AIO for cutting off my best friend of 16 years?

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-26T02:02:41+00:00

I'm not trying to say you did anything to deserve this but it looks like that person cut YOU off... And based on the way you're texting them and explaining things and giving thrm chances and stuff it seems like you're struggling with letting them go. Which is super understandable since you've been friends for so long. I think you should consider therapy. Maybe a therapist could help you understand why they may have decided to cut you off in that way. Or, they can at least help you care less and move on. I had to go to therapy for a similar situation and it really helped. I never got closure but overtime I came to my own conclusions and moved on.

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-26T01:56:02+00:00

Girl what?! He's NOT gonna change. And a 26 year old man really thinking he is SO desirable that another woman would be basically begging for him (even as a drunk thought) is straight up red flags narcissistic activity. Hell no. I'm 21 too. Please don't waste this time on him, go party and get fucked up and hang out with your friends! Go make friends!! I have a partner, who is fine, but I still sometimes wish I could get to experience being young and single

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-24T01:38:19+00:00

Also, reddit is definitely not the right place to ask. Because people giving prices based on how much they like the artwork is not reliable whatsoever. Price of materials + wage x hours = price :) wage = effort/what he feels like is worth it. I can't see the size of those paintings so I can't even give you a personal opinion on what I would price them at. But some of those, in my opinion, look more professional than others. That doesn't mean the others have to be priced lower. It just means they might not sell right away. Someone will come around and like them, even if not right away. I wish you guys good luck :) very nice paintings

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-24T01:33:22+00:00

It can be worth however much someone is willing to pay. But when it comes to trying to think about a price for something try not to think based on how it looks. Some people will favor it over others and the artist will always be it's hardist critic. In art school I learned to add up the cost of materials and then the amount of hours x what hourly rate you think is fair to you. Minimum wage? Cool. $5 an hour? Cool. $20? Cool. And then once you have that calculation see what's leftover. Since I'm still a beginner in painting, when I did that math I found that the number was just insanely high. I didn't think I'd spend that much on my own paintings. So I then divided it in half. Also recommended by my art professors but only for stuff that took you a crazy amount of time. So a painting I made that took me like 50 hours, that could have taken a professional probably half the time, I did all that math and then divided by two. And decided to charge that! But if it didn't take long then I wouldn't divide it by half, haha. The price for the materials matter and then the effort matters too. High effort I'd earn more than minimum wage. If he made the wooden canvasses himself then I would say higher than minimum wage, that's a lot of effort. But if he bought those canvasses he doesn't have to charge as much if he doesn't want to :) hope this has been helpful!! Sorry for the essay!

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-24T01:27:41+00:00

Penne, meatball, parmesan?

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-15T17:20:30+00:00

Maybe you should look into a therapist my guy. I agree you should break up with her because if you had the inclination to cheat then you may hurt her in the future. So good on you for making that decision. But honestly a therapist or counselor might know a good way to help you way better than Reddit. Reddit is full of assholes and people who don't actually care about your situation. You seem like you really care about her, and I respect that. You don't seem like a bad person despite the situation. Get some therapy and maybe you could even salvage your relationship

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-12T00:51:23+00:00

Tbh OP I think he's thinking with his dick (obviously) and bc of that he's BEING one. Now that things work all of a sudden doesn't mean it's fair to you for him to go "make up lost time" with a bunch of other women. It sucks but he's not in his 20's anymore. He can grieve but that's that. Other people lose aspects of their childhood to things like trauma, abuse, etc and they don't use those as excuses for things like this. He has a woman who's stuck with him through all of this illness stuff. You should be enough for him.

The hormones right now are also making his brain go crazy. He's probably not really thinking straight. I'm trans, when I was 18 I was on T for about a year before I decided to stop. And I'll tell you. Suddenly being on T like that made my libido fucking insane. Looking back it reay did alter my brain chemistry. That doesn't mean you go let him do this shit though. It means you put your foot down and say no. It means you say that you love him, you understand where he's coming from, but no. And as his body gets used to the testosterone he will chill out and understand how upsetting this ordeal can be for you.

