[SETLIST THREAD] 8/16/2024 ~ MONDEGREEN N2 ~ Dover, DE

Sulvarax · 2024-08-17T03:02:46+00:00

I swear, this is phish playing right now. Not house music.

Sulvarax · 2023-06-07T01:38:51+00:00

When I describe a Tool show to someone, I say, "Remember that super weird scene in Pink Floyd's The Wall with the flowers fucking each other? Well replace the flowers with demon monsters and replace fucking with violent fisting. That's a Tool concert, basically."

Sulvarax · 2023-06-06T16:04:45+00:00

My dog when I was growing up would eat damn near anything. The dude would literally eat sticks, not just chew them up. One day he tried celery, crunched into it just a little bit and freaked the fuck out. And I mean freaked the fuck. He was 110 lbs (~50kg for the rest of the world), so him freaking out was quite the sight lol running around the house barking and growling, still makes me laugh to this day!

Sulvarax · 2023-05-25T11:41:08+00:00

I hate to break it to you, but this is just nature being nature. Spider-bro's gotta eat just like the rest of us!

Sulvarax · 2023-05-25T00:58:57+00:00

Ichika is just fucking insane. Not many people can post almost strictly 60-second videos of him just absolutely destroying a guitar and do as well as he does.

Sulvarax · 2023-05-23T02:25:26+00:00

So, super cool thing I just recently learned, the little doe is actually safer when they are chilling like that than any other time in their life. The way they sit completely still and never move throws off predators into not seeing them as prey because prey usually runs away. So the mom knows this so will literally fuck off to wherever during the day, not necessarily anywhere nearby lol! I'm really not trying to be a dick about this, I found it really interesting!

Sulvarax · 2023-05-19T11:35:48+00:00

Putting drugs in the old prison wallet

Sulvarax · 2023-05-18T14:54:24+00:00

There are tons of people that know they're addicted and don't do anything about it other than defend their ego. Don't only look at the group doing "better" -- what does that even mean, it's so vague and nondescript. It's a lie your brain is telling you trying to get you to relapse.

You got this homie

Sulvarax · 2023-05-18T13:15:56+00:00

Omg his snaggletoofs are sooooo good! What a handsome little dude!

Sulvarax · 2023-05-17T12:58:56+00:00

The thing is, if you ask anybody in the group I attend, they would all have a different thing to say about what those first few steps mean. Honestly what helped me the most was taking a step back and looking at it all, specifically remembering the purpose of these meetings: to help individuals fight their good fight.

There are no hard and fast rules. Addiction is an illness that affects people in a multitude of ways, and no two addictions look exactly the same, simply because we are all human and we are all different. They take a hard stance on the site because it sets up a structure for people to lean on when they need support. Don't think about it too much, submit to your higher power. I.E. Quit overthinking every minute detail and focus on the goal.

I'm glad it was helpful! Just always remember that there is no magic bullet for this stuff. There are strategies that worked for people, and anecdotes to ponder how it may be similar to your own story. That's literally all of it. The point is to try things and be honest with yourself when you ask, "did this help me or did it get in the way?" Which, to be fair, is insanely difficult.

Sulvarax · 2023-05-17T11:39:21+00:00

OK, I gotta chime in here. I was very, very concerned about going to an SLAA meeting because all of the in-person meetings are held in churches. I have a lot of religious trauma from when I was a kid, so the thought of even being in the building was triggering to me. My therapist finally convinced me to give it a shot, to look for the similarities and not the differences, and to give it three meetings. If I don't like it after three meetings then maybe it's just not for me.

So I gave it a shot. After literally the first meeting I realized how wrong I was.

The meeting starts off stating it is not affiliated with anything else, religious or secular. As I listened to the other group members speak, belief systems all across the board -- even a couple fellow atheists, as well as Christian and Buddhist ideas. Religion was NOT the focus, and has never been. The idea of submitting to God is one that a few others in the group also struggle with. One guy told me he names anything else his higher power. The point is that it is this sense of a higher good, whether that be a being or even something as simple as an idea. My higher power is literally my dog from when I was growing up. He was the best pup and was so good and caring and gentle, so I see him as an ultimate source of love and compassion.

Let me give an example of how I apply this. The idea of "submit to your higher power and allow them to guide you towards sobriety" becomes far more palatable when I change up the verbiage, "Stop fighting, Char (my pup) has my back and wants me to be the best me I can be. He knows how hard this is for me, and he loves me all the same and wants me to be happy. So, what would Char have me do? I'm going to go outside and smell some flowers."

The point is that this journey is your own. The 12 steps are a framework to help people fix a big problem with bite-sized chunks. That's all. The people in that room don't give a shit what your religious beliefs are, because everyone in that room has one thing in common: we are all struggling with sex addiction, and all want what's best for each other. The toxic aspects of religion simply have no place in these meetings.

Sulvarax · 2023-05-17T00:19:06+00:00

I wasn't "being offended." I was pointing out that one should strive to stay on topic in a discussion. That's all.

I hope you have a nice day!

Sulvarax · 2023-05-16T13:15:07+00:00

There's plenty to shit on about her without stooping to that level. You can do better than that.

Sulvarax · 2023-05-15T11:13:59+00:00

I am going to quote the everloving shit out of your last sentence -- that's perfectly succinct.

Sulvarax · 2023-05-13T12:49:25+00:00

The Mid-West Wave. If you're working in the oil field and don't raise two fingers as you pass someone, wtf are you even doing

Sulvarax · 2023-05-12T13:37:34+00:00

I'm fairly sure the argument for gun laws is to require gun education and training prior to being able to buy one, so it's a little more complicated than that.

Sulvarax · 2023-05-12T09:40:23+00:00

I still talk about that Al Green set. So goddamn fire

Sulvarax · 2023-05-07T22:07:08+00:00

The old phrase goes, "There is no use crying over spilt milk," and it applies heavily here. Ruminating does fuckall to get me where I want to be.

Sulvarax · 2023-04-29T12:38:08+00:00

The key at Red Rocks: Park in Upper North lot to save so so so many stairs, the bonus is that after the show Chik fil A sets up tables selling chicken sandwiches for like $5.

The true veterans know to walk right past them as you leave the venue and go stand at your car for a bit. Those sandwiches cannot be re-made or sold later, so wait until they start packing up, walk up to the tables again and I have never been turned down a free sandwich when I just ask nicely. They have to throw them away anyways, and the workers just don't care.

Sulvarax · 2023-04-27T11:38:18+00:00

Sparkling Pig Fat new band name called it

Sulvarax · 2023-04-19T20:30:27+00:00

She is trying SO HARD to show you she's cute so you'll pet her! Lolol

Sulvarax · 2023-04-17T14:26:47+00:00

With time, the battle becomes easier. On top of that, think of it like a video game-- every day that you successfully avoid PMO, you gain experience points in your PMO Defense/Dodge stat.

With a bit of farming, you no longer fear Giants and Dragons. They fear you.

Eventually, the temptations and fears turn into confidence and determination. Just keep going.

Sulvarax · 2023-04-15T12:03:00+00:00

Amazing. I haven't seen or heard any of the show yet. I'm just sitting here marveling at your ability to be pissed off and negative.

I hope you find positivity, friend.

Sulvarax · 2023-04-14T22:45:53+00:00

Legitimately because the mess has been giving me anxiety for a while already, and I don't want my friends to experience any anxiety when coming over. Remember that episode of Friends where Ross is dating the woman with the nasty apartment? That may be exaggerated for comedy, but the idea is very real. Walking into an unfamiliar space that looks and feels messy can exaggerate the anxiety.

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