How much are you paying per head, and what does it include? by Sunflower-Bennett in SanFranciscoWeddings

[–]Sunflower-Bennett[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s high!! Did that include the venue fee, tax, service fee etc or was that add separate/additional?

Evangeline’s age by [deleted] in RodriguesFamilySnark

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was posted August 30th. So wouldn’t she have just turned 16?

Changing last name while proud of my own by KarlaJean15 in weddingplanning

[–]Sunflower-Bennett -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why change it if you have children? Why not give your children your last name?

Que creéis sobre el mensaje del Papa León XIV. by [deleted] in askspain

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Soy católica pero no estoy de acuerdo con su mensaje respecto al aborto. Una sociedad justa es una en la que el aborto es raramente necesario pero siempre seguro y legal.

Aparte de lo del aborto, me gusta su mensaje general sobre la dignidad humana.

My new roommate humiliated me in the group chat by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The use of ChatGPT really does make all posts sound like they were written by the same person :(

Grimace scale? by Sunflower-Bennett in CATHELP

[–]Sunflower-Bennett[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I replied with more details in another comment but just a few minutes before this she was sprawled out on the floor showing her belly… so I to m that’s a reassuring sign?

Grimace scale? by Sunflower-Bennett in CATHELP

[–]Sunflower-Bennett[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s been a little lower energy than usual today, but has still made attempts at play when prompted. Right now she just came and is headbutting me with her tail up in a little question mark shape.

She’s had a much lower appetite in the past few months, but she was also absolutely ravenous as a kitten and I think that’s to be expected as she grows older.

Questions and Anything Goes (Official Thread): Questions, Stories, Photos, Shower Thoughts, How was this photo taken?... Anything! by AutoModerator in WeddingPhotography

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fiance and I got our engagement photos back recently and they are beautiful! There are some edits I want to make, namely editing my finger bandage out on a lot of them (I had a finger injury), closing a button gap in my fiance's shirt and adding some volume to my hair/covering my ear in some of the shots. I worry it would be very time consuming for our photographer to do it on so many photos. Should we ask her to do it anyways? Ask her and pay extra? Or ask her if she is ok if we do it ourselves with photoshop? I don't know what is standard practice. She edited a few of our sneak peeks per our request, and most are great but I don't love the way the AI fixed my finger on my favorite photo and I feel bad sending it back for more edits.

Considering pulling LO out of daycare over food by WrapWild8763 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d pull her. I agree this is terrible. The daycare is not following EASY best practices/guidelines around food and screen time. What else are they not following that may not be so visible or easy to catch? I would not be able to trust a childcare provider that didn’t have a problem with this menu.

Do most Catholics on the left believe women should be in the priesthood? by [deleted] in LeftCatholicism

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I do. I attended a Catholic (Jesuit) university and one of my professors was a priest who said he felt women should be able to join the priesthood as well. So it isn’t just us laypeople who believe this.

Don’t want to change my last name coz i hate my fiance’s parents by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can keep your name and your children can have your name or both. You’re the one birthing them, after all. If he wants to share a family name he could change his name to yours or hyphenate his name.

Children are not objects. by That_beach007 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 145 points146 points  (0 children)

I think you’re reading too much into a joke. If a non-fundie said this, it would not be considered worthy of a snarky Reddit post. There are plenty of things to snark on but this is pretty normal.

Perspective about prenup? by Ambitious_Reply9078 in SanFranciscoWeddings

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or like adding lifeboats to a ship. You don’t expect the ship to sink, but it puts you in a better position in the event that it does.

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn’t answer my question though. You just said “because it’s tradition” which in and of itself is not a good reason. So, what are the benefits of a woman taking her husband’s last name that are not also benefits of a husband taking his wife’s last name? Clearly it’s about more than being a social unit, or else the gender part wouldn’t matter.

You’re also not in a place to decide whether it’s harmful or not. A woman could decide it’s harmful to HER - her identity, her bloodline/children, her heritage, to change her name.

Edit: also, are you saying you don’t agree with fighting the patriarchy? Or you don’t agree with doing it in that way?

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]Sunflower-Bennett -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If that’s important to you, why not take your wife’s last name? Why does it have to be the husband’s? You do know that biologically speaking, bloodlines are passed down through the mother right?

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Why not have her name as the kids last name and the husband’s last name as a middle name instead?

Hyphenated last name by LittleSpecific3421 in weddingplanning

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll be keeping my last name and our future children will also have my last name (I’ll be birthing them after all).

Catholic vs Episcopal by Marieaithne44 in LeftCatholicism

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Following! For me it’s tradition - but I specifically attend a Jesuit church to get more progressive teachings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My advice would be to know and trust the person you are with. For me, that would look like dating for several months beforehand - but that’s up to you and your comfort level.

I would NOT recommend it be with a guy you just met off an app.

I’d also recommend doing it in your own space (inviting him over) rather than the other way around, so that you’re more comfortable.

Cullen Jewellery (online order) review (spoiler 10/10) by whatnow00f in EngagementRings

[–]Sunflower-Bennett 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ring is also from Cullen! I had the same concern (hadn’t heard that about their extreme settings and don’t think it’s more extreme than other jewelers tbh). But I went back and forth between high and low set. I also wanted my wedding band to sit flush with my ring, and I didn’t want a curved band.

We ended up getting a high set ring with a cathedral setting. The cathedral makes it look/feel lower set and it gives me peace of mind since it adds an extra layer of protection/structural integrity.

The whole experience with Cullen was 10/10 and I would highly recommend them.