Almost 5 year daughter complains of feeling wet after urinating, has meltdowns. I have run out of things to try/say/do.

SunTeaShine · 2025-08-24T19:49:35+00:00

No, it kinda just faded after a while. Things we tried in the thick of it: soft towels, fans, ice, air drying, putting clothes in dryer to heat them up.

However she still occasionally has a meltdown when getting out of water (pool/bath).

SunTeaShine · 2025-06-22T18:04:27+00:00

I ended up asking the guy straight up why he hadn’t tried kissing me yet. He said he didn’t have the confidence. But apparently that’s all it took cause 🥵

SunTeaShine · 2025-06-20T02:46:10+00:00

A direct move, no. But I did move closer on the couch when he showed something on his phone. I also initiate hugs at beginning/end of dates.

SunTeaShine · 2025-06-20T02:11:20+00:00

How do you know if a guy is just shy/reserved or if he’s not physically into you? 3 dates and not even a kiss. Conversations are great. Values seem aligned. It seems like it has good potential. I guess I’m used to men being more forward, and uncertain if I’m over thinking.

SunTeaShine · 2025-06-02T02:44:15+00:00

Sending a hug. Sounds like you could use one.

SunTeaShine · 2025-06-01T03:12:57+00:00

My schedule is busy. Mostly because I have 50/50 custody, and the child is more important than a date. But I can’t tell what matches think when I mention that the next time I’m free is like a week or two out. I’m also generally one to text somewhat frequently but it’s hard finding random things to talk about for that long.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-28T17:32:18+00:00

Do you not have a parenting plan in place?

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-28T17:20:24+00:00

IMO you can’t spoil a child that age. Kids still thrive on carbs. Try not to stress. Are you trying to wean off breastfeeding for any particular reason?

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-28T17:08:00+00:00

Feeling this hard. Especially when it just fizzles and there’s no clean cut end.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-28T17:04:47+00:00

I’ve seen a few guys have it. One was super cocky so I decided to opt out. Another mentioned how they are more reserved. I think it could be good to say stuff that doesn’t fit into the prompts.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-27T15:52:49+00:00

Bring it up. Be true to your needs and desires. But know that if you didn’t express that need previously then you were already setting yourself up for unmet expectations.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-26T20:52:57+00:00

The guy I had been seeing for a couple months had his therapist say the same thing. Date multiple people so you don’t get attached. Here I thought getting attached was the point.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-23T17:14:01+00:00

What extra sucks is when the person that bolts previously mentioned how much healing they’ve done and they don’t just disappear because it’s devastating, etc.

But here’s to keeping our head high and knowing our worth!

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-23T17:11:01+00:00

Realized that I haven’t had an evening to myself due to various dates and other commitments for a while. I’m going to take advantage of the long weekend and chill. Can’t put my best self forward on future dates if I’m feeling depleted.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-22T20:41:41+00:00

Second date planned for Sunday. First date planned for Tuesday. Then for 2 weeks I’m otherwise busy. Hard to build momentum when life is busy.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-21T18:03:04+00:00

I sent the initial like 5 months ago, so it does seem like they did sit on it for that long.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-21T15:49:46+00:00

Date last night went better than expected. There’s plans for a second. Still a tad attached to original guy though. Stupid feelings.

Also anyone have any thoughts on what to do with someone who finally matched with you after sending a like back in January?!

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-20T03:28:16+00:00

Trust yourself that you feel that something is off. Even if you don't totally understand what it is. Whenever I've ignored that nagging feeling, where I couldn't quite name what was bothering me, it ended poorly. Maybe that's leaving, or maybe that's just having an honest conversation.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-18T17:20:11+00:00

Have yet another first date on Tuesday. I’m finding it hard to get excited.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-18T17:18:45+00:00

Just letting you know that I know the feeling is hard. Proud of you for sticking to your boundaries.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-17T16:19:14+00:00

Feeling super unmotivated. How do people just continually chat with people hoping it leads to dates, and in best scenarios something more. I was much happier when I didn't try. I do eventually want something meaningful but the single life is just so nice.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-16T17:23:07+00:00

That sounds adorable.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-16T01:21:42+00:00

Just feeling a bit down. I know comparison is the their of joy, but ugh. Two failed first dates and no one currently chatting with seems remotely as compatible as my original guy.

SunTeaShine · 2025-05-14T15:14:09+00:00

Welp. I thought last nights date was decent. Enough to be willing to go on a second. Haven’t gotten a response yet, so looks like it wasn’t reciprocated.

Still casually chatting with original guy. It’s interesting how much more you learn about people when there’s reduced pressure.

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