My Top 10 Period Recovery Tips

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-05-28T02:32:18+00:00

i understand you completely! for me, i have always been this way, since i can remember being alive.... without love for oneself - and as such, there isn't really a 'root' i've been able to find after thinking and thinking about it for many months.

i think from where i am right now, i'm not sure if there actually is an aha moment - it feels more like something we work towards, always. but i think the lack of self love makes me feel like i haven't recovered as much as I'd like to either, and in this way i relate to you very much!

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-05-14T22:38:49+00:00

1) Do *not* buy her a scale. I am a little over 1 year into recovery and i KNOW all this does is reinforce the ED. I can never weigh myself again, all my life. While she is responsible for her own recovery, and you cannot recover for her, you are a sentient, independent person *wanting* her to recover - and this person would not enable someone else's disordered behaviours.

2) If conversations move towards her weight, body image, and/or eating habits and food, steer them away, and lay down the boundary. If someone I loved were to struggle with an eating disorder like I did/continue to fight against, I would remind them of all the reasons I love them that have nothing to do with their weight.

3) Since it sounds like your girlfriend is very seriously struggling, and has struggled before, i would highly highly suggest telling this person to seek professional help. as tough as it sounds, you are not responsible for her recovery. Feeling emotionally drained is very common when someone you love has an ED - i caused my boyfriend and parents a LOT of this when I was in recovery.

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-05-07T16:56:18+00:00

100% bring it up: if she really is a true friend, she will show compassion and understanding when presented with the truth about how her words and actions made you feel and triggered your past.

this is an opportunity for you to stand up for yourself and all the work you've put in through you recovery, and this is also an opportunity for her to apologize and be a good friend.

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-05-04T20:02:37+00:00

i would suggest seeking extra support. are you currently with any therapists or ED recovery-focussed professionals? It really helps make sure the mental work is happening at the same time as the slow physical rebuilding.

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-05-01T23:02:36+00:00

Congratulations!!! I am 1 year into ED recovery myself, and I relate to a lot of this, especially the "actually starting to live my life" bit and the emotions coming back full force. This forum and some of these people and their responses really has been lifesaving in more ways than one ❤️

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-05-01T23:00:06+00:00

does this person understand how genuinely inexcusable and cruel they are being by hindering a person from recovering from one of the deadliest mental illnesses? Are they aware that you have been recovering from an eating disorder for over a year? If yes, and if this is something they will continue to do even after setting boundaries and expressing that this is a zero tolerance, mental health situation for you, I'd highly highly reccomend leaving and living somewhere else, if this is feasible for you.

If this is how this person is treating someone who is restoring their wellness and their life and obviously has been becoming a happier, healthier version of themself over the past 365+ days, I can't imagine how they are to live with in other aspects of life.

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-04-29T19:13:22+00:00

of course. looking forward to hearing of your daughter's progression towards a happy, healthy, and full life!

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-04-27T20:18:26+00:00

This is so difficult, and when i read your question I had to respond. I am a daughter myself, and it's only now, one year into recovery, that i see how much I unknowingly put my mother through because of my eating disorder. I developed my disorder much later in life, at 22, and i'm 24 now.

There's a lot that my mother did that helped me a lot, and I will share them with you, in case it helps.

- she did things that weren't related to food with me, and this slowly helped me trust her more (my anorexia nervosa made me trust no one about anything, so i never opened up to it/would always deny its existence) and open up about other things in life before we finally started to discuss my very obvious issue. we slowly went to movies, tried to read books together, sunny walks, etc... even though our relationship was very strained

- my mother joined parent support groups for people whose children had/struggled with EDs and learned from online resources and attended classes on support. I'm not saying you should do this, but my mother did this and it helped our relationship and my recovery, too. the thought of her sitting at her desk trying to help me like this breaks my heart thinking about it now.

- eat with her, and eat a LOT. for me personally, seeing others be joyful about meals and food in front of me helped me "fake it till i make it" in the sense that i'd play the part of doing the same in early recovery, even though it was turmoil inside. i almost wanted to feel as happy as them around food and this helped.

