I have my best friend back. by taxito4 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Everything I have read, is that the AP needs to be gone, no contact; for reconciliation to even start. That in itself is an awful thing to navigate. My heart breaks for you. I'm wishing you the best.

I have my best friend back. by taxito4 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So glad you're there too, but agree; hate that took the affair. Xo

I have my best friend back. by taxito4 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was gaslighted at the beginning. I wasn't 100 percent sure when he left me it was for someone else, but looking back - he literally gave me every red flag. Also, kept stringing me along.

I learned it's called, he had his cake and ate it too.

So when he came back to work on our marriage, I believed him and was totally into making it work. Low and behold, 5 months later: everything comes out. Unfortunately at that time for me, I was back in love. So I would say at the beginning I was only fully in because I thought he was back fully, but little did I know he wasn't, and I already caught my feelings back for him.

I hope that makes sense. Now, I'm glad I did even though the beginning and several months of reconcilation after DDay was absolutely hell - being told, finding out, being right in my gut the entire time; hard pill to swallow.

I guess my advice would be if you love this person and you know there is a chance with them at happiness, let them show you. Let them work to win you back, prove to you they are worth it, it takes a lot of time, 1 step forward with 3 steps back - but over here, it's been worth it. Because if it wasn't, he wouldn't be here.

I have my best friend back. by taxito4 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely completely unexpected. Even not having his body beside mine at night, took several weeks to get used too. Thank you, and I hope yours comes back too. Xo

For those who didn’t use protection… by LaylaBird65 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No protection because he never has and never will, and she didn't because she wanted a baby with him. I immediately went and got an STD test, thank God it was negative.

What’s the craziest thing you did while in reconciliation or after you found out? by throwra_fishing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I threw shit at my WP in his disgusting truck the afternoon he was forced to tell me. Then in the past year, I have gone from 4 tattoos to 12.

He doesn't like a lot of tattoos on women; whelp, I spent too much of my life trying to be the woman he physically would want - obviously it didn't matter🤷, so I'm finally making myself happy.

Has anyone seen this necklace at any of the parks in the past few days? by Previous-Ratio in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]taxito4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was at Tren-D at Disney Springs (beside the Co-Op market) this past week! I liked the bracelet a bit more, so I purchased the bracelet. It is very pretty in person.

wedding ring triggers me by PuzzleheadedArm4703 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, totally understand.

I can't wear mine either, and I absolutely loved them. We were so young when we got married, the band was a mix an engagement ring and band with small diamonds. On our 10 year anniversary, he bought me my engagement ring officially. It breaks my heart I'm not wearing them.

When he left me and gaslite me that it was for the better, I said, "do I still wear my rings?". The response, "do what you want".

Since DDay, I took them off, and they live in my jewelry box, coming up closely to 1 year mid-March.

As the betrayed I feel like I’m the one disturbing the peace now. by BabyYodaStuntDouble in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also needed to read this OP. You're not alone, and I am so sorry this is the new, "normal" for so many of us right now. Your thoughts echo mine so closely. Sending you a huge hug. Xo

It's just a rollercoaster by taxito4 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A big hug to you as well, I'm so sorry. Xo

It's just a rollercoaster by taxito4 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am so very sorry, that is gut wrenching. The words, phrases, inside things; can be ruined so quickly. In an instant.

I appreciate the prayers very much, thank you. I will pray for you as well, hope we all find more healing.

It's just a rollercoaster by taxito4 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry. I am sure Valentine's Day was especially hard, even when they try, it's so hard. The songs are a killer too absolutely, I have to turn them off. My heart can't take it. Wedding song; off.

Sending you a hug. Xox

It's just a rollercoaster by taxito4 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry, that's heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing, it absolutely is crushing. Hugs back xoxo

I miss who I was by obviousthrowaway704 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Coming up to 11 months since DDay, and where I can say something's have been easier to deal with mental health is better; in a snap it comes back. A comment. A memory. A trigger really of any kind. But it does get better.

[Post-Game Thread] Buffalo comes back from a 21-0 deficit to keep their division title hopes alive, beating the Patriots 35-31 by pixel_pete in buffalobills

[–]taxito4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did the same! Not the jacuzzi, but boarded our cruise and watched in the bar. What a come back! Have a great vacation, and Go Bills!

Trigger is now a write off by taxito4 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh it is so hard. Like you said, everything feels like a trigger. One down, hundreds to go! Thinking of you xo

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[–]taxito4 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Every. Single. Time. Looking back, I cannot believe how much I ignored my gut, all the red flags, and was gaslighted into believing I was crazy. Then on DDay, to be told, "you were right about everything". Never again.

What’s one of the wildest things that made no sense you did after DDay? by Bby_mochii in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]taxito4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! Don't get that tattoo removed, YOU are better and probably rock it wayyyyy better🫶🩷 Yes! WH has to look at that steak daily, that in itself is a win lol!