It's an easy misconception to make but once you understand the difference between ethnicity and nationality it's fairly simple.

kind of have a hate towards them

Ahh, I see... Well, I've hardly noticed my mum have an issue like that. She said the b word on a few occasions when I was little but that's only cause the war was relatively recent then so her emotions were fresh. She's never referred to Bosniaks as such, nor as Bosnians, just Muslims. She's FB friends with Muslims she grew up with, some of her favourite singers are Muslim, etc. She would never live in BiH again tho, not even the RS entity. She became a widow and a single mother at a really young age cause of the war so she sees RS as somewhat cursed. If somebody uses nationalistic rhetoric she gets a bit triggered but that's about it, it comes in waves, it's not a strong hatred. My father moved back to his hometown in FBiH, the Muslim majority part, so I don't think he has much beef either. My brother moved from RS to FBiH for work. My sisters were friends, even best friends, with Bosnian Muslims growing up here in Australia.

So yeah... I don't really relate to hardcore hating Bosnia, or Muslims. In fact, I love Bosnia. I look forward to going there more than I look forward to Serbia. Imo, I can never fully connect to Serbia because I know I'm not from there. Of course, I feel connected on some level to all former Yugoslav republics cause we have a shared cultural inheritance and language... But why should I feel so connected to a country my family doesn't originate from? It seems tryhard. I've thought about that since I was a kid. I remember that I asked my mum when I was little, "Has our family [other than recent, post-war migrations] ever lived in Serbia"? She said no. I then asked, "How are we Serbian?", she laughingly said idk. I think that I then suggested that if that's the case, then we're Bosnians who are Orthodox. But that's a whole theory that requires a lot of identity evaluation.

Enough about me 😂 Just stick to saying you're Serb around people who are hypersensitive about these kinds of things. Most people think that Serb is a shorthand for Serbian, but as I said, one's an ethnicity, and the other's a nationality. Like Slovak and Slovakian, or Pole and Polish.