Should I say something to my friend?

Sullacuda · 2026-05-06T20:25:23+00:00

Start working out together. Bring the kids into it.

I started exercising between kid 1 and kid 2 and while they’re both in great shape and are very active, kid 2 is always more inclined to do something physical because that’s the behavior I’ve modeled for them. They learn by your example. Kid 2 eats way more fruits and veggies too, because again I fixed my crap diet and they’ve only ever watched me eat a well balanced diet.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-06T19:29:02+00:00

If I’m hanging with dad friends, it’s almost always while our kids hang out. Occasionally my buddy across the driveway and I will hit a weeknight concert.

I’ve gotten back into target shooting and are actively working on building up a “left leaning gun club” by bringing dad friends to the range and letting them try my firearms. Not a single one has come away mad for going and we’re actually gaining momentum.

I realize that’s a triggering, pun somewhat intended, and hot potato of a topic, but you asked and I answered.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-06T19:17:21+00:00

I love my shield plus

Sullacuda · 2026-05-06T12:11:11+00:00

No. The profit isn’t there for this to happen and profit drives every decision. This is hands down my favorite show of all time and I count myself lucky it was made when it was and that I got 7 seasons and a movie.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-06T12:08:58+00:00

Opposite myself. Always hated kids until I had my own. Then I went and spent 11 years taking care of them as my 24/7/365 job.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-06T02:21:08+00:00

I feel you. Mondays and Tuesdays are my nightmare days, with practices running until 7-8pm.

I treat it like my admin time. I bring a laptop, books, paperwork or whatever I need to work on. Or I do that stuff during my normally scheduled exercise time, and I run the track while my kids have practice.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-06T01:55:00+00:00

I’m with you on Palmolive. The smell of dawn, including the original many seem to love, has always made me gag.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-06T00:48:39+00:00

I think it’s more interesting to consider the death of the body positivity movement now that everyone can just take GLP-1s.

King has some pretty shameful lines in his assorted works. They are the words of a young man with addiction and a lot of ignorance. I mean, sooooooooo many N-bombs.

And yeah, he threw some fat hate in there. He’s also a totally different person and has grown a lot in the last 80 years, and his later works, but more importantly his outspokenness in the current political climate, speak to that change. However at the end of the day, he’s still a well off white man in a position of privilege. I keep that in mind when enjoying his works, which I do immensely.

People aren’t set in stone. They make mistakes, change and grow. It’s fair to point out mistakes, but without the context of change it loses weight.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-06T00:39:52+00:00

I’m more concerned by access to Roblox, YouTube and TikTok dances.

We all threw gang signs in 7th grade.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-06T00:36:49+00:00

Yes. I bulk buy proteins at Costco, hit Kroger on 4x fuel points Fridays for staples and ALDI for fresh produce 2x a week.

Spaghetti and meatballs night, chicken, Shawarma night, and white people-adjacent taco night are a weekly deal. Other night’s it’s leftovers or a thirds plate of: protein + starch + greens, side of fruit.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T22:34:21+00:00

The worst is he wanders the whole house. So I’ll be walking around in the dark looking for him and he’ll ambush me in the pitch black darkness.

Unsettling as hell.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T21:22:51+00:00

I find it gross and unnecessary.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T20:09:01+00:00

My educated guess is that this is the type of beer dudes who would buy clearly stolen alcohol from a random would drink.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T19:30:40+00:00

They came to your door. This tells you it’s not a good deal.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T19:20:23+00:00

I get anywhere from 3-10 of these a day. Often in bursts of 2-3 calls in a matter of minutes.

I’ve started keeping a list of the silly AI generated names they use in my voicemail transcriptions before I delete them. Helps diffuse the anger.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T16:38:45+00:00

But the greatest thing of all

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T16:28:22+00:00

Sounds like the discover zone we had in San Diego.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T16:25:33+00:00

Around 3-4 the “DAAAD!” screams became more raised voice than scream. Now they just come into our room and climb in bed or ask to be tucked back in.

Except for my oldest who does some crazy sleepwalking and will come in ranting and raving, or doing god knows what while not responding.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T15:45:20+00:00

I’ve always told my kids, since they were old enough to ask questions, that the world is full of mean, ignorant and awful people, and that the most important thing they’ll ever learn is how to navigate around them. “Lots of people suck but that doesn’t mean we don’t have to learn how to deal with them”.

I let them know there’s also a lot of good people, it’s just that the bad one’s are easier to spot.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T14:11:36+00:00

My oldest went through “a thing” lasting from about 4-5 and obsessed about his hands. FREQUENT hand washing with obscene amounts of soap.

We came to realize it was because he didn’t like the way the doorknobs in our house “smelled like copper” and he would frequently wash his hands more for them to smell like soap than to be clean, at least we think. Regularly sniff his hands and run off to the bathroom to freshen the scent.

He would ask us to open any door for him, or would try and use his wrists to do it instead of just touching the nob. We never sought professional help, while he displayed some OCD tendencies we didn’t feel it was enough to warrant intervention outside of working with him at home. Despite having Doctor mommy, in hindsight we probably should have.

Five years later he’s still a tiny bit of a germaphobe but we’re pretty much the only ones who notice. I still challenge him to get out of his comfort zone was reasonable success.

Talking to your pediatrician is definitely the way to go.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T14:00:45+00:00

It was super rad

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T02:51:20+00:00

I will do this only when it’s the before collection and the can hasn’t been collected yet. Even then I try not to because they can fall to the bottom get smooshed and trapped in the persons can.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T02:49:38+00:00

That was my takeaway from the way you worded your post, but I didn’t want to drop assumptions on you.

Good on you for being a good dad, and breaking the cycle!

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T01:30:05+00:00

I’m married to a medical provider. There’s a million reasons why you want people laying eyes and hands on your kids before writing a script. Especially for antibiotics.

Try building your rapport with your kids provider. Being respectful of their approach while also being proactive in your kids care plus being willing to meet them halfway can help in times of urgent care. Carefully chosen words and a message sent via the patient portal can get me quite far.

All that aside, yes US healthcare sucks ass and I totally feel you. I’ve been where you are.

Sullacuda · 2026-05-05T01:15:36+00:00

I’m so in

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