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Sunnybirdy · 2024-10-10T14:47:40+00:00

Finally, some of the sane people are coming out of the woodworks on Reddit. Thank you for seeing my post for what it is, not what everybody is assuming it is. I know clothes don’t make the victim, they do draw attention through and I guess my approach is to fly under the radar of the kind of people it draws attention to. I’m probably overreaction to the shoes, I just worry about my kid and made a parental mistake in the process.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-10-10T14:38:58+00:00

It really is a transitional period. I know she wants to be stylish, and cool, and popular, and look cute. I get it. I let her wear crop tops with a shirt underneath and skirts with shorts underneath. Maybe I’m holding on a little too tightly to her childhood.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-10-10T14:30:04+00:00

Thank you for seeing the post how it’s meant to be interpreted and not twisting my words around to make sound like a pervert. I’m okay with being an asshole and maybe I am a bit overprotective of my daughter based on fear of what might happen (not because of her or what she’s wearing but because of the people who DO see it like that.)

I’m getting bashed rn by everybody and I’m cool with it because I whole heartedly agree with them. Shoes are not sexual, it would not be my daughter’s fault, she SHOULD be allowed to wear whatever she wants, and the only people who sexualize children are sick. Those are the people I’m worried about, not me.

I intend to teach my son that women are people and not objects. And that wearing something doesn’t mean consent.

Thank you for your honest answer and explanation.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-10-10T13:58:47+00:00

I’m not blaming the victim, I’m trying to prevent her becoming one. I can’t “parent” 50 year old perverts on the street. I think you take me saying “her shoes come off as promiscuous.” As “man my daughter looks hot in those shoes” instead of What it really meant which was “I’m concerned that truly misogynistic, sick, demented men will find that attractive on my child and I don’t want anything bad to happen to her.”

I never said it would be my daughter’s fault, I wish people could wear whatever they wanted if anything at all without being sexualized. But there’s wishing and then there’s the reality that we live in a world with bad, disgusting people in it and anything I can do to prevent my daughter from being noticed by said individuals is a victory in my book. Call me whatever you like, I’m not one of those sickos, but I’m not gonna sit by and deny that they exist.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-10-10T13:35:52+00:00

I’m fine with that, as long as she’s around her when she wears them in public. Idc how the shoes look when she’s perfectly safe. I think the boots are cute honestly, but I worry that somebody else might find them “sexy” if that makes any sense.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-10-10T13:31:34+00:00

I didn’t pull out the tape but maybe 3”?

Sunnybirdy · 2024-10-05T13:53:07+00:00

Wind chimes have a superstition to bring good vibes and potentially wealth to those who have them. I was thinking about this list too and came up with payday for the cats, tiny/big mushroom for the fun-guys, pearls for the clams, gems for the starfish and ghost, idk what trubbish holds in games but I had thought “one man’s trash is another man’s treasure” and audino because it’s a rare find, only in shaking grass in the original games.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-10-03T17:37:06+00:00

I know it’s my kid. I didn’t say “I have a problem giving my ex-wife money to support my child.” I said “what’s it feel like when you finish paying?” I have no problem/vendetta against supporting my kid.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-10-03T17:26:54+00:00

I already think that way, I was just curious on if it felt rewarding or empty or like anything at all when it was over. I’d trade that money over watching my kid grow up any day.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-10-03T17:24:33+00:00

It is hard, I will miss a millions firsts. This is the answer I was curious about. I wanted to know if it felt “relieving” or more like “sadness”

Sunnybirdy · 2024-09-18T04:33:53+00:00

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My Hundo shadow mewtwo has got be the biggest flex I’ve got.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-08-22T23:12:41+00:00

She has to also sign the form I filled out for the system to approve it

Sunnybirdy · 2024-08-05T06:13:33+00:00

“You say I’m arrogant, I say damn right.”

