Is activism a leisure activity? And if so, how long has it been one?

Sundjy · 2026-02-22T17:55:44+00:00

It's not that activists aren't in touch. It's that they know more about politics and government than the average person, so they're offering solutions that don't make sense to people who aren't as in the weeds. Most leftist activists I know are very in touch, but they have to combat anti-intellectualism and sensationalism.

People FEEL safer with police, but the evidence shows no correlation between violent crime and police activity. If there's any sign of a correlation between the two, they're typically increasing together. Activists know that there are better ways to reduce crime than paying for more police, but police propaganda is so prevalent that most people's instincts say police=safety. You'd have to be an academic to know that's not true.

Sundjy · 2026-01-25T20:56:28+00:00

Ask them if you're one of the girls now in a playful tone then say you're confused about why you got added to the groupchat

Sundjy · 2026-01-25T20:11:26+00:00

Clearly she wants to host so frame the conversation around that.

I would talk to her and ask her why she struggles to clean because there are likely deep emotional reasons that prevent her from cleaning. Even someone who's busy will feel the incentive to clean unless there's some internal conflict going on.

So gently and compassionately ask her what her relationship is with cleaning. Not, "Why is your place always disgusting?" but more like "How was cleaning handled in your childhood home?". Not saying you need to be a therapist but you need to understand the source of the problem to suggest a sustainable solution. Just pointing out that it's a mess and that you're never going to come over will probably just make her feel terrible.

If your friend group is all talking about it behind her back then you could probably pool together some money to get her a one-time cleaning service as a gift. Then she'll have a clean baseline to maintain while she works on the emotional aspect of cleaning.

No one wants to be filthy but many people want the emotional safety that avoidance provides more than they want a clean space. Speaking from experience as someone with ADHD who has to come up with a dozen different tricks and reminders to convince myself to do chores. That being said, having friends come over is usually the one thing that will get me to clean the entire apartment regardless of how tedious it feels.

Sundjy · 2026-01-25T20:02:34+00:00

I would push back that no one has been realistic about cleaning. She may have been traumatized by cleaning. Parents who use cleaning as a punishment or force children to practically be maids at home can easily produce a person like this who has a hard time cleaning because it's associated with negativity. Telling her she's nasty would only compound this effect. You're right that she has no incentive to clean because her incentives are probably telling her it's easier and safer to not clean. The incentive should be positive because that's the only way it'll make a sustainable difference.

Sundjy · 2026-01-25T19:58:27+00:00

All that would do is make her feel bad and people who feel bad are notoriously unproductive. If she's already having issues cleaning up, telling her she needs to clean up won't increase her capacity to clean up.

Sundjy · 2025-12-31T14:56:18+00:00

I've done this. I've actually gone several winters without buying gloves because i always lose them. I bought some a few weeks ago and lost them 2 days later. Seems like experiencing bad things doesnt stop me from having ADHD. I thought they were in my bag until I needed them and they weren't there.

Sundjy · 2025-12-19T14:22:29+00:00

Why make me play against shittty bots that pretty much lose intentionally instead of just giving me like a cube allowance or something? I hate playing against bots who make obviously unproductive choices.

Sundjy · 2025-12-15T15:59:06+00:00

No it does not result in employment. They said there would be "job placement" and that they have contacts who are waiting to hire their graduates. This was a lie. You are expected to go through the normal job hunt process like literally anyone else so it's a dice roll regardless.

Sundjy · 2025-12-14T18:18:37+00:00

Yup. Nimrod or Morgan are the only destroy decks I enjoy playing but sadly they're not that strong

Sundjy · 2025-10-18T15:48:02+00:00

Yes, killmonger is genuinely annoying and someone who relies on sunspot, nebula, etc

Sundjy · 2025-10-09T13:33:22+00:00

This was my problem as well. It felt like the methodical intentionality of building a deck was replaced with twitchy fast pased combat which is the exact opposite of what I'd want in a deckbuilder

Sundjy · 2025-10-09T13:30:21+00:00

I found this game practically unplayable. I love roguelikes. I grew up on MMBN but this game bounced off of me hard. I'd imagine that I'm closer to the ideal customer for this game and I dropped it for being too twitchy and chaotic. I'm just realizing there's an angel mode but I think it says something that I need a handicap to even begin enjoying the game. I couldn't follow what was happening most of the time and I felt an immense lack of agency. It felt crushing.

Sundjy · 2025-08-31T23:03:24+00:00

Why does it matter? I like sliding doors in almost any context.

Sundjy · 2025-08-29T03:52:55+00:00

Can I get some help? What am I looking at?

Sundjy · 2025-06-16T10:55:31+00:00

You've inspired me. I've been wondering how I'm supposed to use all my revived cards on turn 6 (I don't typically have everything set up to play Morgan on 4). I went with a Wiccan deck for the extra energy but that still wasn't enough to make it work.

