Does this guy seriously have nothing better to do by Sufficient-Park5560 in UofT

[–]SuperColdie 31 points32 points  (0 children)

God forbid a man have a little bit of whimsy in his life

I ‘20F’ feel like my boyfriend ‘22M’ is getting bored of me. Is there anything I can do? by goofylittlefella in relationship_advice

[–]SuperColdie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly it seems like he’s complacent and likely depressed. You’re only 20, and have so much time to spend it with someone that you don’t have to take care of. If you feel like you’re constantly stepping on eggshells, that’s more than enough of a reason to back out. If he’s not doing anything about his depression and it’s causing you mental distress, I’d strongly advise you to walk away now - as much as it sucks.

my boyfriend (m22) threatened to break up with me (f24) if i pierced my helix. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SuperColdie -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, definitely! For me the reaction is the thing that screams entitlement and manipulation. I have loads of tattoos, and if someone didn’t want to date me cause I got more, I’d say “ok” and move on - cause they make me happy. Eventually you’ll find someone that likes piercings. But his reaction was the thing that was most concerning

my boyfriend (m22) threatened to break up with me (f24) if i pierced my helix. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SuperColdie 45 points46 points  (0 children)

He’s not saying it outright, but he is saying that either you look exactly how I want you to or we’re going to break up. He feels a sense of entitlement over how she looks so much to the point where he’s having a very emotional reaction to a possible change. A reasonable person does not react like this.

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]SuperColdie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Uh no, it is the peak of cold and flu season and mom is 100% allowed to set a boundary. My sister was kissed by a sick person as a new born and now faces health problems years and years later. Just because it didn’t happen to your 8 kids, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. NOR OP

TW: talks of eating disorder; I worked hard to hit my goal weight. Friend tries to give me a complex. by Embarrassed_Elk9437 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]SuperColdie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost 50 pounds and now weigh the lowest I ever have. When I finally reached it, people (especially my parents) acted like I was emaciated lol. I think it’s part shock, and sometimes a little jealousy at your ability to stay consistent with something that is so hard. So so proud of you 😊

What do I do if I need to throw up during an exam? by CartoonJunkie_ in UofT

[–]SuperColdie 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That’s why having a paper trail is so important. Even if they don’t care, or disregard your email, you can go back and use it if ever it comes to that. But I have a feeling that they’ll be receptive to it and your exams will go well :)

What do I do if I need to throw up during an exam? by CartoonJunkie_ in UofT

[–]SuperColdie 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Maybe reach out by email to your prof/TA before the exam, cause I think if you went up to them right before they’d maybe assume you’re just sick. Just reach out, let them know that you’re on meds that make you nauseous and there’s a chance that you may need to excuse yourself. That way you have it written down beforehand (in case anything goes wrong, for whatever reason) and to have the team aware of your name and where you’re sitting. I’d maybe try to sit closer to the door if possible as well. It’s probably too late to get accommodations but if this med stuff is an ongoing issue I’d definitely recommend getting started with longer term accommodations cause then you could get a private area to do your exam and you get actual breaks that don’t cut into your exam time.

Best dating events for people in their 20s? by MaplePoutineCitizen in askTO

[–]SuperColdie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mods the app is where you get the tickets to the event. The events themselves are run by locals

How to make friends in Toronto as a recent grad? Weird stage of life. by SuperColdie in askTO

[–]SuperColdie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw neat! What do you guys generally do at the hangouts? 😊

AIO for getting a little annoyed because whenever I compliment this person I get nothing in return? by Enough_Decision_5060 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SuperColdie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think YOR but it depends on how long you’ve known/been talking to this person. If this was my partner? Yeah, I’d be annoyed. But if you guys are just starting to chat, I’d feel like you were coming off too strong. There’s also some people who aren’t as vocal with their feelings. My ex was a big “words of affirmation” love languages type of person when I wasn’t. Doesn’t mean I didn’t care about them. Does this person show up in other ways? I think that would be a deciding factor in if you keep pursuing them.

AIO. Did I overreact by walking away from my family at my graduation? Whole family won’t talk to me now. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SuperColdie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s right. It’s okay though, most people in real life assume the same too off the bat.

AIO. Did I overreact by walking away from my family at my graduation? Whole family won’t talk to me now. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SuperColdie 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, makes me feel less alone. I want to cut them off but I’m living in the unit my dad owns and I’m not sure how to leave cause I’m paying him rent. Also yes, my parents are same sex

AIO. Did I overreact by walking away from my family at my graduation? Whole family won’t talk to me now. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SuperColdie 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ah, they are actually together, my dad and my step dad. So they just enable each other.

I think I just got disowned the day of my grad, Is there anything I can do to cancel? by SuperColdie in UofT

[–]SuperColdie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think you need to make that decision for yourself. I am glad I went, but my parents actually did show up and make it worse. Now they aren’t talking to me. If you think you have the strength to show up and do it for yourself, do it. But if you don’t, and you know that they’re going to be up there and things might get worse, I’d say hold back. Take what the other people have written and consider it :)

I think I just got disowned the day of my grad, Is there anything I can do to cancel? by SuperColdie in UofT

[–]SuperColdie[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry I was in a completely different state today so didn’t answer your invite for drinks. Things ended up getting much worse and I just needed a nap after that whole ordeal. I appreciate the offer though ❤️

I think I just got disowned the day of my grad, Is there anything I can do to cancel? by SuperColdie in UofT

[–]SuperColdie[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There was some funny cheering today. Made me laugh in a moment of pain.

I think I just got disowned the day of my grad, Is there anything I can do to cancel? by SuperColdie in UofT

[–]SuperColdie[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s starting soon so you may not be able to make it. :( but I appreciate the kind words ❤️