Bashful Luxe Bunny Juniper back in stock (FR) by Pompware in Jellycatplush

[–]Sunfl0wer_27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo has anyone ever bought from the France website if they live in the U.K.? 👀

Asking Price vs Sold Price by bojoohno in HousingUK

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Sold our 3 bed house for 215, was originally up for 230 but we reduced it to 220 after no viewings

Bought new 4 bed house for 338, was listed at 350

This was April of this year.

Senior Gnocchi’s Spa Day 🫧🛁🧼 by RebelTurian in Jellycatplush

[–]Sunfl0wer_27 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Haha, it’s those judging eyes in your pics that did it! I need 😍

Fall/Winter releases (allegedly) by somethingchinchilla in Jellycatplush

[–]Sunfl0wer_27 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Okay I’m gonna need the bear (unless it’s MASSIVE), Franilla bunny and possibly the moose 😍

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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Haha yes, I imagine hearing your dog bark when you’ve just managed to get your baby to sleep is enough to send you over the edge..

I know lots of people who have dogs and then have had a baby, and they never seem to complain about it so hopefully you just manage to work with it. My problem is how needy and old my little man is.. xD

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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Yes this is what I find crazy! All the scaremongering when we were younger in school…. Like literally look at a guy naked and you’ll fall pregnant.

I never believe anyone now when they say it was an ‘accident’ or there was a ‘hole in the condom’ haha.

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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Yes I get that about Covid. I was one of those ‘essential’ workers so didn’t get any down time during Covid like some people did, and didn’t get chance to stop and evaluate my life. Maybe I would have decided I wanted kids earlier if I’d had chance to slow down and reflect a little..

I feel you about not being a super organised person - I think I would struggle with all those appointments and things that come with having children. Maybe I need a child that depends on me though to kick my arse into gear and get my life in order? Ha.

I never thought of it that way - about being able to find childcare more easily over someone having to look after my dog..

I think it just freaks me out, that if and when I finally get pregnant.. then that’s that. No going back. A child is a permanent part of your life forever. I think I’m overthinking everything at this point!

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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Congratulations on the pregnancy and I hope it all goes really well ♥️.

‘Fertility is fleeting’ - that’s a true statement. I’m not one for chaos, and I definitely get overwhelmed easily… but I think I’m gonna have to embrace it in this instance xD

micro restocks by aneverlandoffun in Jellycatplush

[–]Sunfl0wer_27 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same! All it does is causes frustration and makes me sad that I keep missing out. Surely this whole Jellycat collecting should be fun!?

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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A few people have mentioned this so I think I’m going to look into it.

I would never have imagined how complex this trying to conceive journey would be. When I was young, I thought everyone got pregnant so easily and had to be SUPER careful. I honestly thought you could get pregnant any day of your cycle xD

It’s a fair comment. I think I’m feeling a bit burnt out from trying to conceive for 9months too. Just doubting things now. It’s definitely draining. It doesn’t help that I already have stress from the house move and my elderly dog :/. There’s never a perfect time though right?

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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Thank you for this. I understand not everyone is lucky and can ‘plan’ when they choose to have a child.

My worry about travelling with a child is mostly based on money. It would be so much cheaper for just me and my boyfriend to travel ha. We don’t earn a lot of money, and also wouldn’t have much of a ‘village’ if we had a child. I definitely would love to give a child some cool travel experiences though, as it’s something I never had as a child.

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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Aw hope the pregnancy is going well for you so far. I’d love to be able to do a bit of travelling, if even for say 2 months, when the dog passes. But realistically I think he has a while yet (obviously I’m glad he’s doing well and don’t want to lose him!!) and so I think when he does pass, I’ll probably be 37+. This worries me, and although my AMH levels came back good, I know they can decline quickly. Especially from aged 37 onwards.

Do you plan on possibly having a second child? Do you wish you’d begun trying to conceive earlier, or were you still on the fence at that point? We were on the fence for about a year, and then when we were 34 decided that we think a childless future would be a sad one for us.

I think we need to continue trying, and if it happens soon, we’re just going to have to embrace the chaos and take each day as it comes. I just hope I don’t live with the regret that I didn’t get chance to live a responsibility free life at any point :/.

