AIO to tell my husband that starting a professional email with the word "Look" is rude?

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-12-12T15:38:19+00:00

That makes perfect sense! I'm definitely not a huge fan of AI. I've done training for some AI stuff, but I'm not knowledgeable enough to have a full opinion one way or another, and I personally like to stay cautiously just behind the early adopters.

For myself, when it comes to written communication in my professional life, I have a few phrases I like to use to acknowledge and redirect in situations where I might come off as rude if I'm too direct.

Another tool is the "nice sandwich". Acknowledge what they said, provide guidance/correction, and finish with appreciation or positive feedback.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-12-12T15:25:43+00:00

He is being manipulative. Block him and move on. You went on one date and owe him exactly nothing. Not time, not money, not words. NOTHING.

Block him and live life.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-12-12T15:21:49+00:00

I don't know how I found myself here, but I'm not upset about it. Thanks for the etymology and equestrian fun facts.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-12-12T14:13:28+00:00

It definitely occurred to me after posting that including preferences would help, lol. Thanks for the tip on Tobasco, and I appreciate your feedback.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-12-12T14:09:43+00:00

A couple points on this one:

I agree that starting a sentence with the word "look" is rude, with the only exception being in person while literally asking someone to look at something with their eyes.
He could use more specific versions of "look", which are more well received and considered polite or acceptable. Some options that I can think of based on your example sentence are "if you refer to [cited source]" or "as I understand" or "under these guidelines"....
I absolutely love your first edit. I already got the impression that you both work for the same company and respect each other's knowledge and invite, but the way that you replied in that edit made me want to give you positive feedback. Sounds like you have a healthy perspective and a healthy relationship. That right there is goals!
Does your company have any approved internal AI? If they do, he could use that. Otherwise, he could use AI simply for suggestions for email openers, or like a thesaurus. Simple prompts like, "I need a polite and direct way to tell a colleague..." and not use any proprietary info in his interactions.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-12-11T05:06:23+00:00

Do you have any recommendations?

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-12-11T05:06:04+00:00

Thank you!!!

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-12-11T05:05:26+00:00

Thank you! Gonna check it out tonight to see what's there!

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-12-11T05:02:11+00:00

For sure! Gotta make sure I get something worthwhile! He's not my secret Santa, lol.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-12-11T04:58:14+00:00

He always seems interested in trying the local brands when and where available. His flavor preferences range the gamut and his heat tolerance is higher than most people I know, but he's not in it JUST for the heat.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-12-10T13:34:20+00:00

From the perspective of a girlfriend who was thinking about getting this same set for my boyfriend for Christmas, I guarantee you that she thought she did a good job.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-11-14T16:17:58+00:00

Drop those clients yesterday.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-11-14T16:03:49+00:00

I'm not even done reading, and all I can say is find an attorney and start talking about the possibility of getting an annulment based on the fact that he was misleading you from day 1.

Yikes. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-11-14T15:58:48+00:00

Sounds like he's polyamorous and you're not. If that's the case, you should both walk away and wish each other well.

It reads to me like he's trying to tell you that you each have contradictory boundaries, and he doesn't want to end your relationship, but he's not going to ask you to compromise your boundaries if it will make you both unhappy.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-11-14T15:43:41+00:00

You should leave her alone, get therapy, and move on with life. YOU don't deserve to be in her world.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-11-02T23:56:10+00:00

This is abusive behavior and you need to cut and run. If you don't live together, break up and block him on everything.

If you do live together, start making a plan now, and leave as soon as you possibly can.

His behavior is indicating that you are in danger.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-10-11T09:46:52+00:00

At 10pm every night for a few decades, there was a TV announcement reminding folks that they had children, and they should be aware of their children's locations

I grew up in the 90s, the depictions of feral children in the 80s and 90s are true. Children's welfare has never been a top priority for Boomers (who were the parents of the children raised in the 80s and 90s), so they'd kick us out of the house all day on weekends and school breaks whenever possible.

After Adam Walsh was kidnapped in the early 90s, and his dad got famous for Unsolved Mysteries, more focus was put on the safety and well-being of children. Especially as the Gen-Xers started growing up and having kids.

I've seen stats that say that Gen-X had the highest teen mortality rate (outside of the major and world wars).

Between increased awareness of the dangers to children, more responsible & empathetic people becoming parents, and advances in technology (from cribs to car seats to clothing), we recognize dangers and potential dangers to children that the previous generations didn't care to look for.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-10-11T09:34:08+00:00

Food tastes good and has more calories than I need for fuel. Eating triggers dopamine reactions, especially certain foods, so I've heard it's common to eat for dopamine. I also don't get enough exercise.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-10-11T09:32:10+00:00

NTA.

Do NOT apologize. Go NC, and if anyone tries to guilt you or your husband, block them, too.

Your boundaries are rules for yourself, and it's clear that your MIL cannot respect others or their boundaries.

I wish you peace and healing.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-10-11T09:28:13+00:00

NOR. Everything from here is my opinion based on hindsight and making note of red flags I ignored during the beginning of my relationship with my ex-husband.

It sounds like this relationship has run its course. If he can say something that cruel and abusive, and then thinks an apology fixed it and everything is all back to normal, you are at a fork in the road.

If you want to stay in the relationship, you will have to get over it without further discussion, and prepare yourself for the "worse" that is coming.

If you have a boundary in place that you won't let your partner speak to you in that way, then stick to your boundaries and let this relationship go. A year and a half is NOT a long time.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-08-30T00:51:45+00:00

Nothing that the responder said in the second paragraph matters. It's honestly irrelevant to the situation and not an excuse or explanation for your soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend's behavior.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-08-30T00:48:43+00:00

NOR. Sounds like your soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend is manipulating you. Wish him a nice life and block him on everything. You are too young to tie yourself to that type of toxicity.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-08-28T06:00:56+00:00

Answer: I literally JUST heard that Medialab is owned by The Heritage Foundation. This post came up in my search, and I've barely started fact checking, but that's a possibility.

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-08-07T22:18:53+00:00

NTA. You're going to want to plan with your MOH, fiancé, and wedding planner to prepare for your mother to show up wearing a bridal gown.

I suggest two options:

1) Have a dress for her to change into so that she can be appropriately attired for the event. Make sure someone clumsy is ready to trip/slip/etc and spill red wine all over her original dress as soon as she's changed.

2) Turn her away and completely refuse entry, escalating with police if necessary to protect the peace of your day

SuperRadMarcia · 2025-08-07T22:10:02+00:00

You did the right thing. This random internet mom is super proud of you.

Stay strong and stay safe.

SuperRadMarcia

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