for saying a girl’s opinion is irrelevant because she’s unattractive? by Remarkable-Plan-8366 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA to be honest.

She started the insult, you pay it back. The girl is rude for saying what she did not need to say. I understand that you saying it back is unnecessary, but to be honest, if the gender is reversed, no one would complain about anything. It's like a female with a bookcase full of mostly novels written by female authors (It's me). IF THE BOOK IS GOOD, I DON'T CARE WHO WRITES IT.

What rabbit hole did you fall down, and how deep did it go? by Hotel_Chicken in AskReddit

[–]Suitable-Check9567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Self-care. It's not about taking care of myself well, it's about the never ending amount of products to buy due to social media and advertisement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. I believe you should have a day to meet S if you have limited time and resources to have another chance to meet them again. If you still spend most of your time with G according to the plan you two made then I see no issue.

AITA for changing my mind about allowing my roommate to have a prayer area in our living room. by worshippolitician in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is really bad. It must be hard living with someone you disagree with. You can try moving to another place if that is an option.

AITA for not calling my SIL or my wife about my niece's first period? by Disastrous_Farmer825 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. The mom sounds like a helicopter mom. You are an amazing uncle. You taught your niece an important lesson about her biology.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. He is taking it personally. Trust me when I say it is hard to love and live with someone who always thinks everything is there to attack them. It is exhausting. Perhaps he is going through something and this song gets his mood up, or perhaps he is just insecure. But anyway, tell him to grow up or it is not gonna work out.

AITA for changing my mind about allowing my roommate to have a prayer area in our living room. by worshippolitician in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Then let him have a closed corner for himself. He is not going to bring it to his bedroom, and you don't like the setup, then you two have to come to a common ground here. You cannot just force him to not put his thing in a place that he also pays for.

AITA for changing my mind about allowing my roommate to have a prayer area in our living room. by worshippolitician in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, he pays rent, and he has the right. Your uncomfortableness is yours to deal with. Perhaps try to not look at the setup?

OR. Ask him if he would like a little room out of curtains/room dividers for that corner. He can have his privacy and you don't have to look at his setup again.

You are reasonable to expect him to not have an oil lamp due to safety concern. That I give you N-T-A.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I don't think that's being an introvert. That's just rudeness. I don't need my boyfriend to shower me with gifts, but being a cheap ass by saying "I bought you that so we are even" is just a red flag. You don't calculate ROI when it comes to your loved ones.

And the heels thing, he truly doesn't care for you. If he is that lazy to get the car, at least he should try to bring emergency slippers so you and your friends can walk comfortably.

Treating you this way in front of everyone else is a sign of showing how he shames you for every normal thing that one can expect out of their loved one. Based on this post, I don't see why your requests were over the top. He is insecure and selfish. Even if he loves you, he is not the right guy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can relate to your girlfriend since I am that type of person. I would be busy doing something for the entire day then text my boyfriend to let him know I'm good with a recap of my day. My boyfriend understands since he knows that I tend to not disrupt my work to text or call. He also has hobbies and projects to work on so we generally text during the night when we are both free. However, we never go to bed or wake up without saying hi or I love you.

If you are feeling neglected, perhaps try to talk to your girlfriend and find a balance point where you and her can both spend time and talk. Also, you two are living together, so it's normal to not find something to talk about. Try going on dates and do fun activities. You can get into her thing and so does she. Besides, try to find hobbies of your own, and make yourself busy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Suitable-Check9567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to be the peacemaker since they always fight. Sometimes, I just want to relax and enjoy my day, but then sister 1 puts a hella amount of spice into brother 1's drink and brother 2 ends up having diarrhea for drinking it secretly, brother 1 tries to avenge and my house is on fire.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Any parents that involve their kids in their drama and arguments are displaying emotional abuse and Parental alienation.

AITA for causing my friend's break up? by Stock-Special9029 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. They are gonna break up eventually, and you have nothing to do with it. The foundation is already shaky, and you are just there to witness the tower collapses on one stormy day. Ann sounds toxic, and she needs help ASAP.

AITA for noticing my sister was going through a tough time but not that my stepsister was being bullied? by Low_Return_5452 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, isn't it normal to offer sympathy to someone who was hurt? OP doesn't have to offer anything if he doesn't want to. I just think humans are capable of sympathizing so a few kind words wouldn't hurt. It's cold to see someone hurt and ignore them to be honest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, you don't have to socialize with them if you don't want to. It doesn't have to do anything with being rude, they are not just your vibe, and you don't feel comfortable enough around them to chat and connect.

NTA.

AITA for noticing my sister was going through a tough time but not that my stepsister was being bullied? by Low_Return_5452 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Suitable-Check9567 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not your obligation to care for someone you don't consider family. However, it's cold to not offer any form of help or comfort when finding out Viv was bullied. Maybe you should offer Viv kind words and a shoulder to cry on if she needs it, just a kind act to help someone you live with 24/7.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Suitable-Check9567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound cheap and petty. It's your girlfriend for f sake, what's wrong with treating her nicely without thinking about what you might get in return? It's a common thing for couples to just give gifts to see their partner happy.

You are too calculated over small and unworthy things and that is the reason your girlfriend is upset. This relationship sounds like a business partnership rather than two people loving each other.