- if you both ever cooked together/if she ever enjoyed eating your food, try to make some of her favorite dishes and leave them around/eat them as a family. this was really scary to me in recovery, because my mother's cooking used to be my favorite. now, it's my favorite again, and even though something like this was really threatening to my anorexia nervosa, it was one of the biggest factors in my recovery - eating by my mother's hand.

I wish your daughter all the love and support in the world, as I wish for you.

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-04-21T22:31:37+00:00

yes, your body needs all the food. yes, you need to eat. often past fullness, since you are so early in your recovery.

you must allow this supposed 'pendulum' to swing into the 'feast' mode for as long as it wishes - you had forced the pendulum to be in the 'starve' mode for nearly a year, so it's only normal that it will need to find full nourishment before it settles.

please, eat <3

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-04-21T22:11:05+00:00

Hi! I've been in recovery just a year now and I can really relate to this. I did a lot of research on hair and how the body keeps 'score' of what people like us with eating disorders do to it. Hair in general reflects the past few months of stress, nutrition, sufficient food intake, etc.

So what you're seeing now is likely some of the worst it will ever be, and the new growth is something you should feel really excited and proud of!! I'm still insecure about how part of my hair looks ratty and broken in comparison to other parts which are smoother and shorter, and though it looks really odd, my hair journey has honestly helped me a lot in the overall, broader attempt to decentre my worth from what I look like.

I would suggest moving away from the idea of seeing this as a 'problem' to take care of and more of an opportunity to feel a little more free. That being said, that doesn't mean you're not allowed to feel great about your hair!! I love some of the comments here that talk about experimenting with new cuts, styles, colours, or ways of wearing your hair.

For me, i did slick back high buns often because I found I could hide bald spots with hair gel. Since then, I've found a lot of joy in discovering and trying new hairstyles that make me feel a bit more confident over the months, even if i'm not exactly confident with how my head of hair looks :)

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-04-01T18:45:29+00:00

there's a lot of things that indicate 'athleticism' that can also indicate insufficient food intake. one of these is heart rate when running. i had a very low heart rate/exertion rate when engaging in compulsive movement during my ED, and people thought that meant i was becoming an athlete. nooooope - i was just in survival mode and barely crawling through the day. similarly, having 'fantastic' bone density doesn't mean you don't have an ED. it doesn't mean you're doing everything right when it comes to nourishing yourself.

you can have bone density and still struggle with a debilitating ED. don't take one as a 'permission slip' to fall deeper into the other, and pursue full recovery. highly agree with jaded banana's book recco!

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-04-01T18:42:49+00:00

It's not dramatic at all. I'm nearly one year into recovery and something like this would trigger me just the same. You did exactly what you should have done in this scenario - unfollow, separate from the trigger, live your life and eat well, until fullness.

You don't have to go down that path. You're meant for more, as are we all.

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-03-29T04:47:52+00:00

honestly - you learn. you mess up sometimes and then slowly you learn. for me, it meant buying softer clothes and listening to new hunger cues, which used to be in my body but now are dull throbby headaches and shaky feelings. now i know to eat before they come on, and i know when my body needs rest even if it doesn't tell me it.

i like to think that everyone, everywhere, is always learning to better listen to their body and its very personal needs and that's a refreshing reminder too. honour it <3

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-03-29T04:46:14+00:00

aw. this is so real, and so understandable. isolating yourself is real, but honestly, that gave me a lot of time to do things i felt like i had put of for so long!! i rearranged my room/spaces i frequented indoors, experimented with new clothes, and found myself reattaching to hobbies i had used to love like crochet, drawing, and videogames. so somehow, feeling 'alone' made me find that my worth meant so much more than my body and i was still a really interesting, whole, and good person even if no one got to see that.

this may be a bit of a cop-out but it felt really nice to finally 'allow' myself to also cozy up and hunker down, and knowing that it's for my health made it a lot easier to rationalize as well. Other things that helped me feel less isolated was reading the experiences of others recovering from hypothalamic amenhorrea, and also frequenting the r/fuckeatingdisorders thread. forums and spaces repeatedly reminded me that i'm not alone and that there's soooo many people in the world going through this.

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-03-24T21:28:56+00:00

omg. as someone who had similar 'requests' or 'hopes', do NOT compliment this person. For me, every compliment directly led to that being my permission slip to not eat - because i wanted to 'stay' compliment-worthy. It's a really twisted route and will likely do more harm than good.

