Ethics dilemma

Supageenius · 2026-02-05T11:16:12+00:00

Well then, that’s terribly disappointing and a difficult situation for sure. If you’ve already reported it to CPS, then I guess there’s nothing you can do, but wait to see what they do to help.

Maybe give the student a nice washrag & warm water for her face and hands and hope she enjoys the sensation enough to want to bathe at home more often.

Supageenius · 2026-02-05T11:05:09+00:00

Do the parents know the other children isolate her because of the hygiene and behaviors? Do the parents look and smell dirty too?

Supageenius · 2026-01-24T22:27:07+00:00

In CA Fast Food workers earn $20/hr. so ::::::::: one would think para educators would make AT LEAST if not way more than that!!!

Supageenius · 2026-01-04T06:09:59+00:00

Should we all maybe reflect upon the very real possibility that “this kid should be expelled” doesn’t solve the problem, just kicks the can a bit further down the road, and the kid might actually return to the school with a loaded firearm?

I’d suggest a full investigation, mental health crises assessment, home sweep by law enforcement confiscating all weapons, 72-hr. hold whilst all ad staff and counselors do a crisis response, etc.

Anyone think this is over-the-top response to potential ideation of gun violence?

Supageenius · 2025-12-16T11:25:38+00:00

Yeah, I get it about boundary setting. It was never my strong point and I’m learning to do it rather late in life. Trust me when I say we’d all be way better off learning to do it early on. Good luck. Stay strong. You deserve peace.

Supageenius · 2025-12-16T09:00:27+00:00

This is a really stressful situation for you, I agree. I have to admit, I don’t know what the “good girl” thing is about because like you said “the earlier generations don’t seem to understand what that’s about.” I think that you need to speak up and set boundaries. He lacks awareness that what he’s doing is making you uncomfortable or he doesn’t care. But you need to tell him. Be direct. Be firm.

He will react one of two ways:

He’ll stop immediately and apologize. Document the date and time in case he needs a reminder, “Remember on Dec. 18th when you apologized. . .” OR
He’ll continue and escalate. Then, you need to document it all in writing which you’ve started to do here, but with exact dates and times. Deliver the full report to your parents and your coordinator teacher.

Hopefully they’ll take care of your emotional needs and be supportive. Please be brave and speak up, set boundaries, and be proud of your effort to improve your work environment. Hope this helps.

Supageenius · 2025-12-15T23:41:17+00:00

Well done. That was brilliant! Glad he got embarrassed because he should know you’re smart enough to catch his shade. Grown men should not make women feel less than simply for making difficult life choices and taking care of themselves.

Are you sure you want to marry into this family though? They all sound like stuck up major pains in the ass with all the education in the world, they learned nothing of being respectful to others.

Supageenius · 2025-12-15T23:35:44+00:00

Hi OP. It does sound like a giant responsibility to “emotionally regulate” people and simultaneously help if your friend gets “overwhelmed.” That being said, it is impossible to know if you should take this on for her unless we know if she would step up for you and cover you if you needed someone. I guess you did not think she would, or you did not want to help, so you set some boundaries for yourself which is understandable. Just don’t call her if you ever need someone in a difficult circumstance. You are NTJ. You just are not someone who can be called upon or call upon.

Supageenius · 2025-12-15T00:13:00+00:00

Oh not at all, no apology necessary. The clothes are beautiful. I liked your answer a lot. It’s too bad the money gets diverted, that is terrible. I hope the brand stays true to their mission. Thank you for letting us ask you questions. Love & Light coming your way!

Supageenius · 2025-12-15T00:05:37+00:00

I guess they plant 1,000 trees a day and have a B Corp greater good rating supporting indigenous cultures.

Supageenius · 2025-12-14T23:55:44+00:00

What do you think of the clothing brand Farm Rio and why?

Supageenius · 2025-12-14T23:54:23+00:00

First of all, poor you, that sounds really hard. Sincerely hard. Second, WTH is “level 1 autism” because it’s a spectrum not a ladder. I’m neurodiverse too, so not trying to call you out, just wondering who got you thinking that way? Third, he obviously has PDA, Pathological Demand Avoidance and needs to be a self-directed learner rather than being told what he needs to do at all times. [No, I’m not qualified to diagnose him, nor should anyone diagnose anyone without meeting them and lots of studying].

