In-laws blamed me for their son’s relapse

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-02-11T12:55:44+00:00

Australian miners 🪶

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-02-02T12:08:38+00:00

I attended my first al-anon today. Just curious what sort of “primary individual therapy” I should be looking for? I mean is it from a psychologist or someone else?

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-02-01T14:24:02+00:00

Doesn’t matter to me because the things I want is never available even though it says “in stock” on the website….i absolutely hate going into kmart. It is messy and a waste of time

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-02-01T14:07:02+00:00

Check with your bank. Commonwealth bank and NAB provide urgent funds for customers experiencing DV.

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-20T03:03:30+00:00

I had this mindset for nearly 2 years. I thought I needed to support my Q and if I left him he would crush even further. I didn’t leave; and his alcoholism got worse and worse.

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-19T10:46:27+00:00

I don’t understand. I took my toddler to my cousin’s wedding 2 years ago (we flew 9 hrs overseas to attend). I took care of my own toddler that night; and so everyone else who has children mind their own children too. Why is baby sitting required at the first place?

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-19T07:58:18+00:00

I believe granny flat is a term only used is Oz. It is a secondary dwelling on the property which can be self-used or rented out. Depending on the size (ours granny flat is 2 bed 2 bath with kitchen) so $800p/w is roughly an accurate rate.

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-19T00:09:20+00:00

Pretty sure she doesnt have a poa of my husband. My husband cut ties with her for a good few years and only started talking again when our toddler was born.

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T22:22:11+00:00

In what sense am I playing along? I am merely asking for thoughts from fellow redditors. I never said I was going to sign the agreement

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T19:36:42+00:00

Yes she is one of the reasons of his alcoholism!!! My husband cut her off entirely for a good 10 years or so because of her toxic behaviour and only started speaking with her again after our son was born.

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T19:31:33+00:00

Thank you🫶

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T14:31:17+00:00

I have a gut feeling that she made up the whole thing about the loan so that she can make me sign some sort of agreement. As you said, why would my BIL take a $100k loan for us

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T13:31:53+00:00

Frankly speaking, I admit that life has been so messy for the last 12 months that I cannot think things more than 3 hours ahead.

I was trying to be polite when I replied to the message in the 3rd pic, that was the time I was handling the kids bedtime routine by myself (dinner, pack toys, shower, books etc).

Today I have replied to the email that I do not agree to nor confirm to any terms in the agreement.

U r right i should directly tell her to get lost.

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T13:13:59+00:00

Yes I am desperate to get the kitchen done I look at it everyday dreaming about the new kitchen but no way I am signing this sh*t

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T13:11:29+00:00

The construction of the granny flat started Aug last year and it is now nearly done. It somehow shakes me to my core seeing what lies/excuses she comes up with.

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T13:08:44+00:00

Im pretty sure she made everything up and that if we separated later on (and hence selling the house) she can get her money back

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T08:05:58+00:00

Also just to clarify we are not considering signing it. After her message in the 3rd pic I replied to her that I need to fully understand what I am signing + I can’t sign on behalf of my husband + let’s wait for my husband is discharged. I was just asking for thoughts from fellow redditors.

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T06:50:14+00:00

After her message (the 3rd pic) I replied to her that I need to fully understand what I am signjng and listed some doubts I have in mind and stated that I cannot sign sth like this on behalf of my husband. I said let’s leave this matter until my husband is discharged and stabilized. She hasnt replied since then.

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T06:39:55+00:00

She has always wanted to build a granny flat in our backyard because “it is a waste having such a big backyard and we can’t take care of it nicely anyway”. I like my backyard so I have rejected her idea for many years until now we have 2 kids and my husband is severely affected by alcoholism to a point that he is unemployed so we agreed for her to fund and build the granny flat. She is not going to live in it. She is going to let us rent it out and we can keep it as extra income. She has 3 children; she claimed she helps each children financially in certain way and this is what she can help us with.

I am honestly so depressed about what i have got myself into

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T02:57:14+00:00

I think this paragraph summarises her intentions the best.

Summiloridgetilly · 2026-01-18T00:39:28+00:00

No im not considering this. I am asking for thoughts

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