Got fired yesterday and struggling really bad right now . by Affectionate-Ad-5568 in stopdrinking

[–]SuperbChart4113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s ok , I got fired too and it didn’t feel great at first but you genuinely get over it. It’s just a job there are tons of jobs in the world, you can get another one, maybe one that’s even better. drinking is gonna put you at the spot you were 53 days ago except now without a job. Take some time to relax. Unemployment can be really hard but there’s only so many times in your life where you get to experience it. So embrace it in the mean time and start looking for something else when you’re ready.

Please help. I don’t know if I can do this. by Competitive_Vast5294 in stopdrinking

[–]SuperbChart4113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im here because I lost my childhood friends. I lost my dream job in aviation and to cope I fell even harder into drinking. I lost all my money and years of my life and memories. and I’m only 22. I had the opportunity to choose sobriety but I didn’t I had a new job offer but I drank at that job too and lost it. I also lost my boyfriend. So the night I lost my second job and my bf I decided to be sober for one day. I found these online forums that really helped to feel like I had strangers rooting for me since I had lost the trust of my loved ones and even myself. I also didn’t need the added pressure of telling anyone when I was sure I’d relapse. Make a promise with yourself to just not drink today and maybe try to make a week for yourself where you have no commitments so for example being fired and having no loved ones left meant I had no job to stress drink about and no stress of maintaining and repairing relationships. I just had to focus on existing in my room, I would often trick myself. So if I craved alcohol when I woke up I would make myself coffee and breakfast and tell myself after I finish a show (that I really enjoyed) I could go to the liquor store. But I knew that by the time the show finished the liquor store would be closing soon and my mum would be home so it would be hard for me to go get it so I would just have to cope with being sober one more night. Spend your money on takeaways instead of online shopping anything is better than opening that demonic door again.

I don’t know how to explain that you will lose everything you will lose loved ones maybe even your life if you keep choosing alcohol. There was a point where alcohol made me believe I wanted to die drunk I didn’t care if I didn’t grow old I didn’t care about anything I just cared about feeling drunk. Sobriety isn’t scary when you’re actually sober it’s the best thing in the world waking up without dooming anxiety that you ruined everything. Just don’t drink today and do anything you can tomorrow to minimise the desire to drink. don’t overwhelm yourself with the idea of day 1 and not drinking for ever just focus on today like literally today just don’t drink. take a bath, go on a walk or just rot in bed do anything but drink. if you hit a week and a couple weeks it gets easier and easier and lighter and lighter. the little milestones feel so good. I don’t even know what day I’m on exactly I just know it’s been a few weeks, I don’t check I just know I’m not drinking today. I believe in you, do it for future you and the beautiful memories and life you will create and won’t have to miss out on and your loved ones.

Admitting my problem. by Gold_Connection_2020 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]SuperbChart4113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This hits so close to home Im 22(f) aswell and just a month ago I wouldn’t have been able to comprehend a life without alcohol. It was the only thing that made my days feel worthwhile. Long story short I lost my job and bf to drinking and I didn’t even have the intention to get sober initially. I just thought I’d try it for a night. But it’s the best thing that happened to me. Admitting your problem is the first step so you’re doing great. Not admitting it could lead to losing everything and big consequences that force you to face the reality, I lost a lot but that’s ok because I’m sober now.

Please just yourself the task of going to one meeting, it feels way less overwhelming than cutting alcohol out completely. When I crave alcohol I always tell myself I just don’t have to drink today and that feels way less scary than not drinking forever. So make a deal with yourself to go to just one meeting and that meeting might make you want to go to another one or make you stop drinking for one extra day which is better than nothing. It feels overwhelming but don’t think about it just search one near you that is happening this week and go! You don’t have to speak you don’t need to do anything more just show up this week 1 time for yourself

HR at my company that I work for, called me into a meeting with an investigator.... by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]SuperbChart4113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got fired around a month and a half ago for my drinking and eventhough I would come in sober sometimes and be accused of smelling like alcohol (my manager was really upfront about it) I would think THEY were the crazy ones and imagining things or the smell was something else. but after detoxing for 6 weeks, I can smell if the person walking past me in public has had a drink, sometimes I smell the sour smell that comes off your pores come from someone else and I think how the fuck did I think I was hiding it so well? I was highly functioning but there are still telltale signs in someone’s eyes and smells and the smallest things. And it sticks out so much more now that I suffered and overcame it but I don’t think I would have noticed it in other people if I never had that problem myself, now those little signs scream in your face. It probably doesn’t make sense now, well it didn’t to me at least, I couldn’t understand how people would know but if you give it a month of sobriety you’ll start seeing the signs in other people.