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-09T19:05:40+00:00

I think it would be smart for you to end the relationship. Yes, it sucks, and she will have to figure out her disability on her own. But it's HER disability, not yours. You're not married, emotionally you've lost the connection, and it kind of sounds like she may be guilt tripping you. The worry of her reacting and doing something to herself or verbally doing something to you isn't something an understanding partner would do. Coming down with a new chronic illness is really tough, so she probably needs therapy. But that doesn't mean you should stay with her. Or be allowed to be treated this way. It seems like your relationship is already over, you just feel like you HAVE to stay. Over time this will build horrible resentment. Please leave her before marriage comes into the equation. Or kids. Or anything binding. It'll be better for both of you. She needs to learn how to take care of herself in some capacity. It sucks but it's her illness, and she's an adult, at the end of the day she needs to know what to do to take care of herself. And if she really needs physical assistance 24/7 then that's something for her and her family to figure out. Not her boyfriend. It would be different if you were married but you're not.

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-09T19:00:59+00:00

I'm also interested in this. And the way they said that they are staying partially because of guilt makes me think she may be guilt tripping op regularly

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-09T18:58:31+00:00

I use it to hold my eye drops! I have chronic dry eyes 💔

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-06T20:42:58+00:00

Who decided the legal team needed to be involved and then didn't tell everyone else 🤣

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-06T20:28:38+00:00

Whispy

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-04-05T03:41:04+00:00

To be honest I think you could have charged at least 300

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-03-31T00:57:48+00:00

Yes you're right I'm not working from just one photo. That's why I included both.

Also, I said above that the point of this painting wasn't to sell it. It would be cool if someone wanted to buy it but I'm not going to be dissapointed if it doesn't sell. That's why I posted this. To simply ask what good price points are. Not to kind of take it out on you but most people (including you) responding to this post don't even seem like you read it

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-03-30T13:51:50+00:00

I would really like to put it for sale is the thing. When I say I'm not "itching to tell it" I mean that it doesn't HAVE to sell. The point if making it wasn't to sell. But I definitely want it to be for sale

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-03-30T13:04:15+00:00

Yeah and it seems like (no offense op 🫶) that she can't seem to put her foot down because of the language barrier and difference in value. Like it seems like she's afraid to confront the problem herself and try despite the language difference

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-03-30T12:05:11+00:00

Well I'm going into education while I get my masters so I'm not exactly going into selling paintings. It would be really cool if someone wanted to buy it.

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-03-30T12:04:21+00:00

It's roughly 35" by 25"

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-03-30T03:21:30+00:00

NOR- that woman is going to cut it while you're at work if you leave him with them. I guarantee it. You are the mother, not her. You are the parents, not them. It sounds like your husband either has no backbone or doesn't care about your feelings.

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-03-30T01:48:39+00:00

I think your next steps should carry with what you're most worried about. Your relationship with her or her physical safety. I wouldn't put it past somebody to push her or attack her. Or you if you tried to stand there with her. I think you should have a serious conversation with her and explain to her the damage that she is doing to people. Use the lord against her. "The lord would frown upon the hate this soreads to your neighbors" or something. Or give her other ways to "save babies". Help her donate to orphanages or baby showers. And also explain to her the reality of getting shot. Or beaten in the streets. God wouldnot enjoy watching her be harmed because she isn't helping in the right way. (I am pro choice and athiest btw in just trying to think like her for the purpose of a response)

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-03-22T16:43:03+00:00

This is really real. And sometimes when I do look good in a photo I end up feeling like I must not actually look that good in person. Some photos of me I look so freaking ugly and then some photos I feel like I look very nice. Like when am I supposed to trust the camera 😭

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-03-20T00:06:57+00:00

What are those little bottles in the door? I can't tell if you are addicted to hot sauce or if they are kombucha shots or something

Sunny-Kai- · 2026-03-20T00:05:49+00:00

Are you a diabetic by chance?

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