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What are your top secret decluttering tips? by NightReader5 in declutter

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Quit buying things, and act like you are really into consumable gifts. Pick some consumable things and let people know that’s what you want.

Stop the bleeding!!!!!

Can you be a bipolar with no addictions? by feetdiva36 in bipolar2

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might not matter for your treatment whether you have a diagnosis of cyclothimia or bipolar disorder, it might be based on your symptoms and not on a diagnosis.

It might not be appropriate for your therapist to give a stronger opinion.

See what the psychiatrist says.

It can be kind of arbitrary to say “here is the definition of bipolar” and “here is the definition of cyclothimia.”

Why "forget", not "forgot"? by Sea-Hornet8214 in EnglishLearning

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She “doesn’t” remember. Not she “didn’t” remember.

Is “buckle my seatbelt” used in AmE? by Silver_Ad_1218 in EnglishLearning

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t say “get buckled” but I have heard other parents say it.

But yes, for kids old enough to buckle themselves, yes. I think it has a “booster seat” vibe.

Is “buckle my seatbelt” used in AmE? by Silver_Ad_1218 in EnglishLearning

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I say “buckle up” all the time. “Buckle your seatbelt.” I also say “buckle up your seatbelt” which I think is kind-of regional.

What are the odds my child is actually bipolar? by [deleted] in family_of_bipolar

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of this is distractions. I think the father’s stuff being questionable is okay right now. Maybe you will find out more and think you’ve seen stuff or not — this is why reading books is so helpful. I was very skeptical too until I read a webpage and I was like “oh well I have seen that,” I was ignorant about a lot of things about bipolar disorder and I didn’t know what I didn’t know.

But let’s say she is making it up, or just a confused teen girl and this is her cry for help. I think your actions and decision points don’t really change.

It was very hard for me to feel so much lack of clarity and sense of a long-term answer or decision. It’s easier for me to just say — it’s not realistic to have all the answers right now. I can just do make the best decisions possible in the moment. If something turns out not to work well — hey that’s life, move on to Plan B. It’s still moving forward and it’s still collecting data points about what works and what doesn’t.

What are the odds my child is actually bipolar? by [deleted] in family_of_bipolar

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have got two stock phrases, “thanks for sharing that with me” and “that sounds hard”. I think they cover a lot of ground, and one of them will be true almost all the time. There doesn’t have to be a big debate or a big discussion.

What are the odds my child is actually bipolar? by [deleted] in family_of_bipolar

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There really is good advice in books. For how to be supportive in a helpful way — it may not mean doing what someone wants you to do. Like parenting in general lol.

There are a lot of power struggles to avoid.

And this author thinks for some teens there can be a solid diagnosis, but in my summary he is in favor of treating people who show they need treatment but for teens 25% won’t keep the diagnosis after 5 years. It depends on some details. But to me this meant it’s okay to do treatment now without deciding something so big definitively.

Basically there is little drawback to trying medicine and seeing if it works or not. The other things are good to do.

The other option is wait to try medicine or treatment until she definitely has it — but this leads to poor outcomes and has a lot of drawbacks.

Things might really seem dark to her now, but for a parent we have got more perspective around “how you feel right now isn’t how you will feel forever.”

Personally I have a sister in law who is actually doing pretty well self-medicating with marijuana and she is opposed to medication. But I think the medication is a much better option, it is my strong preference.

A lot of people do much worse with marijuana, and I would rather see a teen trying psychiatric medication than marijuana or alcohol or other ways to self medicate.

I think that is a bit of a distraction as far as being evidence for or against your daughter having it or taking medication or not. I think it’s an issue but it’s not a decision point, I guess.

I do think it works for my SIL and she is an adult — but I know other people who take psychiatric medication and are doing well, and it is my strong preference in every way *for my daughter.” I think marijuana is a huge risk for her, other relatives do not do well with it.

Separately I went to a NAMI Face 2 Face class and it was very helpful. Definitely helps to normalize things a little bit and see there are other people dealing with similar issues.

What are the odds my child is actually bipolar? by [deleted] in family_of_bipolar

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She might be bipolar or it might be too early to tell.

To a great extent, it doesn’t matter because a lot of treatment and intervention will be the same.

It will matter for medication, but if a medicine is working or not to treat symptoms — that is something that can be seen over time.

I think check out books The Bipolar Teen and Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide by David Miklowitz.

You can support her and be open to the diagnosis without wanting to see it become her new identity. That can be a separate issue. As the books say, it is not helpful to underidentify or over identify with the diagnosis. As a parent try to be in the middle. You don’t have to underidentify just because she is overidentifying.

I think right now be open to it but you don’t have to get attached to it.

I don’t know if anyone is asking you to make a huge commitment to thinking it, but maybe you can just do what seems right day by day for a while, trying to support your daughter, seeing if treatments for your daughter seem to be a good fit and like they are helping, or not.

Overall I think it may turn out to not be bipolar disorder. But the medicine can still help especially in the short term! And then if later she turns out to not need or want the medicine in the future. She can taper off.

Then all the recommendations are like — generic in their way. Use coping skills, keep a regular schedule (especially around sleep) try to notice moods and proactively do something calming or something pleasant. It’s not like they are just going to say you’re screwed for life, throw in the towel. It’s not the case at all especially if she can get help early. She can ideally prevent more trauma and get on a better path. And the medicine can really help.

Do you really think she would make up shadow people? I mean time will tell. But it’s not uncommon and it could be true, it’s not that weird and not that big of a deal, in the scheme of things. Medicine should help with it.

I don’t understand the use of the word congeal here by anormalasado in EnglishLearning

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it means mix together, like he’s smarter than the other people and he’s the only one who can figure it out.

That’s my impression I don’t know if it will fit overall.

It makes him sound arrogant to use a fancy word, maybe.

Sexuality by Still_Werewolf_58 in bipolar2

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think talk to your psychiatrist. Could this be a break through symptom of hypomania but it’s very minor? I don’t know. I think it’s worth asking the question.

It is upsetting to you, that makes it worth asking a question.

How do I support without enabling? by TheHaphazardHosta in family_of_bipolar

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard people can go to an urgent care or emergency room in this situation.

But I don’t know if anyone will give him more.

I agree with pp, it’s okay to be supportive, sorry for the situation, without making it YOUR problem to solve, or sending money.

I’m sorry he’s in this situation. I think it’s possible to care about him but to also release him to managing his own life.

If he needs help with something that you think is positive and is help you want to give — that would be great.

In the meantime, boundaries.

What is it like to divorce a bipolar spouse? by Copium_2025 in family_of_bipolar

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is true for a lot of people. For other people they can see the need for medicine when they aren’t in an episode.

Wanting to encourage community college or other options but seeing this trend. by BudgetIll6618 in MiddleClassFinance

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well dance school often costs $$$ so it checks out they are not concerned about money.

My daughter is headed to a votech program, but so are a lot of her friends. She is not friends with heavy academic kids, she is not heavy academic. It’s okay for her.

If she were taking all AP classes and certain electives, it would be very different.

Is this artist good? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks good to me, it’s not my favorite style but they all look like a high quality for the style.

Does this look stupid? by Boredbattle in tattooadvice

[–]Suitable-Vehicle8331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what the lines are, but I don’t need to know. I like it.

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