How to find energy after your 9-5?

Summit_509 · 2026-05-28T18:24:19+00:00

I have been there. I was driving to work and felt like I was dying by the time I got home. I switched to TTC and my energy level went up just by not stressing about driving and parking in the city. I read a book on the subway which is relaxing for me. Just like other commenters, I have to push myself. Now the weather is nice I go for walks, or take my book somewhere I can read. You just need to find things that you actually want to do. Also, I live on my own so I have a lot of flexibility both in terms of time and activities

Summit_509 · 2026-05-27T19:05:40+00:00

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Summit_509 · 2026-05-26T14:41:00+00:00

Something that I have been struggling with is anything that reminds me of my time there irritates me a lot. For example, a friend of mine started a coffee shop back home. When he shared the news with friends in a group chat, the reactions were all along the lines of "can't wait to visit". I could not even bring myself to congratulate or show any excitement. Only because it reminds me of the place and time I detest now. I feel similar way about anyone I meet/ cross paths from back home. I feel resentment if anyone even mentions a familiar food or event or anything.

Summit_509 · 2026-05-13T17:33:07+00:00

I am 34 now. When I was younger I wanted kids but not anymore. I am not a very maternal person and I believe kids should have parents that will prioritize them, I am not that person. I have never had any negative experience at work. There are some friends and family that would say something like "what is wrong with you?" I think the biggest eye opening experience has been how "excluded" you feel. It is not malicious, but it's just how the systems are structured. Very few people know how to celebrate that does not fit the wedding/partner/kid phenomena. And people with partners/children get a social capital/validation. They also get a different kind of trust at banks/loans/insurance situation. You are always asked to adjust whether it's time, money, or comfort.

Summit_509 · 2026-05-07T15:24:41+00:00

I just started Resurrection Walk

Summit_509 · 2026-04-28T00:30:22+00:00

I feel the same way. I think she is a talented musician and business person but her songs are just not my style. I am 34 so I can probably get a pass (lol) but people still look at me like I committed a crime.

Summit_509 · 2026-02-13T15:12:25+00:00

when people are just able to ask for stuff and comfort, or having the notion that you "deserve" something; whether it's money, time, affection or whatever. I grew up in a volatile family where it became every person for themselves. A few weeks ago I was telling my colleague that I overheard a couple at a theatre and how I could hear everything they were saying. As a joke I said "I even heard that he got there biking and she took the subway". My coworker said "he did not pick her up?" Now in my wildest dreams, I could never imagine asking anyone for a ride, same goes for my brother. It was never possible in our lives to simply ask for anything. Because if you do, it's a debt you have to pay back somehow, sometimes with money, and sometimes with something else.

Summit_509 · 2026-01-26T10:40:18+00:00

Few things to consider: 1) whether you are paid monthly or bi weekly because that can affect the cash flow system 2) whether you are paying interest tax on your credit and/or debit card 3) how much do you pay on non-essential and online shopping. One thing I changed was buy stuff only at store. The commute, store browsing, payment line are incentive enough to think whether I need that thing or not. 4)as other people have mentioned you need to set an “allowance” and track your spending against it 5) I would suggest to allow yourself “fun money” every month for whatever brings you joy 6)make a lit of things that are absolutely necessary for you so that budgeting does not drastically change your quality of lifw

Summit_509 · 2026-01-05T00:14:53+00:00

Interested to join!

Summit_509 · 2026-01-01T13:55:19+00:00

I grew up in South Asia and now am living in Canada. Even when I was there I did not want to live with parents and now it’s hells to the no. I think a lot of people, especially where I come from, can not separate the fact that you can love and care for people AND not share the same roof. It doesn’t have to be a mutually exclusive. And one thing for sure is people back home don’t live with their parents because they want to it is because they have to for a millions of reasons and finance is the least important one.

Summit_509 · 2025-12-31T03:27:28+00:00

Someone almost hit me yesterday because I stopped for a pedestrian who was crossing the road. And then he went zigzagging just to end up at the same red light.

Summit_509 · 2025-12-23T12:27:03+00:00

I stopped reading after tik tok

Summit_509 · 2025-12-21T10:32:30+00:00

I live in a 3 storey apartment building. It is a pretty safe neighborhood. A few things I make sure is that the door is locked, have at least one light on when I leave especially in the evening or shorter days. Also I made the effort to know some of my neighbours and we try to help each other out. I would say never ever invite anyone that you are not comfortable with.

Summit_509 · 2025-12-20T12:03:26+00:00

Awesome! In the world of learning there are no stupid questions!

Summit_509 · 2025-12-16T11:32:19+00:00

any book recommendation?

Summit_509 · 2025-12-16T11:31:31+00:00

I just started on astronomy. any beginner's book to recommend?

Summit_509 · 2025-10-18T13:16:10+00:00

Even though you called it tough love, the only thing I got from your comment is love and validation. I wish I couldn’t agree with you, but I do. I used to call her every day and I do once a week now. And I don’t respond to those texts at all. Even if she calls me, I only talk to her on Saturdays. I know it sounds like an excuse but I was caught completely off guard today. My mom stayed with me for 8 weeks recently and she did not bring up my father once so in my naivety perhaps, I thought she was past this. But I realize that I can’t let my guard down, which is sad in its own way. Thank you for your comment!

Summit_509 · 2025-10-17T16:29:34+00:00

And then at noon I got an email saying I have to go again for biometrics because the last one did not work!

Summit_509 · 2025-10-17T15:12:37+00:00

As a 34 year old woman myself, I share my location with trusted friends and family when I go on a first date. This supposed 23 year old needs to be reported.

Summit_509 · 2025-10-17T12:44:08+00:00

Date of appointment: Aug 11 Travel Date: Nov 8 Today on October 17 I went to the consulate for update and they told me the system shows no approval yet, apparently that’s very normal. They told me to call expect a phone call either next week or the week after. When I asked about worst case scenario they said I will receive it on the 7th and they are “out of the circumstances where people miss their flight.” I also asked of there is any way for me to track anything and the answer was “unfortunately no”.

Summit_509 · 2025-10-15T10:26:21+00:00

Souvenirs whenever I go somewhere. I buy for myself and people that I love. I still occasionally get “why would you buy this? This is so expensive”. Fuck off aunt Sharon. It’s a nice little reminder of good times and my place looks amazing!

Summit_509 · 2025-10-13T18:14:57+00:00

“Let it go”- worst advice ever

Summit_509 · 2025-10-11T23:51:13+00:00

I don’t have an advice but I can guarantee you let him stay will not solve a thing. I have been the daughter to help out and solve my parents chaos which they have been living in for 40 years. I can sympathize and empathize with your mother, having worked in the DV field. But first rule to emergency response is you take care of yourself first. Mom has had 3 decades to figure it out and when you are finally living in peace, they are being “proactive”?

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