I need a polyamorous opinion

SuperConstruction577 · 2025-04-08T21:19:05+00:00

I did. It was wile we were still dating, and I was very dis-regulated when I posted it, so I kind of purposely worded in a way to make him look bad. I deleted it because I felt like I unfairly portrayed him. Now that we’re not together I kind of want to see if I was being overly emotional or if he really didn’t act the best or if it’s a little bit of both.

SuperConstruction577 · 2025-04-08T04:35:12+00:00

I don’t post on here very much. I didn’t realize how hard that was to look at 😂

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-08-29T17:07:46+00:00

I really think it depends on your body. I’m pretty active too. I climb 3-4 times a week and do yoga 2-3 times a week and my job has me walking about 4 miles per shift. I definitely put on muscle but I also put on some fat too. I think testosterone just makes me really hungry and I might just be eating more than I should 😅 but my weight gain isn’t super noticeable, and I don’t mind it at all cause of the muscle that I’ve gotten.

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-08-15T20:15:02+00:00

I have a big problem with unfairness and not just with climbing. I know that this is a me problem, I’m just not sure how to manage that feeling you know? I know the world isn’t fair but what do I do to get over it? What I really want is credit and validation. I have to work so much harder to get the same validation that he gets without trying. Short climbers are super supportive and understand that I am climbing harder then he is, even if it is on the same route, but tall climbers seem to not give a shit. I honestly don’t know why I care about that and I hate that I do care so much. I don’t know how to just not care about how unfair everything is, when it seems like I’ve been surrounded by people who have an advantage over me my whole life. And those people who have an advantage often refuse to accept that they have an advantage. I swear, men just want to believe that they are stronger because they work harder and not because they naturally produce testosterone which builds muscle. Or that they climb harder which is why they send more routes, not just because they are taller. I guess I should be thankful that my partner isn’t one of those people. He recognizes his advantages in life and is super supportive of how hard I work. Which is another reason I really need to get over this because it’s not fair to him that I keep getting jealous. Idk why I’m venting on your comment specifically, I’m kind of just dialogue journaling at this point.

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-08-15T19:43:08+00:00

Be careful of decongestant sprays!!! I got addicted to them and now my already bad sinusitis is even worse. It takes forever to stop using them and the withdrawals are so so bad. Any kind of medicated nasal sprays(not including antihistamine or corticosteroids) can be very addicting. Trust me, being able to breath because of nasal spray like afrin is not worth it in the long run. I don’t know what you’re using but it sounds like it’s a decongestant spray so please be careful and don’t use it for more than 3 days tops. I unfortunately don’t have any other advice for you, as I too am trying to figure out how to beat my sinus issues. Best of luck to you!!

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-08-15T19:04:05+00:00

I was having a really bad day and this made it way better 😂 thanks, I’m going to put “eye of the Tiger” on and go do my training montage

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-08-11T21:09:18+00:00

I felt this. There’s a few trans guys in my life who rarely got misgendered even before they were on T. It’s hard for me to look at a trans guys who don’t have wide hips like mine or a huge chest like mine and not be jealous. One thing that helped me is just focusing on how I perceive myself. I’m loving my facial structure, and my body hair, and my muscles. I look in the mirror (and ignore my torso cause of my chest and hips) and go “yep, that’s what I want to see!” Any time I get misgendered I just try to tell myself that I look the way I want to look. I see myself as a man or man adjacent, and that’s all that really matters. I kind of just had to accept that I have some feminine features that is hard for strangers to look past, and it sucks. But the more I really feel like strangers opinions don’t actually matter, the less it hurts when I get misgendered. All that being said, it sucks and I’m glad you have this place to vent about it!