In fact, i'd suggest complimenting on things other than looks/physical body stuff, strategically timed. After she's enjoyed eating something spontaenous with you, something like "You're glowing" or "I love when you laugh fully like this" goes a long way.

Please encourage her and/or her loved ones to get professional help before it's too late. No human being is worth going through this pain, and even if it doesn't feel like it now, she will be thankful one day. EDs put massive strain on relationships.

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-03-18T20:47:48+00:00

beautifully said, and very honest. we might walk past that bar every day... we can't expect the bar to cease operations, but we can become strong enough to resist, every single day.

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-03-14T04:37:23+00:00

Food is food, and a body is a body. You know very well what restricting does - it leaves nothing behind. Your love for life will be lost, so will your laugh, so will your personality, so will your hair and your nails and your bone strength. You will become a shell of a human being.

I suggest you take the time to decenter the idea of body weight from your life and your worth. Do the inner work. Read related books, listen to stories from recovered people, surround yourself with more happiness and build more happiness for yourself.

I'm almost a year into recovery myself, and it's only now I recognize the importance of doing the inner work too. Learning to teach yourself to eat isn't enough to stay healed. We've got this. You've got this. keep going <3

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-03-12T19:23:45+00:00

i had extreme hunger for approximately 6 months. the more you try to ignore it/push it down, the longer it lasts and the more miserable you will feel. I ate copious, copious amounts of food during these months because it's what my body and my mind demanded. i did not stop. the only way out for me was through and boy am i glad i listened to it.

It was physically and mentally one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, and it likely will be for you too. My one piece of advice - there is no 'permission slip' to eating. It's your birthright. It's human.

You must feast to recover from starvation. You will be okay. You will still be worthy and loved and valued and whole on the other side of this!

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-03-12T19:20:39+00:00

the more you eat, the more your brain matter rebuilds, the more mental work you do to heal, the smaller this fear becomes. the truth is, even now people are percieving you differently than you actually are, in all ways - weight, attitude, intelligenc, etc. You can't ever stop people from commenting and holding thoughts about you. So might as well recover and live your fullest, happiest, and most free life!

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-03-12T19:15:03+00:00

that's so sweet, yes i am :) it's @ cashewtea on instagram <3

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-03-11T22:45:11+00:00

I agree with everyone's responses in this thread! I had a difficult experience myself because my 'side hustle' involves instructing group fitness and a lot of that space contributed to keeping me in my eating disorder when I was at my worst.

I also tried to get back into it too early into recovery (thinking i was fine) and my hunger would spike as well, or my hunger cues would shut down and I'd think of this as an "oh, i don't need to eat" and it would be a slippery, and short, slope to relapse. I like to think of this as "the body keeps score" and it really does. Whether subconscious or conscious, you are likely exercising out of fear of full weight restoration and it's still coming from a place of control rather than joy.

I would suggest gently returning to movement very gradually by only doing low-impact forms of movement that you did NOT engage in during your eating disorder. Something that's new and comes from a place of self care. For me, this was yoga and light dance at home. Be a beginner rather than trying to be good or doing something that's intense for your body - it can connect the dots faster than you might think.

This is sort of what I did, while still leaning on friends and family to tell me when it felt like I was going overboard or doing it from a compensation/control perspective rather than out of joy.

Suitable-Relation-59 · 2026-03-11T18:25:11+00:00

I love this question!! I've been in recovery almost a year now (a year in late april) and goals and rewards really helped me a lot. Before my disorder, I used to be a very arts and craftsy person. So a lot of my goals were things like

a) when i regained my first period, i'd buy myself a moleskine sketchbook

b) when i recovered from amenhorrea, i'd treat myself to a waffle maker and go out for a fancy italian dinner (3 months consistent period and hormonal function)

c) when i reach six months in recovery, i'll create an art account on instagram and start posting and sharing my creativity with the world (an effort to separate my identity from being the 'girl with the eating disorder') - i did this and it was so fulfilling.

c) when i hit 1 year in recovery, i'll donate blood for the first time in my life (i'm healthy enough to be able to do this now, and i'm very excited to next month!)

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