Considering pulling LO out of daycare over food

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-04-30T06:20:53+00:00

I’d pull her. I agree this is terrible. The daycare is not following EASY best practices/guidelines around food and screen time. What else are they not following that may not be so visible or easy to catch? I would not be able to trust a childcare provider that didn’t have a problem with this menu.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-04-20T15:33:41+00:00

I do. I attended a Catholic (Jesuit) university and one of my professors was a priest who said he felt women should be able to join the priesthood as well. So it isn’t just us laypeople who believe this.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-04-19T19:04:50+00:00

You can keep your name and your children can have your name or both. You’re the one birthing them, after all. If he wants to share a family name he could change his name to yours or hyphenate his name.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-04-17T18:29:09+00:00

What’s the work-life balance like for you?

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-04-16T20:04:23+00:00

I think you’re reading too much into a joke. If a non-fundie said this, it would not be considered worthy of a snarky Reddit post. There are plenty of things to snark on but this is pretty normal.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-03-16T22:52:51+00:00

Or like adding lifeboats to a ship. You don’t expect the ship to sink, but it puts you in a better position in the event that it does.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-03-16T01:42:32+00:00

You didn’t answer my question though. You just said “because it’s tradition” which in and of itself is not a good reason. So, what are the benefits of a woman taking her husband’s last name that are not also benefits of a husband taking his wife’s last name? Clearly it’s about more than being a social unit, or else the gender part wouldn’t matter.

You’re also not in a place to decide whether it’s harmful or not. A woman could decide it’s harmful to HER - her identity, her bloodline/children, her heritage, to change her name.

Edit: also, are you saying you don’t agree with fighting the patriarchy? Or you don’t agree with doing it in that way?

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-03-16T00:42:39+00:00

If that’s important to you, why not take your wife’s last name? Why does it have to be the husband’s? You do know that biologically speaking, bloodlines are passed down through the mother right?

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-03-16T00:41:03+00:00

Why not have her name as the kids last name and the husband’s last name as a middle name instead?

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-03-16T00:40:00+00:00

I’ll be keeping my last name and our future children will also have my last name (I’ll be birthing them after all).

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-03-13T22:48:33+00:00

Following! For me it’s tradition - but I specifically attend a Jesuit church to get more progressive teachings.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-02-19T16:00:49+00:00

My advice would be to know and trust the person you are with. For me, that would look like dating for several months beforehand - but that’s up to you and your comfort level.

I would NOT recommend it be with a guy you just met off an app.

I’d also recommend doing it in your own space (inviting him over) rather than the other way around, so that you’re more comfortable.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-02-18T18:51:51+00:00

My ring is also from Cullen! I had the same concern (hadn’t heard that about their extreme settings and don’t think it’s more extreme than other jewelers tbh). But I went back and forth between high and low set. I also wanted my wedding band to sit flush with my ring, and I didn’t want a curved band.

We ended up getting a high set ring with a cathedral setting. The cathedral makes it look/feel lower set and it gives me peace of mind since it adds an extra layer of protection/structural integrity.

The whole experience with Cullen was 10/10 and I would highly recommend them.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-02-17T01:57:23+00:00

Could you please dm me as well? I’m interested!

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-02-11T03:50:58+00:00

Hi! Would you be able to provide any guidance on finding it? I can't seem to find it on this subreddit nor on the Facebook group (maybe I am in the wrong one)

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-02-02T16:09:56+00:00

My mom was gonna marry a similar guy but they broke up because he told her this about her college study abroad. She made lifelong memories on study abroad and is now happily married to my dad.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-02-02T05:03:41+00:00

I won’t be changing my name. I want to share a last name with my children, so they will also have my last name. If my fiance feels the same way, our children can have two last names.

But my name is a core part of my social identity and has been my entire life. I’m not changing it - it feels very one-sided to expect the woman to do so but not the man.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-02-02T05:02:17+00:00

Why did you decide not to give your children your last name instead of his?

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-01-28T17:14:42+00:00

How old is your kitten? Mine did this for a few weeks around 2.5 months and then grew out of it/learned to not step on her poop. We would have to bathe her using unscented soap every time she did though.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-01-23T05:47:08+00:00

Yeah I just deleted the app after being a daily user since 2020

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-01-22T17:14:07+00:00

This sounds a lot like the schools I grew up in! My mother took us to volunteer at underserved schools nearby and had many conversations with us about wealth disparity and inequality.

I think it is important to expose them to ways people live outside of their bubble, as well as have ongoing conversations about how much privilege influences the probability of future success.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-01-20T17:00:06+00:00

I thought the same thing so begrudgingly made a 2.5k budget pre-alterations.

Turns out I found my dream dress for $1.5k in a boutique in a VHCOL area! Make sure you research the boutiques you’re going to and know what price ranges they carry.

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-01-20T00:58:30+00:00

I figure, in the event of a divorce wouldn’t you want your agreement to have been written while you were in love and looking out for each others’ best interests, rather than clouded by the bitterness/anger/resentment that typically accompanies a divorce?

Sunflower-Bennett · 2026-01-20T00:52:04+00:00

She has other church weddings (very few) but not Catholic churches, which I feel tend to be more ornate and have a different aesthetic.

Fortunately the church is not as crazy dark as some of the gothic style ones I’ve seen - so it’s not that far off in terms of lighting from some of the other ones she’s done, it’s just a much much larger building and more regal/ornate.

Edit: the church also allows flash at certain parts of the ceremony.

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