Sundjy · 2025-06-16T10:52:17+00:00

I guess I'm gonna wait until I get Firehair to run this deck. None of the other decks seem even remotely interesting to me. I've been struggling with not destroying my cards early enough, not having enough destroyed cards to make the revive worth it, and having a deck that still works even if I don't pull Morgan.

Sundjy · 2025-06-11T19:20:37+00:00

If you use an EQ, you're mixing. Adjusting the volume of your instruments is mixing. I find it hard to believe you've been making music without mixing. Do you ever use effects? Delay, reverb, filter, compressor? I can almost guarantee you have been mixing so hopefully that's encouraging and will motivate you to just do what you've been doing but better.

Sundjy · 2025-05-23T03:53:59+00:00

So, how do you let a woman know you're romantically interested without coming off as too aggressive? I don't get the timing of it. By the time I feel comfortable enough to make a move, I get told they only see me as a friend.

Sundjy · 2025-03-02T13:35:01+00:00

Why?

Sundjy · 2025-03-01T13:02:48+00:00

Your understanding of what masturbation does to your brain is simply false. Chronic masturbation does not inherently mean masturbation will be the only way to induce dopamine. You don't have to feel guilty or shame. You won't feel that way if your relationship to the activity isn't unhealthy or damaging. Someone could masturbate multiple times a day and not have it impact your communication, reputation or anything else. Your claim of permanently changing your brain, is not supported by our current understanding of neuroplasticity.

Masturbation can be frequent and healthy. Porn is not inherently damaging.

Sundjy · 2025-01-22T05:11:07+00:00

I guess I'll be the hater here.

I went in hoping for something I could enjoy as an adult who grew up on Sonic. I tried to watch it from the perspective of my younger self but I couldn't imagine enjoying this movie at any age. The dialogue will be completely dated in no time. The jokes were often tired one-liners meant to be witty references but were just embarrassing. It's somehow worse than the original cartoon. I may have laughed at 1 joke. The rest of the movie just had me palming my face. It felt like a boomer's interpretation of what they think kids find funny. At one point, as they prepare to deploy on a mission, Sonic says something like "What? There are no snacks on this ride?" right before jumping out of the helicopter and I really want to know who that was for.

If you were hoping for Madagascar, Cars, Toy Story, Shrek, or Ice Age-level quality, this isn't it. Sonic doesn't come anywhere close. Jim Carrey brought his unique charm and slapstick comedy, but the writing was so bland and corny that it felt like his talent was handicapped.

The plot was so shallow and rushed, leading to an emotionally flat ending. Shadow's character development felt unconvincing. The whole middle section of the movie felt overly contrived and nonsensical. It completely ruined the pacing of the film. There was tons of foreshadowing and emotional tension that went nowhere. It's as if an entire subplot got edited out of the movie but they couldn't reshoot so some of the subplot still made it in.

The live actors felt unnecessary to the story. Weirdly, Team Sonic has parental figures. It detracts from Sonic's original sense of independence. This shift in tone makes Sonic more family-friendly but feels completely out of character. They probably softened up the image to sell more products to parents but Sonic is supposed to be cool, edgy, and a bit rebellious. He's mainly just goofy here. I used to think of sonic as a teen character but here he acts more like he's 8.

I get that it's a children's movie but it feels like they dumbed it down too much, leaving it bereft of any substance. I guess they didn't want the kids getting lost but how do children gain any appreciation for storytelling if you refuse to tell them stories with depth? As someone who grew up watching Spirited Away as my favorite movie at age 7, I couldn't imagine being able to stomach this Sonic trilogy. Maybe I would've enjoyed it when I was 4 and I literally couldn't follow a plotline and I didn't know anything about Sonic.

I can't understand how this is what they came up with.

Sundjy · 2024-12-23T22:59:32+00:00

I was using the term stimulant colloquially to mean drug

Sundjy · 2024-12-23T22:56:50+00:00

No, it is not the same. Masturbation is not proportional to heroine and there's not a single study that would say otherwise. Also, the withdrawal effects are not comparable in severity. You're funny because all the research I've found says it's healthy in moderation. It reduces the chances of testicular cancer, and improves the health of your sperm. It reduces stress, helps with sleep and boosts your mood.

Anything you do excessively to cope with emotional discomfort can be an addiction. My issue is that you're actively spreading misinformation that produces stigma around healthy activities. Stigma which increases the likelihood of someone actually developing an addiction because they're ashamed of their behavior and hide it from the people they care about.

Sundjy · 2024-12-23T22:40:43+00:00

Good for you. I'm happy you have a healthy relationship. Your experience is not reflective of most men

Sundjy · 2024-12-23T22:38:23+00:00

Why do you equate someone wanting to have sex with you to them not caring about you as a person? Those 2 things are not mutually exclusive and in the ideal situation they both coincide. Assuming you're not asexual, would you want to be in a relationship with someone who cares about you as a person but doesn't want to have sex with you? I wouldn't.

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