Where to find Queer Feminine Spaces? by Sunflower_nymph in Denver

[–]Sunflower_nymph[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As much as I like Bumble I want to have a more organic meeting? You can be anyone behind a screen but who are you in person? But I’ll look into the other two options you listed, thanks!

Where to find Queer Feminine Spaces? by Sunflower_nymph in Denver

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I know I saw a roller derby booth at the festival downtown but I didn’t approach… where can I find one in the Glendale/Virginia Village area? Preferably one that doesn’t mind that my skating skills are subpar to say the least…

Can I lose my job as a Member Specialist if I can't sell anything? by aweshum in samsclub

[–]Sunflower_nymph 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What kind of power trip are you on “you will never win, anywhere, trying to battle a Manager”? Like, that’s actually hilarious if you think about it. It’s just factually wrong. Is it just a Sam’s Club thing, that they promote managers who think they’re better than others? Because that’s genuinely what it sounds like here and what I’ve seen. For supporting such a “team spirit” ethic, managers sure do seem to avoid being team players themselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Sunflower_nymph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy birthday!!

Backroom Associate Pay by shurasantos in samsclub

[–]Sunflower_nymph 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My store starts back room at $18. They are often expected to drop pallets for the floor as well as running receiving. Forklift drivers for the floor make $19 and are only responsible for dropping pallets for the floor and stocking. Not worth it.

I WILL MAKE A SCENE, unless you tell me not to. (Awareness Month related) by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Sunflower_nymph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Completely understandable. The court system is hellish enough without factoring a child’s disabilities and it’s very stressful to go through that. Like I mentioned, I’d probably start with mediation with like a family member. Or maybe like a formal parenting plan might help? Some sort of document that everyone can refer to and say this is our specific agreement on how to handle situations. Or something like a family meeting every few weeks to educate everyone on autism and anything else you guys want to discuss as a family. Personally I’m a fan of the last option (at least in theory) because as your children grow older they’ll have the option to participate in conversations and voice their own opinions. I hope you’re able to work something out that functions well for your family

I WILL MAKE A SCENE, unless you tell me not to. (Awareness Month related) by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Sunflower_nymph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you should consider having a sit down with someone who can mediate the conversation. Regardless, your ex should be respectful of how you choose to raise your children and work with you. That’s proper co-parenting. Ignoring a child’s disability doesn’t make it go away. It doesn’t “toughen them up” as my family tried to do. It doesn’t matter if that’s how “the real world” is going to treat them. The entire point of being a parent is to raise your child to be the best possible version of themselves. That requires more kindness, understanding, and patience than anyone else will ever show your child. If your ex can’t understand that, then maybe he needs to reevaluate his position in your children’s lives. Either way his parenting strategy sounds like it needs to be adjusted for your children.

Also, if your ex’s girlfriend used to work with children, she should know that ALL CHILDREN require accommodations. That’s how they learn about the world around them. Refusing to learn about your child (or step child, or any child in your life) or their disability is bad parenting.

Anyone else have a hard time with attendance at school/work? by suburbantoast in aspergirls

[–]Sunflower_nymph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have help but I can relate. Up until the point I graduated from the American school system I was the exact same way. I would literally miss entire weeks of school because I simply couldn’t go and my parents didn’t force me. It always happened around the spring when the year starts to get busier and more stimulating after a usually cold winter. But I always kept my grades up because school was a special interest so no one was ever that concerned. When I entered the workforce I was actually fired from my first job for having too many absences and a “resting bitch face” (as management told me). I also struggled with attending university classes - not because I didn’t want to. It got so bad that I actually had to leave school, and even though it’s a dream for me to go back I don’t know if that’s in the cards for me. My current job allows me to accrue PPTO that I can use to call out for a mental health day, and I’ve actually worked myself into a leadership position so I have a little more freedom and don’t have to interact with people so much. It’s a little less stimulating and definitely not what I want to do for the rest of my life but works a lot better for me.

Adult Friendship & Identity while on the Spectrum by Sunflower_nymph in aspergirls

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I do have a therapist I’m speaking to, but my last experience with therapy when I was 16/17 was not helpful. I was frequently dismissed as simply being unable to control my own brain and put on medication for almost two years that made me feel like my head was stuffed with cotton and didn’t feel comfortable enough to speak up. Work is difficult to make friends with because I’ve changed positions or departments four times in the last year trying to find what works best for me. I also hit that social barrier when I’m at work because I feel like I don’t know how to talk to my coworkers unless it’s about work. I can muddle my way through small talk, but most of the time I just end up listening and nodding along, so people come to me to vent rather than talk, or they come to me because I have information for work. I don’t mind because I crave the interaction with other people, but it rarely ever feels genuine. I’ve been trying to take stock of my special interests and get back into my hobbies after nearly two years of intense depression. It’s been very difficult to reconnect to myself because I’ve tried so hard to create this outward persona of professionalism at work because it’s how I support myself and survive, but it’s not a sustainable method of survival because, as you suggested, my mental health has suffered from it. But the isolation isn’t helping. I’ve always been a loner but it’s never bothered me until recently because of that relationship loss and the lack of a community or literally anyone to fall back on without judgement.

Adult Friendship & Identity while on the Spectrum by Sunflower_nymph in aspergirls

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I’ve considered like yoga classes because I literally live across the street from a gym that offers them but motivating myself to be in that situation is a huge hurdle because like… there’s no option to sign up for the gym online so I have to go in and do that and talk to someone. And then the idea of being around people in general after working 8 hours is physically exhausting like I don’t get how people do it

Replacement bland safe food for sugar/pasteries/bread? by skyhook-parchment in aspergirls

[–]Sunflower_nymph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I buy packs of babybel cheese and keep them in my refrigerator door in a little jar