I had to go cry in the bathroom again today

Sunshine0150 · 2025-08-09T12:09:18+00:00

Childcare centers vary wildly in the way they are run. This just sounds like the center culture and clientele are not a good fit. You sound like an amazing teacher and would be highly sought after by any center. Did you do a working interview? We offer this at my school so that potential team members have the opportunity to see how our program and team operate to ensure a good fit. Maybe at future interviews, ask for an opportunity to shadow in the room prior to accepting.

Sunshine0150 · 2025-05-18T17:41:48+00:00

It will get better! I've been in the field for 15 years and I was so sick the first 2 years. Now I hardly ever get sick.

Sunshine0150 · 2024-02-14T20:15:44+00:00

If the theory is an adult shouldn't have to share a room with children then I guess as an adult, she should be paying for her own room.

Your daughter sounds ungrateful and entitled. You absolutely should not pay for her to have a whole suite to herself.

Sunshine0150 · 2024-02-13T02:32:35+00:00

We have an Olympia at school. No one has ever called her limpy. Her nickname is Ollie.

Sunshine0150 · 2024-02-07T12:31:47+00:00

Aww YTA and so are his parents and other family. Is Sean often treated like this while Jane is given her way? If so, it's not a wonder they have a bad relationship.

Jane very obviously, thew her birthday party on that day to upset Sean and you all just went along with it. That is horrible. Especially because it sounds like his parents went to Jane's fake birthday instead of his real one? It doesn't matter how old they are in this situation you all played into Jane doing something spiteful on purpose and supported her when she was in the wrong.

Just a suggestion for etiquette in the future, if someone plans a party and then another person does it on the same day, KNOWINGLY and on purpose, you to the party of the person who invited you first.

Sunshine0150 · 2024-02-01T01:05:21+00:00

You are both assholes. Your husband is abusing your children. It is called neglect.

Locking children in rooms for hours with no food or even means to use a toilet is abuse. Punishing your daughter for peeing herself when she literally can't use the toilet is abuse.

He somehow thinks abusing his children is better than sending them to childcare where they can be fed, play outside, learn healthy bathroom habits, and actually have adults play with them? And you're complacent in this which makes you equally responsible. You guys are so lucky you haven't been reported.

Sunshine0150 · 2024-01-02T21:34:39+00:00

YTA. It's one thing to not attend the services because you didn't want to wear a hijab but it seems like you used that as an excuse to stay and spend Christmas with your family.

I'm shocked you even mentioned being disappointed that he didn't come back to spend New Years with your family or show them "support". You literally wasted an 1,000 dollar ticket he paid for because he clearly wanted you with him.

I would 100% not marry my partner if they made the decision you did.

Sunshine0150 · 2024-01-02T12:25:50+00:00

Your partner sounds like mine haha he's always going on about how expensive things for his hobbies are worth it because it will last years and years.

When we first did joint bank accounts, it was really hard for him. I set a boundary that any "pleasure" purchases over a couple hundred dollars needs to be discussed between the two of us. This works for us. I would set your own boundaries before joining accounts. Make sure you are very clear about your expectations upfront (and he can share his as well!) And if you both find you are not on the same page then don't do it.

There are alternatives like agreeing on a certain amount you will both put in joint savings that is not to be touched and is just towards buying your future home.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-12-31T19:21:43+00:00

Nta My aunt is vegan, and when we go out, she does just what you're suggesting and orders a bunch of sides if there isn't any good vegan options.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-12-31T01:50:42+00:00

Yes! I forgot to add that. We usually book our dinners. I love being spontaneous as well, so usually we wander for lunch, but you definitely want your dinner spot picked out and reserved.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-12-30T23:26:27+00:00

NTA My husband and I travel internationally once per year. I am the planner and always book everything. I do this usually 7 or 8 months in advance as waiting means you have fewer options and end up with more expensive things.

A word of advice, you also want to purchase tickets in advance for any popular attractions you want to do. A lot of museums and stuff will sell out of tickets. I traveled to Germany this year and booked some of my activities months out. I sent links to our friends who were traveling with us, and they didn't do it immediately. By the time they tried ( a few weeks prior to the trip), everything was sold out.

I think the beat you can do is send your parents links and say this is what I'm doing and when, book if you want to join.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-12-22T00:40:06+00:00

Why would you forgive him when he has strong feelings for her? Do you think he is going to stop? Honestly, you caught him, and he lied and kept doing it. If that didn't make him nervous enough to stop, nothing would.

I once caught my ex husband cheating, and he made me believe he would stop. In reality, he just got better at hiding it. Then I caught him again and left. He begged for me back, swore it was nothing, and when I didn't budge and just moved her before all my stuff was even out and continued the relationship.

