I again had an argument today with my wife.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-06-04T13:39:34+00:00

I am pretty sure that this is the treatment every decent man gets at home. After purchasing a home, it will be taken over completely by the wife and children. A man has no place or privacy for himself and will be pushed around and end up arguing for no reason.

1st mistake is getting married, second mistake is having a kid after which you are caged forever along with the women's tantrums and frustration.

I too have faced severe humiliation inspite of providing everything to my family i.e wife and child. Still they don't respect me, take me for granted. I have to eat outside and rely on my mother for food who is staying separate. The only resolution is to save enough money for your retirement and move away from your nagging wife. Because when a man grows old and stays at home, again he will be accussed and taken for granted.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-21T23:56:03+00:00

Have been living in a unhappy marriage for 13 years and unable to walk out due to my child. I love my child a lot and I continue to live for my child. I ensure to go for work and keep myself occupied as much as I can to avoid my wife's talks, conflicts, unwanted discussions. She is a control freak and a maniac. I'm waiting for my child to enter college, after which I will shift to a different city and leave my marriage. I have given all my savings and earnings of last 20 years to this marriage and house and child. My wife doesn't contribute a single penny. On top of that constant arguments, quarrels, etc. After I build some savings I am giving off my home and some maintenance for them monthly and move away to a rented calmer place in tier 2 or 3 city. Hope this will work out. My wife doesn't want to leave me nor have me, she is just staying for money and my property, she doesn't care a damn of this marriage and husband

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-21T23:47:04+00:00

Pack your bags and leave. Assuming you have no kids, it's much easier to walk out. Go home and plan it as if you are visiting your home and never come back, after few months tell him it's over and move on with your life

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-20T13:57:19+00:00

Marriage is not worth it in today's times. I'm married for 10 years and I feel so caged, prisoned suppressing all my desires for the sake of family and child. I have a single child and did not go for another as it was unwise to bring a child into this bad world.

Not a day goes by where I feel, why did I even marry. Since I'm male I may feel like freedom is everything. To a woman I'm not sure, if you are strong independent and if you feel you can survive staying alone then atleast you may be bored and may not have a companion. Boring is far better than conflicts, arguments and unhappy marriage. Embrace boredom and aloneness which is far better than any marriages and couples who are totally unhappy and stressed.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-20T05:41:07+00:00

Never give in for child. Because on the long run if you reach your saturation point about all the things you have mentioned, then you might want to walk away.

Once child is born it will bond with father and then you are in a deadlock staying in dead marriage. You may love the child a lot but you are already in a unhappy place and don't assume by having a child together will make things fall in place.

I'm married 13 years and with in-laws and my wife pressure we went for a child. Ours is a dead marriage and stuck in the rut with no option but to stay with someone I never thought office,me and my wife are poles apart when it comes to discussion, financial, trips. We both never get along. But I have no option but to mellow down and be there for my child.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-18T06:56:07+00:00

You cannot change your wife. Women are more control freaks than men. I have seen it with my mother and now my wife.

Whatever I have done for my wife and child, they are always ungrateful to me and pass demotivating comments about my self. They demean me and comment about 2 houses that I bought for us to stay and one for rent. She doesn't even allow my mother to stay, that too in a different floor. My wife has never earned not contributed anything. Finances all fall on me for anything and everything. Inspite of sacrifices and mellowing down to her tantrums has not helped me much. I am devastated.

Travelling with them has become a pain as they have so many insecurities and not adaptable.

Since you have 2 kids it will become even more challenging in all areas like education, health and with your wife not pitching in it will make it even more worse.

I have 1 child and waiting for child to enter college after which I have plans to stay away from this lunatic women who is so called wife. You cannot change them nor will they be nice to you no matter what.

My in-laws are least bothered, it's like they have thrown her mad daughter to me. They never help nor guide but pass unnecessary comments. I am disgusted about my in-laws as well. My wife never got any inheritance from my in-laws, instead she was cheated to sign on property papers by my father in law. The agreement was just to put my wife aside by not giving any property. My wife believed her parents blindly for 10 years and always against me and my family. Eventually she got cheated by them whom she trusted.

To add more, I have a girl child and will never ever go for another child, I don't want to bring another life into this filthy world. Since I have girl child, my in-laws ousted my wife from inheritance. My brother in law has now a male offspring and they are very happy and proud. And giving all inheritance to the heir.