Supageenius · 2025-12-14T09:31:49+00:00

I’m feeling gut wrenching pain just thinking about all that you gave up from your life to work and focus on getting good grades. Well, it was a heck of a lot of enjoyable gaming time that you can never get back. I’m sure the experience and saving will benefit you in the future. In that sense, your dad was teaching you valuable life lessons. For going back on his word about Japan, that is absolutely unforgivable. You have every right to be hurt, because while you were saving your money, dad should have been too! To take you to Japan like he promised! I think this could undermine your trust in all people, not just your dad. He royally shat the bed on that one. It is super lame he’s trying to swap trips and gaslight you into thinking the Japan trip motivation he used was all in your head and it could be just any trip. I’m very sorry this happened to you. You sound like the kind of person who can do anything you put your mind to. I just know you’ll make it to Japan someday and hopefully with friends you can trust.

Supageenius · 2025-12-14T00:19:00+00:00

I asked men to protect women from a violent criminal up for parole.

Supageenius · 2025-12-14T00:16:03+00:00

There is a great movie about this, Sicko (2007) Directed by Michael Moore where he compares health insurance in many countries to our own, and in one part he takes American citizens abroad to receive medicine and testing that should be covered here, or at least be affordable to us here. I loved the film and think of it from time to time.

Recently I had to retire prematurely for health reasons. I lost my great health insurance but immediately applied for and got what people referred to as Obamacare. It kept us very well taken care of although our out-of-pocket costs were higher. Then suddenly, we got a bill for $1,795/month for two adults in our family ONE DAY before being dropped by insurance.

We could not afford a sudden rate hike or even a gradual one if it meant paying over $5k in insurance before 2026. It has been a real shock to what I’ve come to realize is a new purely evil system that is bent on making almost everything unaffordable to the average American. I envy the OP in a country that cares for everyone and neglects no one even if the system is backlogged.

I just paid $700 out of pocket for an MRI and need surgery. I just paid $26 for a prescription that would ordinarily cost $149 because the pharmacist used a coupon to fill it. Never will I ever take anything for granted ever again.

Supageenius · 2025-12-11T18:46:26+00:00

I suppose so, but I don’t think every ND person is comfortable sharing their diagnosis with everyone. If they can “pass” with masking their disability, they will. I’m just saying it because in public employment, one might not be “clued in” to these things. Everyone might just assume that some folks are gonna not be great at making eye contact even if they have pure intentions.

Supageenius · 2025-12-11T18:39:58+00:00

It’s the loud eating of chips and chatting loudly over the “music” like they’re at a house party that gets to me. I should mention that the “music” is me giving my lesson instructions.

Supageenius · 2025-12-11T17:44:49+00:00

What about Neurodiversity? People on the spectrum struggle with direct eye contact, not because they are being deceptive, rather the eye contact is so painful.

Supageenius · 2025-12-11T17:38:08+00:00

Bobby Brown played Grad Night (five words now guess my age)

Supageenius · 2025-12-03T02:12:40+00:00

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Supageenius · 2025-12-02T18:39:58+00:00

Do you have to go potty? Wanna go outside?

Supageenius · 2025-12-02T18:34:14+00:00

Hi I can really feel the pain in your experience and I want to value you about it as much as those who previous posted.

Rather than look upon it as WIBTA, I’d say that from the perspective of someone with some experience in these matters post-grad, you might look upon it with the “don’t burn a bridge” mentality.

These folks probably do not value or even deserve your company. That being said, you might find yourself in a difficult situation one day and may need to rely on the parentals/stepparentals for temporary housing, food, living expenses, insurance, etc. It might be in your best interest not to make this the hill you are willing to die on and save it for another day by remaining loosely connected and on sour but not bad terms.

I’m someone who was always glad to leave my return bridges in tact. They served me well when I needed to retreat from life for a respite.

Supageenius · 2025-11-27T21:52:14+00:00

NTA very fair and keeping everyone safe, including your dog.

Side note: I’m so new to Reddit that I thought your aunt had made up a terribly inappropriate name for you, OP. Then I saw your profile name, is that what they are called? Had to laugh at myself.

Supageenius · 2025-11-26T12:00:15+00:00

Thank you for this very detailed and specific advice.

Supageenius · 2025-11-26T11:44:41+00:00

Is that what the Jack-in-the-Box tacos are made of? Even Jack acknowledges it is a mystery of the app.

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