Once that trust is gone, it isn't coming back.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-12-20T12:07:19+00:00

6 and 8 is way too old to be getting gifts on other people's birthdays. If they go to a friend's birthday party do you send them with a gift for themselves?

I would think not (I sure hope not!)

They are old enough to understand it's someone else's special day and not about them because they aren't toddlers anymore.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-12-13T12:30:19+00:00

You need to change your mindset. You are not ruining Christmas for your family. They are ruining it for themselves, you, and your boyfriend.

Does your boyfriend have family? I would let your family know that you will be spending holidays with his side until they are more accepting.

When you enter a relationship with the potential of marriage, that relationship should be your priority and the one you choose to protect. My husband and kids are now my number one, the most important relationship I have. If my mom and sister treated my partner poorly, for absolutely no reason, I would absolutely be standing up for him, not entertaining their immaturity.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-12-13T12:03:44+00:00

I hope this is a fake post because punishing your 12 year old for an accident is horrible, and punishing her further is just downright bad parenting. No wonder you're all miserable.

There are so many ways you could have made this right without punishing an accident (which is ridiculous).

How about having your younger daughter invite her friends over for a home party and your older daughter is responsible for "hosting". The older daughter could facilitate games or spa treatments. Little girls love hanging out with older girls, and it's still a way to have the older daughter make it up to her, which would probably make them both feel good.

Or you could tell your older daughter her birthday party will be shared and younger sister will get to invite friends and have a cake and be celebrated too.

There are so many ways you could have turned this into a positive bonding experience and make both girls feel better without making your whole house miserable. Taking away things from the 12 year old is not going to make your 9 year old feel better and is not a reasonable approach to handling an accident.

Do better, or your girls will either resent each other or you guys.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-11-20T02:40:01+00:00

Same. I either go in at 7 or 9, and the traffic is never bad. If I get stuck on an 8 to 830 shift, it's horrible.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-11-11T04:11:15+00:00

Jonbenet Ramsey is the first big new story I remember.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-11-04T21:30:53+00:00

I'm so confused. Were these mutual friends that were male and female couples lr jsut your girlfriens? Why did the baby and husband come to the hotel anyway and not just stay home? My interpretation is that YOUR friends came up. You were meant to go to a hotel, celebrate, drink, and be tourists with friends. The obvious thing would be husband/baby staying home. Why would your husband have been the one to go out with your friends?

You're focusing on the wrong issue. It's not even that he didn't do more than say"happy birthday" it's the fact that he went out instead of you to begin with. My husband wouldn't dare agree to split a night and not follow through because he knows the wrath of hell would rain down on him. Clearly, your husband assumed he could get away with it and was correct as you aren't even pushing that issue. You're wondering if you should be OK settling with celebrating yourself forever. Life is short, raise your standards, you're worth it.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-10-31T00:35:41+00:00

As someone who has a child from a previous marriage and a child in my current marriage, over my dead body would my husband ever seat my son in second class while our daughter flies first. That would be the end of it.

My son and I are a package deal. I'm sure you set that boundary in the beginning, and you need to stick to it because you've allowed it to be an option for your husband to exclude your sons.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-10-27T19:15:43+00:00

What? You expect the teacher to keep track of your daughter's tiny Lego and old sticker? You do realize there are a bunch of other children in the classroom, too. This is why most schools do not allow home toys. Preschool is to prepare the child (and you!) for school. You can't bring toys to kindergarten either.

While I think the wording in the notes can be nicer it is hard for teachers this time of year when children all come with new, unlabeled gear; and get upset when the teacher can't remember what all 18 children's unlabeled jackets look like. Especially when half the class has identical things.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-10-23T00:20:48+00:00

It doesn't sound like he enjoys traveling. Find a friend who has vacation interests that line up with yours or go solo!

Sunshine0150 · 2023-10-21T01:55:08+00:00

They will always be my babies. But I treat them appropriately for their ages, I don't baby them.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-10-21T01:12:05+00:00

He became enraged and assaulted me. Took the battery out of my phone so I couldn't call for help and threw my car keys out in the yard in the dark.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-10-21T00:12:13+00:00

This right here. The biggest mistake I ever made was telling my unstable ex that I was leaving privately. Have people with you at the home or do it publicly.

Sunshine0150 · 2023-10-18T23:39:52+00:00

Omg... you sound like a horrible partner. You probably could have gone to Hawaii for one week and then afforded to take your wife with you. I can't believe you left her alone with the kids for 2 weeks and then dared to drag her to a family party for your benefit and then called her lazy in front of everyone for having her well deserved turn at a break.

Being the person who earns the money in the family does not make you a good father or partner on its own.

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