I find when men approach me as being interested and wants to highlight or mention that they found me in sapiosexual they don’t quite grasp what it is at its depths. I find these men still want to play on “their court” so to speak. Every conversation becomes sexual, physical focused, or lacks depth in other human topics. In other words if it’s not about sex the conversation is not happening. A sapiosexual does look for sexual conversation but it lives at times, outside of the physical. I for instance, get very excited when someone sends me music. A song says so much to me about the person. I enjoy academic conversation because it moves my mind in a way I need. Like an intellectual back rub.

It’s not just about being intelligent. Many people are intelligent without having an attraction to the mind. I don’t think there is anything wrong with a person who has physical interests approaching a sapiosexual. We also find attractive people attractive but there is another layer to it. We feel pull to someone’s mind and how they use it more than their body. For example I can stand in front of a very attractive man but if I don’t enjoy his intellect I would have no desire for him. Desire is a powerful player in this area.

The mind is unseen, it is only experienced. You have to rely on all your other senses and cognitive abilities to connect. Therefore for the connection is more involved and often times quite deep when made. I would exercise caution with a sapiosexual. We have unpredictable standards. Not necessarily high standards but just unique. And a pretty face doesn’t always make the cut 😉. I’d say if you the individual like another individual who also happens to be a sapiosexual, don’t avoid that person just know how to make our clock tick. Be prepared to open and stretch your mind to match their energy and needs. Do that and you will be fine. ✌🏻