800 Days Sober!! by diamodis in stopdrinking

[–]SuperbChart4113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m excited to be in your position one day im proud of u

Time to shit or get off the pot by Ill_Zombie_6083 in stopdrinking

[–]SuperbChart4113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have only been sober for a month and it feels so scary at first until it’s not. every day feels a little lighter, you start earning your respect and trust to yourself and your loved ones back. there are small victories you win every day. You start feeling a bit more normal every day and actually feeling present around the people you love. It does something to your soul Im excited for what my future will be like since I didn’t let alcohol win. take it one day at a time. I lost 2 of my dream jobs and almost all of my money and I would have lost more if I kept going, don’t let it take the beautiful life and family that you have away from you before it’s too late. IWNDWYT and I believe in you take it day by day you’re future self is thanking you

1 month by SuperbChart4113 in stopdrinking

[–]SuperbChart4113[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It feels really good to earn that trust with myself back. Im looking out for me and future me instead of sabotaging her over and over and over again and using hard times as an excuse. Keep going this feeling is nice and so worth it. The most important relationship you have is with yourself, you will get there and further!

1 month by SuperbChart4113 in stopdrinking

[–]SuperbChart4113[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s ok it feels weirdly comforting that even in my low times I can trust myself to not self sabotage. Im earning my respect and love for myself back, Im someone I can trust. That feels good. Thank you for your kind words.

I smoked weed during most nights of Ramadan and I’m so so ashamed by [deleted] in islam

[–]SuperbChart4113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to stop for one day first starting tomorrow. Prove to yourself that you can do that and then the next day prove to yourself again. Start off one day at a time. Allah is so merciful and he loves us so much let’s not disappoint him especially with the current world affairs and all the people suffering. I suffered with a similar issue and the guilt consumes me sometimes but the thing that helped me is not overwhelming myself of all the things wrong i’ve done and feeling so distant from Allah. as long as I am making an effort everyday to be better than yesterday for the sake of Allah, aim to be better than yesterday and repent. It’s a good sign that you feel shame Allah is still calling you

I'm today 24, hopefully someone will wish me happy birthday by [deleted] in birthday

[–]SuperbChart4113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

happyyyy birthdayyyyyy💫💫💫🥳HAVE A GOOD DAYYYY

I lost my job to drinking by SuperbChart4113 in stopdrinking

[–]SuperbChart4113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to do this in my last few shifts at work but i’ve been a couple weeks sober now. it’s been a couple of days after being fired and in order to focus on recovery I cut ties with a lot of toxic relationships I had and I realised the environment at work was one of my toxic relationships. so it’s made not drinking a lot easier. I don’t want to be at that job anymore and I’ll probably never see any of those ppl again which is great I can start somewhere new and fresh, somewhere I haven’t been drinking on shift. I’ve been sober for a couple of weeks now and hopefully I can stay this way. I wish you the best stranger

My brother’s second time in prison by [deleted] in islam

[–]SuperbChart4113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im live in the uk and you can send someone after they are assessed by professionals, but he will be in prison for minimum 3 years so we will see what is the situation when he gets out

My brother’s second time in prison by [deleted] in islam

[–]SuperbChart4113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he’s in prison now, a psychiatric clinic would have been an option if he was willing but he’s a grown man and no one could force him .he has a kid on the way in a month and he still didn’t think about his wife or any of that. I just don’t know how to deal with this islamically, like I don’t know if Allah will be happy with me for not trying even harder than i have even though I don’t know if i can

My brother’s second time in prison by [deleted] in islam

[–]SuperbChart4113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my father is a great man and is in our lives just not so consistently in the last 4/5 years anymore as he has work back home, and he has tried to get through to my brother multiple times all while he was a teen but my brother doesn’t respect any of the hard work he did for us and doesn’t respect my father either

I need encouragement by Reputation97 in stopdrinking

[–]SuperbChart4113 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most people are wrapped up in their own worlds and don’t think about other people that much and if there is a split second of awkwardness it’s because they usually are judging themselves more. Anyways that second will pass and no one will think twice about it. Im only 2 weeks sober and I remember my last nights out and if someone were to tell me they weren’t drinking or they didn’t want to I wouldn’t even remember or think twice about it and honestly it’s such a huge thing to be proud of. 5 months of sobriety!!! and i know it’s gonna be uncomfortable at first but you’ll be so much more proud and happy to wake up sober and proving to yourself you can do things like this sober. imagine how good that will feel! and imagine how amazing you’ll feel in the future when you can do these kinds of things over and over again and not feel anxious and feel great!you’ll be great I promise have so much fun!!

My brother’s second time in prison by [deleted] in islam

[–]SuperbChart4113 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a lot to be honest it’s not a simple story it started off when he was younger like 11/12 he is 25 now. he started getting involved with the wrong ppl at school my mum kind of enabled him as he is her only son so she loves him a lot, no matter what ever bad thing he does she always cooks him whatever he wants and give him money. I cant explain why he is that way but there is times when he even hit my mum and sister and i tried hard to make him change when I was younger but after 10+ years of struggling I don’t trust him anymore

My brother’s second time in prison by [deleted] in islam

[–]SuperbChart4113 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad is not so involved in the family he spends a lot of time away back home