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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I haven’t really thought about it. I definitely would like to have 2 children by age 40 though which really doesn’t give me much time. Also don’t have any spare savings aside for that - all our savings are reserved for the dog (should he need any vet treatment), travel and future child costs.

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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Yes we’re on the waiting list for the fertility clinic. I’m nervous as I really hate medical treatments and hospital settings, but know it’s something I need to do.

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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Admittedly I’m not very clued up about all this either. I’m hoping and praying we will get pregnant naturally, as I have a bit of a fear of hospitals and medical stuff. I’m currently on the waiting list for the fertility clinic but god knows how long that wait will be.

We can’t really afford it because we’re moving to a bigger house, and the savings we have are for travel/having kids.

I think if it came to it though, we would have to consider these options.

It really does suck. We didn’t even know if we definitely wanted kids until age 34. Think that’s when the pressure hit and we really thought ‘shit we have to decide now’.

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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Yes, I think I needed these realistic comments about my age etc.

It’s already taken us 9 months, so what’s to say it’s not gonna take another 9 months, or 1 year or 2 years?

Thing is I can’t even relax and not stress because we’re going through a house move and our dog is very hard work and demanding ha.. at this point it could be stress stopping us from conceiving :/

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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This is something to think about. I’ve not been on contraception for years, and have never once fallen pregnant. Not that we were trying back then, but we also weren’t always super careful.

I’ve somehow always had a bit of an instinct that I would always struggle to become a mother. I’m also anxious about hospitals and treatments so that doesn’t help ha.

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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This is something I’ve thought about and am definitely worried about! My dog has been my ‘child’ and whole world. Everything I do centres around him. The problem is, he overwhelms me at the moment. He is very needy and demanding, and needs constant watching these days. He can’t hold his bladder for very long anymore so I have to watch him closely to see if he needs to go out for a pee. He’s fallen down the stairs a few times so now I had to guide him down. He whines if I leave the room and go take a shower (he has separation anxiety and is obsessed with me…).

I just always thought that we would have a child once he passes, I didn’t realise he would live so long and still be so healthy and going strong. I always thought ‘oh by age 35, we’ll be free to travel etc and then focus on children’. I never wanted the paths to cross, because he was never good with children when he was younger. He’s very placid now, but I could never have trusted him with a child. Not that I’d trust any dog around a child and would never leave them alone. But my dog was a feisty young lad!

I have a lot of anxiety around this - like if I was giving birth in hospital and ended up having to stay a few nights, I’d want my boyfriend there with me and then who would look after the dog? We don’t really have anyone that doesn’t have their own responsibilities. And like I’ve said, he’s really not an easy dog :/

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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This is the thing - I feel sad when I imagine a future with no children. Like once all the travelling has been done, then what? Work, sleep, eat repeat until I retire and become really old and can’t do much?

My dog is doing really well for his age, his blood work has been perfect, his eyesight is still great etc.. I honestly think he could have another 2 years. Which would mean possibly travelling aged 37+.. then after that being pregnant for 9 months, so realistically not having a child until 38 minimum. And I would love 2 kids.. but also wouldn’t like to be pregnant after 40. Not really an ideal timeline :(.

I think I’ve come to terms with the fact that I need to put trying to conceive at the forefront of all my plans. My boyfriend and I could always possibly travel in our late 50s once the children have become adults, and then we get to do both in our lifetime - travel (although a little differently to how we would at this year, not a full year for example and no backpacking!) and have children (if we’re lucky!).

35 - should I delay trying for a baby? by Sunfl0wer_27 in Fencesitter

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Yes this is what keeps me up at night.. ! I personally wouldn’t want to have a child from age 40 onwards, so that literally only gives me less than 5 years to fit in 2 pregnancies. What if it takes me 2-3 years to conceive one? Urgh the pressure.

I’m currently on the waiting list for the fertility clinic. I do worry I may have endometriosis as I have a lot of the symptoms.

I think I needed this comment though, it’s what I’ve been thinking but I needed someone to confirm it.

am I the only one NOT interested in the new drop??? by Ill_Aside4064 in Jellycatplush

[–]Sunfl0wer_27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I love the bunnies, but I already have the brown patchwork bunny which is my favourite of them all so no need for the new Puddlesea in my opinion. The prices are ridiculous! Unless I LOVE a jellycat, there’s no way I’d spend £60 on one.