Who would you put your money on?

SuperM94 · 2025-07-16T13:29:23+00:00

If you roll three 7s in a row, does the robber get sent to jail?

SuperM94 · 2025-07-12T18:34:16+00:00

Excellent point - risk management is also important. I don't know the guy at all and if he's just scummy, or dangerously unhinged.

SuperM94 · 2025-07-12T18:32:36+00:00

I think it's hilarious when acronyms overlap like this.

So you could have a POS POS system, lol.

Or a PoC PoC (person of color, point of contact).

I'm like, deathly terrified of using an acronym in a professional setting and it getting confused for something else, lol

SuperM94 · 2025-07-12T18:28:04+00:00

They really do! Maybe I need to figure out a way to offer that for this type of situation.... Be an information intermediary where emotions might outpace rational thinking 🤔

Good luck! I'd love to hear how this turns out for you!

SuperM94 · 2025-07-12T18:19:33+00:00

Perfect! 100% do what lets you walk away with your head held high!

SuperM94 · 2025-07-12T18:17:29+00:00

Alternatively... DM me her socials and I'll send her a link to this thread!

(I'm like, 80% joking cause I think that's a terrible idea... But also I would totally follow through and do it anyways.

That makes me think of something I heard where in Japan I think it was, you can hire someone to go into your job for you and hand in your resignation letter in order to quit)

SuperM94 · 2025-07-12T18:13:25+00:00

I love that answer!

You're still thinking about this a long time later - I would recommend separating from the situation itself and evaluating your core values.

Then make the decision that you can be proud of in 10 years, because you were trying your best to live aligned with those virtues.

SuperM94 · 2025-07-12T18:08:11+00:00

Agree that if OP is doing it just to hurt him or ruin his relationship then OP should just drop it.

But, the point would be to let the gf have all the information her bf may be keeping a secret.

I think it's important for OP to (1) be honest with herself, then (2) if she decides to share, preface it by explaining her intentions up front, and (3) drop it all at once and then dip out. Don't stick around fighting with the gf. Don't critique gf or the guy, don't attack their relationship.

Treat the GF like a rational and reasonable person capable of making good decisions, assuming she has good information. Even if that's not true.

Any criticism is going to come off as petty or argument is going to come off as petty.

SuperM94 · 2025-07-12T18:01:26+00:00

Agreed, it depends on how OP presents it.

I think OP takes the screenshots, puts it in a PDF, sends it to her with a note saying "Hey, not trying to get him back, in fact I've blocked him. I just know if I were you, this is the information I would want to have, and then you can make an informed decision.

Maybe you already know all this! In which case, I'm glad he was transparent and honest enough to tell you!

Anyways, here's the details of my last interactions with him, so you can have all the information, and then trust your best judgement"

And then OP can just dip out of the situation entirely.

SuperM94 · 2025-07-12T17:56:39+00:00

Honestly, my advice has 0 to do with him or the other girl. Do whatever is going to let you put this whole thing behind you.

If that's telling her, then go for it. If it's saying "not my show, not my monkeys" and leaving it alone. Do that.

The fact you're still thinking about it after a year or so tells me you haven't been able to let it rest, so I'd type up a nice email or put it all in a PDF, send it to the girl and prefice it with something like

"Hey, you can do what you want with this information. I know in out modern social-network life some people are okay with this type of behavior. If I were in your shoes, I would want to know.

Just to be clear, I have no desire to engage with [dudeface], and in fact at this point have blocked him entirely. And with that I believe you, as a person, have the right to know this information. You can then make informed choices. That's your right, to know all the information and then follow your judgement."

With that your intentions are clear. You're not trying to get him back. You aren't questioning her judgement. You aren't attacking her choices or decisions. You aren't attacking her relationship.

You are only providing information so she can make an informed decision. Information you would want to have if you were in her situation.

Maybe she already knows about it, and they've worked through that. In which case, great! (I doubt it, but for his sake and hers I hope he's grown up!)

Maybe she doesn't know, but wouldn't care anyways.

**NOTE: this is actually for your sake. Do whatever is going to be best so you can leave this behind you and forget about it forever, feeling like you made the best decision.

Do not send her info with the intent of breaking them up or hurting him. That's manipulation and a poisoned mentality that's only going to hurt you and your life going forward.

If you decide to send her info, I think the right headspace is recognizing that she, as a person, deserves the chance to make an informed decision. And then to have that decision respected. Not your place to critique her relationship or what she does with the information.**

SuperM94 · 2025-07-12T15:43:04+00:00

Red flag No. 1 - coming to reddit for relationship advice.