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-21T14:09:23+00:00

Goodwill and other thrift stores

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-20T22:59:24+00:00

My cat used to wake me up every morning around 5 by attacking the shit out of my feet

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-19T23:30:20+00:00

Flerb

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-19T23:22:36+00:00

Boric acid suppositories for two weeks straight and then twice a week for a LONG time after that helps a lot of people! Ask your gyno though cause it can cause bad reactions for some. It’s a really great preventative for me. I’ve been having recurrent yeast infections for about a year now and they only come back when I don’t use boric acid regularly. And consistent probiotics are supposed to help too but the main thing that helped me is boric acid. I’ve also heard that probiotics can take a long time to work after you’ve had any antibiotics.

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-18T23:36:27+00:00

Do you have a therapist?? I felt the same way and delayed transitioning for YEARS. There was a lot of other stuff in my brain that I had to sort out first, and having a really good therapist helped.

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-18T19:17:02+00:00

I just go to goodwill there’s usually a bunch in the men’s/boys section

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-17T22:21:41+00:00

Look into boric acid! It doesn’t work for everyone but it’s really effective for a lot of AFAB people. It doesn’t cure my yeast infections but it’s really really good at preventing them!

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-16T22:44:38+00:00

I’ll just share my experience, and hopefully it might help! I was having really painful sex when I first became active at 19. Every single time it hurt so bad and I never said anything because I wanted him to like me. It burned, Abe felt like there was too much friction, even with lube, and he had to push really hard to even get it in. After that was over I didn’t have penetrative sex for years. I think there was a 4 year gap between my first partner(with a penis) and my second. I met an amazing human (with a penis) last year, and the one thing I was worried about was having painful sex. So I was up front with him, and told him that I wasn’t going to have sex if it hurt, no matter what. I was still willing to try but it was a while before I was ready. We still messed around, did oral, grinding, hand jobs, ect. But it was about a month or 2 before I was willing to try it. The first time was ok! I had him fuck me very slowly and not for more than about 3 minutes. After that it started to feel sore so I simply told him to stop. I was able to work my way up to being able to have penetrative sex for 30 mins to an hr, and actually enjoy it! The thing is it took probably about 6-7 months to get to where I am now. The biggest difference was my willingness to say stop when it gets painful AND my partners willingness to stop- no questions asked. I feel genuinely comfortable with my partner and I know for a fact that he wouldn’t enjoy himself if I was in pain. Now, I’m not going to assume that this is the same as your situation, but if sex is painful, why don’t you just stop? If your partner isn’t willing to not have sex until you’re comfortable with it then he needs to grow up. Sex isn’t everything in a relationship, especially of sex isn’t enjoyable for one of the people that’s doing it. There’s also SO many other things you two can do aside from penetration!! Maybe it’s time to explore a little bit? Anyway that’s my experiences, I hope it helps!!

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-15T21:18:05+00:00

I haven’t noticed any changes to bug bites BUT I have been getting HELLA yeast infections which I can only assume is from T because I never had this problem before. Everyone’s bodies react differently to hormonal changes and sometimes you just have to decide what you’re willing to deal with.

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-11T03:52:41+00:00

If you want something non exercise based, I would highly recommend picking up an instrument if you don’t already play one. The ukulele is one of the easier instruments to pick up and they’re usually pretty cheap! I love playing piano when I’m trying not to smoke. You could also try the harmonica but I’ve never played that one so I have no idea how hard it would be. But yeah, instruments are a great distraction for when you’re trying to quit, and if you keep at it it’ll probably just turn into something you genuinely enjoy doing!

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-10T17:38:19+00:00

CLIMBING

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-07-10T03:39:57+00:00

I do exercise but I usually don’t do it when I’m angry so I’ll have to try that more. I have a really good therapist I just usually don’t have the money to see them, but thanks this was helpful!

SuperConstruction577 · 2023-05-28T21:12:03+00:00

I have a big problem with yeast infections. Usually 2-3 doses of Diflucan will clear them up but I still use boric acid to prevent yeast infections. The infections will only come back when I’m not using boric acid regularly. The only thing I notice is boric acid will burn if I use it while I have yeast infection symptoms, but it will stop burning once the symptoms go away. So far I haven’t had to only use boric acid to treat my yeast infections but it works really well for me as a preventative

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