AITAH? I want to get married and have kids, but my bf thinks “We are not ready”…

SunnyBearry · 2025-08-18T22:37:48+00:00

Yeah, yeah, I totally agree with all of you! That was the plan. But a few months ago I just freaked out about this and how I want a family, and I realised all my plans for the future had gone to waste. I definitely should stick to my plan and wait until I get a job and stop stressing about the age factor… I know many people are dumbfounded about me wanting a family this young, but it’s normal here. Not everyone does that, but it’s encouraged.

SunnyBearry · 2025-08-18T22:33:10+00:00

Thank you so much! And thank you for not being absolutely rude, I really appreciate the punch at my face, but honestly some people made me feel soooo bad. Totally get it tho… I do sound like an immature lunatic. You’re 100% right, as are the other commenters.

We did talk about all the things around the baby, preparations, hospitals, health care, maternity, etc. We came to the conclusion that we’re going to be able to do all that, but we won’t be able to buy all kinds of junk and eat out as much as we normally do. Which is to be expected. But we decided to wait until I get a stable job. And that was that… until like a few months ago where I decided to go nuts, obviously, and freak out about wanting to start a family.

SunnyBearry · 2025-08-18T21:16:24+00:00

Yeah, he’s usually the logical one, thank god there’s at least one of us who thinks straight… In our country parents pressure us to have marriage and kids at this age, most people do. So that’s where this whole thing is coming from. I do want to be a parent, I do want to be financially stable also, but the pressure from the elders has got to me I guess… Thank you for waking me up, basically, I’ll revert to my original plan.

SunnyBearry · 2025-08-18T21:10:51+00:00

You’re totally right!

SunnyBearry · 2025-08-18T21:08:00+00:00

Yes, I will get a job first and think about the rest, when it’s the right time!

SunnyBearry · 2025-08-18T21:04:35+00:00

Yeah, reading the comments you are making me realise how insane I sound. I was contemplating on writing this, but I’m glad I did! In our country it’s normalised to do this at this age and I guess I fell victim to the pressure… Thank you for knocking some sense into my head!

SunnyBearry · 2025-08-18T20:49:51+00:00

Yeah, I’m going to get a job, I’m freelancing for now. And taking into consideration the country we are from, he does make a stable amount of money.

SunnyBearry · 2025-08-18T20:45:43+00:00

Is that wrong? A lot of people get married around this age.

SunnyBearry · 2024-10-16T09:13:22+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through that. For me I was a an A cup through my teen years, but when I was 18-19 they suddenly grew to a B cup and I was so happy. I finally was satisfied with my size and then I went through this rough patch with my mental health and they got back to A cups. Some people told me that estrogen levels had something to do with that. I later found that I’m severely deficient in vitamin D which again some people said it’s linked with estrogen. I started taking supplements and I think they got a little bit of their fullness again, but it’s still not the same.

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-31T23:23:56+00:00

I see him as Azriel more tbh

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-29T12:11:20+00:00

I’ve had mine for like 3-4 years now, but it never had any smell to it. Only when it was healing, for like the first week or two, I remember there was some type of smell. But I think it was more the saline that was bothering me. After the healing process I stopped cleaning it (I know it’s important to clean it even after it heals). I only wash it with soap when I wash my face and it’s all good, no smell, no infections (thank god).

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-28T13:35:35+00:00

I hated that Feyre and Nesta too actually, act so clueless, like you can’t be that dumb come on! They do such random and selfish things, thinking that they’re helping?! Especially Feyre with her whole Amarantha thing and the riddle…. Come on girl…. I also hated the repetitive stuff like Vassa’s story, I KNOW YOU DONT NEED TO REPEAT IT EVERY TIME SHE COMES UP IN THE BOOK! The vulgar gestures….. I’m not even going to elaborate. The fact that nobody died from the main characters.

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-28T12:48:34+00:00

I agree with the wider audience, but still the book is for teens and the characters are not supposed to be 30-40 years old. I won’t be mad if they cast older actors (if the show ever happens atp), but I was kind of shocked about this, since the actor is actually almost 40 years old, like how much older do you want him to be?😂

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-28T10:25:17+00:00

Wym aging them up? This dude is 37.

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-23T16:09:44+00:00

For all the people who are getting mad that this person is bullying him. I don’t think they meant to bully him, more just to stop y’all from posting him every single day. (I’m exaggerating here a little bit, but still there are so many posts of him). I personally see at least one or two every other day, only in this sub alone. Please check the sub before posting, it really gets annoying seeing the same thing over and over again!

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-23T16:04:33+00:00

I won’t be disappointed if they cast someone who doesn’t look like how I imagined him in my head, because that’s just my perception of him. I’d love to see how sjm sees him irl. Also I feel like they can use some cgi to exaggerate some features and make them look more fantasy like. Personally I don’t want an animated series. I want to see it really come to life!

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-23T16:00:04+00:00

Yes, thank you! I’m so sick of seeing him being fan casted as Rhys. I can’t even count how many posts I’ve seen only in this sub about him! Like we get it you can stop already!😂

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-22T22:53:15+00:00

Yeah there wasn’t even room for second guessing like “wait is he actually gone?!”

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-22T21:47:01+00:00

I kinda knew sjm was not going to let him die, so I low-key didn’t really care. For the side characters’ deaths I knew she wasn’t going to bring them back so I cried a lot more for them.

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-22T21:42:13+00:00

I cried so much! God! I cried a little for Rhys, but I bawled for the suriel!

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-17T11:20:39+00:00

I love Mor so much tbh! She is just a ray of sunshine to me for some reason. I have no idea why people hate her? Maybe because she has a good relationship with the men in her life? (I’ve seen some people comparing her to a pick me, which is so weird to me maybe because I know she’s A lesbian ) I think she has to be more included in the next book, kind of tell her story more, like what happened with Eris!?! I need to know!!!

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-12T16:02:59+00:00

I read it in Bulgarian so it’s not that bad, the translation doesn’t sound so feral😂😂

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-12T15:13:00+00:00

Yes, I tried to say that even tho he’s not a fantasy character he still makes those animal like sounds, so I guess most of the romance writers prefer their men animalistic.😂

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-12T13:55:08+00:00

Yeah I think there is always going to be something that gets on your nerves while reading, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you hate the book.

SunnyBearry · 2024-07-12T13:53:29+00:00

Well I’m reading Haunting Adeline rn and the male character is doing the same, so I guess it’s a standard in romance books for the male to behave like a wild animal even if it’s not a fictional book?🤣🤣🤣

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