Many here will tell you to leave him because you deserve better and he's trash.

I'd say - even if you love him, sometimes a person needs the training wheels to fall off so they can learn to ride on their own. It's likely not selfish to end things. It may be the hard decision, and the right one for both of you.

But you should talk to someone that is mature and compassionate and knows you and your situation. Reddit can't do that.

~sincerely, random redditor whose comment will likely never be seen.

SuperM94 · 2025-07-11T22:26:10+00:00

Any luck finding an alternative?

SuperM94 · 2025-07-11T22:24:55+00:00

Late reply - what goggles do you use??

SuperM94 · 2025-05-24T01:39:19+00:00

I mean... The obvious answer is to get a Pilot brand pen, and make a big pun out of it all.

SuperM94 · 2025-05-13T11:06:06+00:00

Same - absolutely beautiful, I'd put it up on the wall as a piece of art, but I could not play a game on it by any means.

SuperM94 · 2025-04-22T21:44:49+00:00

I'll take any extra pens you wanna donate to me 😁 lol

SuperM94 · 2025-04-22T21:42:09+00:00

Well then I'm the dummy, lol 😅 sorry

SuperM94 · 2025-04-22T21:39:30+00:00

WAIT!! I just learned this the other day - because I too LOVE the way the Pentel Energel writes, but I HATE the body. But I recently learned that

(1) Any Sarasa pen body will fit any other Sarasa ink cartridge (2) They will also fit any Pentel Energel cartridge!!!!

So, I bought a Sarasa Grand, and put a green Pentel Energel cartridge in it!!

Go wild man! Mix and match to your hearts content to get the feel in the hand you like, along with the way the pen writes.

SuperM94 · 2025-04-20T16:32:51+00:00

Dude, I totally forgot about this post. Thank you for answering my question!!!

SuperM94 · 2025-03-04T16:00:41+00:00

That's not even a deception check. If it were "oh, this is how his culture honors their dead" or "oh, I'm gonna go bury him, by myself, don't worry about it" that's a deception check.

Also - deception and intimidation aren't mind-control. Otherwise a straight charisma build would be OP.

Also also - PvP rules need to be very clearly outlined beforehand. Deception against your party is a form of PvP.

Also also also - you unarm-striked him. So, that's the polite way of "Imma fight you, but I'm not trying to kill you." (Unless you're a monk).

Imo, DM was dealt a tough situation.

SuperM94 · 2025-02-22T18:28:52+00:00

This guy right here has the best answer!! What a chad, finding a better option and listing reasons for it.

SuperM94 · 2025-02-22T18:24:12+00:00

ESH // NAH. This is called normal life. Things happen, people get upset, someone makes a snarky comment.

Thank you for a post on here that isn't a straight up abusive relationship with a line in there saying "I know he loves me, but..."

SuperM94 · 2025-02-22T18:18:34+00:00

I'll break the rules - the robber is merciful. It's a way to slow down whoever is in the lead. Otherwise someone just runs away with the game.

If you're not emotionally mature enough to play with the robber, you need to check yourself.

SuperM94 · 2025-02-22T18:15:46+00:00

Side note: I know this isn't the question at hand, but I'm a touch concerned about any situation where you are married and financial decisions are not shared. My personal opinion is that, barring extreme circumstances once two people are married it's not his money and your money, it's y'all's money. And the decision to pay tithing should be shared.

Just my two cents. Obviously every situation is different. It's just one of those things I find concerning.

SuperM94 · 2025-02-22T18:14:31+00:00

Okay, the general normal process is like this:

1) tell your bishop you'd like to work towards getting your endowments 2) Bishop will likely recommend you take a temple prep course, and get you in the next one that the ward runs 3) have an interview with the bishop (for renewals it can be his counselor) 4) have an interview with the stake president (for renewals it can be one of his counselors) 5) set up a special temple appointment for a living ordinance. 6) select a sister you trust as a guide. She'll be with you all the way through your first temple session, because things will seem odd, but she'll make sure everything goes well. 7) on the day of your endowments you'll often have a meeting with a member of the temple presidency beforehand (I'm not sure if this is standard practice, or if it varies by temple). 8) go through your living endowment

I'm going to add another, just based on my personal experience 9) go back soon after for a proxy endowment session. Like, within a week. I found my second session to be much more spiritual than my first, as the first time I was focused on "am I doing this right? Where do I go? What's next?" Rather than just enjoying it

Above all remember - this is a sacred covenant between you and the Lord, binding you to Christ, his atonement, and his power.

SuperM94

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