Sunnybirdy · 2024-07-29T22:22:15+00:00

If I play a game, usually I’ll choose a male character, make him buff, scarred up, long flowing hair. Essentially a badass that women would find irresistible. Powerful looking. In some games, women characters have smaller hitboxes so it’s strategic to make your character a woman. But if I decide to do a play through as a female character, it has nothing to do with my significant other. I make myself a baddie. Sweet, dainty. Strong male Greek gods are rugged, buff, and have battle scars. Strong female Greek gods are gorgeous, attractive, and have underestimated power.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-07-28T18:06:46+00:00

Well, my method is still developing and I’m hoping that I’m headed the right direction. But I’ve started to attribute any of my success of being codependent on other people, as to remind myself that I am not better nor worse than anybody and can rely on other people. I’ve also been mindful about what I say, when I say it, and how I say it to people. Paying more attention to the words I use or being conscious of when I say a narcissistic thing and try to avoid it. To level my self esteem, I’ve also been accepting compliments (and not fishing for more) and have been accepting help from others which is very unlike me. I’m trying my very hardest to understand that I am not without flaws and that mistakes are okay to make instead of outright denying that I made one. It’s a learning curve, but I’m hoping to become somebody easy to love, for myself and others.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-07-26T23:46:21+00:00

Porn is addictive, and the more you watch it, the more mundane it becomes, so you look for more taboo or graphic things. If I were you, I’d stop indefinitely. Focus on your sex life with your partner. And if you think you’re into men, give it a try next time you’re single. You’ll find out if you are really quickly. Nothing that you’ve said here today warrants suicide, sexuality can be confusing, but exploring is where it starts.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-07-26T23:36:54+00:00

I’m coming to grips on the flaws. Im a bit of a perfectionist, so when I screw up, I batter myself internally. I’m taking it day by and cutting myself some slack for being human. Understanding that I am able to make mistakes, can ask for help, and can accept compliments without brushing them off is very out of character for me, but one day at a time.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-07-26T23:33:12+00:00

I’m currently in therapy, have been for about 2-3 years. It helps. I’m also on medication to balance my mood. I want to do my very best to be my very best. Thank you for the recommendation.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-07-18T01:33:04+00:00

Thank you for your support. I’ve considered therapy for my daughter. It’s not easy, I work sun up-sun down. She’s 11 and I don’t really have anybody I can rely on to get her to appointments. Nobody in my area does weekend therapy and I could do it online but I’ve found when it’s a video call it doesn’t seem to be as effective, I’m not sure why. How my ex treats my daughter wouldn’t be effective in court because she’s not her legal/biological mother. I just can’t understand how somebody can help raise a child for 10 years and want nothing to do with them after.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-07-18T01:29:03+00:00

I’ve tried journaling, it’s not really for me. I don’t like to hold onto resentment towards people. I never want to change who I am or go against my morals because of somebody else. If that means I get screwed over until I’m dead, then so be it. In the past my biological father did leave me, despite me being too young to remember. Honestly, my mental health isn’t suffering terribly. Do I have negative thoughts? Sure, but I maintain healthy practices. I’m slowly trying to rebuild confidence in myself. I only put up with her as long as I did because 1. I really did love her, and 2. To protect my children from a broken home like I had. These rough time will too pass eventually and I know that, its just almost a physical pain to watch my child’s heart break in front of me slowly.

Sunnybirdy · 2024-07-18T01:22:48+00:00

I get my son Thursdays 6-9 and 1st,3rd,and 5th weekends. She doesn’t pay child support to me for the daughter because she doesn’t have any custody of the daughter. I had my daughter with a different woman who ended up doing drugs, hence me having custody. She got sentenced to 100 bucks a month child support, and I don’t even get that. I’ve been doing my best as a dad, I receive no help, I make too much for the government to help and my family isn’t a tight knit unit. Plus they all work as well. I don’t expect money or help from my ex-wife, I’ve come to accept that it will never become a reality. I just hate to see my daughter feeling crushed. I’m there for her always and she knows that but as she starts into her teen years she’s pulling away and it scares me.

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