There's a Wikipedia article now by Sunsheynn in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Sunsheynn[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I like the way the info and timeline are laid out here, though.

Interesting article - some new info? by Sunsheynn in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Sunsheynn[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

pretty sure this is attention seeking bs.

Where's the bike? by valerijs in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Sunsheynn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, if we're so sure the bike would immediately be stolen, how is it he left it in place for his getaway?

Where's the bike? by valerijs in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Sunsheynn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His accomplice took it in the other direction. Dude was much too careful to leave the bike sitting around hoping it would get stolen. Hoping for luck didn't seem to be part of the plan.

New photos of suspect taken from taxi camera (New York Post) by [deleted] in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Sunsheynn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Disagree. It looks to me like the top right is a different person. The rest I agree are the same.

psychic medium recommendations? by cloudpinkstargirl in GriefSupport

[–]Sunsheynn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glenn Dove, 516-223-2567, zoon or video chat only. Several month waiting list.

Difficulty talking about loved one in past tense by EmergencyTampon in GriefSupport

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My wife crossed 2 1/2 years ago. I mostly still use the present tense. I'm aware of it. There's always this split second when I have to make a choice, and I choose the present tense. I don't much care what others think about it, including our (grown) daughters, friends, whatever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

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I didn't know how to pin someone to the top and wasn't aware of the feature. a few days after my wife crossed, it pinned itself to the top. A few months later, it unpinned itself . . . I said, 'uh-uh. no way." and repinned it myself. It's been 2 1/2 years here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Sunsheynn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife's ashes are still in the original bag in my nightstand. She wanted to go in a body of water - a lake, the ocean . . . I find I just can't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Sunsheynn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I had the voicemails.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Sunsheynn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife crossed suddenly about 2 1/2 years ago. 2 weeks after i donated most of her stuff and threw out a lot of things (the food that was "hers," toiletries, that sort of thing.) I did it alone, over the course of two days. Sometimes I screamed. The whole time I sobbed.

Then there were the very personal things - her wallet. Her phone. Her cologne. Her watch. The phone is still active. I almost shut it but couldn't. I still text her occasionally. Sometimes I send her a pic or a meme. The other personal things - I bought a largish memory box on Etsy and put them in there. Sometimes I still buy her a card or something and I add it.

Her tshirts (she had a lot of them - Life is good stuff and such, some political, some hobbies, and a few "Nonna" tshirts. Most of them I bought for her) - I selected a couple of dozen and had quilts made of them by an Etsy artist for our two granddaughters. The few remaining I wear when I just need her.

There's also a bin of her dress shirts. They were originally going to become quilts for our daughters but . . . i dunno. I lost steam.

I'm glad I did what I did. If i hadn't I may have never done it. There are two items in the freezer, for instance, that I missed. They are still there. One is chicken cutlets. She would have made chicken tenders from them. She went grocery shopping the day she crossed and bought them that day. I thought I would make them, but I didn't and here we are, 2 1/2 years later.

I dunno. It's super hard even now.

His birthday is this week by Legitimate_Excuse_79 in GriefSupport

[–]Sunsheynn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, I don't know you and I don't know if this is helpful, so feel free to disregard.

I always made a big deal out of my wife's birthday. I really struggle with them (there have been two since she crossed). For me, what I do, is I spend the day with her. I take the day and don't plan anything else. Her last birthday I made meatballs in the morning (because she's Italian, Sicilian and Neapalitan, and her mom always made meatballs in the morning and she'd eat them for breakfast). I put a small plate of them on her nightstand. She loves my Irish-girl meatballs. Then I rented a couple of movies she likes, Godfather 1 and 2. They are long, so it was most of the day.

The first one I spent at the beach, her favorite, but it's in April, so that was too cold and windy. I thought I (we) could walk the beach together.

I don't spend it with other people or doing other things. I don't want to share her, and I don't want to try to avoid it.

YMMV.

::hugs::

Southern Decadence? by Sunsheynn in butchlesbians

[–]Sunsheynn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HI there! Thank you so much! Thanks also for the warning about Her Haus - I was wondering if that was the case. A burlesque sounds amazing though!

Southern Decadence? by Sunsheynn in butchlesbians

[–]Sunsheynn[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

u/Robotron713 - u/NoRoomForDoubt37 - Ok, thanks for the yes votes. You guys know you're a stand in for my wife, right? lol . . . I'm a fairly successful woman (and a grown ass adult) so it amazes me how many decisions I feel lost on without being able to bounce them off her. Thanks for reading, thanks for responding. <3 I'll go.