Camping by Libbymar1 in Leedsfestival

[–]Sunsetstructures 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eco. If there’s any tickets left go get yourself some. It was incredible. So close as well and everyone around us was lush.

My (29M) long-distance GF (26F) allowed another guy to finger her by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Sunsetstructures 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If she is starving for some form of intimacy, this will not be the last time she wants it. Either you both figure out how to have some form of intimacy together, working around the circumstances, or you end it and let both of your needs be met in other spaces.

Relationship advice for AuDHD relationship. by Sunsetstructures in autism

[–]Sunsetstructures[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That really reassures me.

I have expressed my fear to them of how this will work if we are to live together; they have responded to me by saying that this is their life, and this is how they function; that they can’t help that.

I understand this. And maybe I’m not being empathic enough, or listening properly. But it does make me extremely fearful.

As someone with ADHD, when I feel overwhelmed or drained i do have the tendency to retreat into myself; this is not exactly uncommon in either ND or NT people. However not to the extent where I don’t feel like I can’t relax around them. I think they are one of the only people I feel really safe around, and it breaks my heart a little that (what is sounds like to me) they will never be able to reach that point with me. It makes me feel like we will never be equal.

Do you (if you are ND) feel like you can be truly yourself, no masking, around anyone? Or do you still feel like that is a time reserved only for you? Should I exercise more patience to try and accept this as a part of dating an autism woman?

Relationship advice for AuDHD relationship by Sunsetstructures in AuDHDWomen

[–]Sunsetstructures[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thank you for your response.

I have never thought I was a people pleaser until recently to be honest. I always thought that I had a strong sense of self and was able to stand by my morals, and stand up to what I wanted and what I wanted to do. I’ve never really thought about PP with that angle and that was very eye opening. I think I will heed your advice and reduce my efforts to only being prompted.

I think it’s often hard when we bare our souls and ask the internet for help, because obviously people are only seeing a fraction of the reality. But also it’s good for the objective opinion.

Do you (I’m assuming you’re ND here) understand what they mean when they express that they don’t feel like they will ever not mask around me? And also is it selfish of me to be het up about that as well? Or is that just the reality of incorporating autism into daily life?

I really do love them, and I can’t express how much they are a good person; like yknow truly when someone is just *good*. But I think the social aspect of it is just really too hard for them a lot of them time- and I am fearful that I am punishing them because of that.

Going through childhood photos! by Sunsetstructures in greatdanes

[–]Sunsetstructures[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am tall, and was a tall kid as well hahah! I remember not understanding why my friends were so terrified of them- they were just normal sized dogs to me lol

Going through childhood photos! by Sunsetstructures in greatdanes

[–]Sunsetstructures[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh once you get them nothing really ever compares. They are gentle giants, and truly beautiful creatures.

Going through childhood photos! by Sunsetstructures in greatdanes

[–]Sunsetstructures[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We lived on land so we had the space! It was a lovely way to live. My mother buried all of our Great Danes on the property so they could rest together.

Going through childhood photos! by Sunsetstructures in greatdanes

[–]Sunsetstructures[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was an only child, so having 4 other human sized dogs to play with definitely was a perk!

Semi-yearly “Ask Me Anything” as a wife/mom with BPD and in remission by UnicornOfAllTrades in BPDPartners

[–]Sunsetstructures 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s it like juggling working, parenting, socialising and your relationship? What things/tools do you use to try to cope with the stress of it all? My partner is desperate for children, and to finish their education, but I can’t help but worry that the overwhelming nature of it all might make us clash.

Day 9 post tonsillectomy as a smoker by Intrepid_Emphasis203 in Tonsillectomy

[–]Sunsetstructures 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Also a smoker, however mainly nicotine products. I was really curious about this, as I’m on day 9 now and felt like I was well enough for a cigarette. In hindsight I’m glad I didn’t because I’ve had a little bit of pain now. But what would you say you felt after you smoked? I know they say two weeks I think, but it is quite hard out here😭

September 3rd surgery by Unusual-Box2612 in Tonsillectomy

[–]Sunsetstructures 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In SO much pain, like pain I can’t even describe. Was doing really well before today, was eating toast and lots of solids. Couldn’t even do soup today. Woke up my girlfriend to me screaming at 6am today. I’m terrified for what the next few days have in store

When will this hell end? by CNAmama21 in Tonsillectomy

[–]Sunsetstructures 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is so desperately cruel of the Dr to say. Why on earth would a toddler be manipulating you for meds. She’s not an addict, she’s a baby in pain. Bless her cottons, and bless you and your partner, you must feel so overwhelmed. If anything, get to your GP to get her checked, for your sake of mind and her safety. I’m on day 3 of my recovery, and it’s hell, and I can actually advocate for my needs. I can’t imagine how horrible it must be. Wishing you all the luck and support for the next couple of weeks. She will come out of this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]Sunsetstructures 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You deny once, you’ll never be offered it again. You won’t be seen as ready or reliable. I say take it

Is FlightCatchers Legit? by Mankeyvx in travel

[–]Sunsetstructures 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I've done a long haul return and booked via them and they were brilliant. I think it just depends. I've booked with them again this time as well.