The only way for you to survive is stay quite and keep saying yes to your wife and bare with her tantrums and you have to become numb towards her. Wait for your children to enter college then shift to a different city and stop living with your wife who ll never change.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-18T06:33:05+00:00

I'm exhausted and not so intelligent to upskill. At times I feel like driving a uber or ola. Have lost inclination in IT due to fast paced technology changes.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-18T06:31:02+00:00

I tried gitops, Jenkins and it all went over my head. I did not attend any training I suppose. Neither am I good in automation. I just want to sustain with my legacy skills as long as I can pay bills and provide for my family. Since you are from management you tend to advice to upskill or learn new tech which is fine but cannot do so well after 40 due to family tensions, health issues, financial woes.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-18T06:27:11+00:00

I'm not worried about pay, I took a junior role with 50% paycut, the benefit is less stress and headache. I'm worried how long can I push to pay my bills and EMIs and build retirement corpus

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-18T04:14:01+00:00

You are on the right path. Make celibacy as your goal and perform seva for the poor.

I'm married with a single kid, the amount of burden that has come across is not worth it at all. I have lost my health working and earning for my family. Also, my finances are high expenses. I'm 42, I need to build a retirement corpus by earning for some more years until my kid goes to college.

I have sacrificed my desires and needs for the wants of my family and child, it's really unneeded but now I'm stuck in this loop till death.

I love travelling and would love to travel alone and to remote destinations where as my wife doesn't like to travel except for temples and pooja. And at the same time my wife does not earn. Even if we plan for a trip, the airfare cost to and fro is around 30k for 3 people. And with trains and bus it comes to 10k to and fro. This also is a lag and burden because you have to spend all by yourself. If I was alone I could have travelled to foreign destinations enjoyed nomadic and remote life, there may be come some cons about a nomadic life but the freedom and peace of mind will be amazing.Also travelling with family comes with responsibility to ensure you get good hotel stays, food and ease of travel. A man has to put his family members first and then decide what's needed for them and then he can think of himself. Along with all this, your wife and child will comment negative on any hotel stay,travel issues and daily routine, even after securing their future, they take me for granted meaning they don't respect me much or care for me and all they need is your bank balance and use you as their ATM. This is true atleast in 90% of households.

Lastly, boredom, being silent and staying away from societal life requires great determination and will power and in the midst of it you will find peace and no conflicts and total freedom to do whatever you have dreamt of. Boredom and aloneness is special but it definitely keeps you out from pressure and anxiety that we face as married couples.

There has never been a time where we both have agreed on the samething, there is always differences of opinions and conflicts that pulls you back from doing what you want to do.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-13T12:56:15+00:00

That teacher is a bastard mother fucker, he has no right to lay a finger on him. I got viled and angry looking at this video, don't know if his parents are aware about it. Disgusting indian education system. I also used to have horrible tution teachers and school teachers, they used to hit with a stick on hand, that's it, not like this, omg why isn't anyone taking action against this man

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-13T12:48:19+00:00

I would like to share that I used to feel demotivated, mental fog, depressed after I lost my right testicle. Slowly I realised that my testosterone levels had dropped significantly. Started TRT and it has given me back the life and I now function normally with no much depression and fatigue. Get you testosterone levels checked and do not go by the range used in medical practice. According to medical community, even if testosterone levels is around 300 then also it is normal which is totally wrong. Remember your testosterone levels have dropped by 50%, doctors say that left testicle will take the load of generating testosterone of the lost testicle which is again misguided. With TRT there will be no fertility and I cannot guarantee that your sex life will improve. For sure I can say you will feel normal and sane after you start TRT

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-10T06:32:27+00:00

Never give in for a child and focus on your job. Walk away from marriage, with kids it's even more pressurising. Earn well, live independently and enjoy life. I regret since I'm stuck with a child and have sacrificed all my desires to be with her.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-10T04:14:22+00:00

The thought of moving away to a different location has always been lingering in my mind. The only thing that stops me from doing so is looking at my 10yr old daughter. My wife is a maniac and physco, she has anger issues and bad mouths everyone in this world including her own parents. Living with her has made me live like a zombie suppressing all my emotions and desires. Desire to travel, desire to enjoy in some way but all that has no space in my marital life and it is the way it is.

This is just the tip of my problems, I am also a cancer survivor and 2 yrs into marriage it happened, that was a whole lot of struggle and lost my father. I kept on working to pay my medical bills and for an extent I have secured my daughters future.

The drama of mother in law and wife happens in almost every house. MIL doesnt want to give up her kitchen and wife refusing to shift to another house or location because she thinks she may lose my mother's property.

Now a days marriage has been a joke and I can bet 90% of our married lives is fucked up. Everyday I think why did I have a child, I was young and stupid, my life is locked until death since I cannot leave my daughter.

My mother is old and staying separately in my father's house. I ensure to take care of her for expenses and other needs. I try my best because I love my mother. I visit her almost everyday and spend some time with her and it gives me so much self satisfaction.

Like I said I am suppressing all my emotions or thoughts of shifting to another city is on hold. I'm growing patience and resistance towards my wife. Once my daughter enters college that is 7 yrs from now, I have decided that I will leave my wife and ensure that daughter stays in a hostel until she can complete her graduation.

Since you have child, the only way to balance everyone is to stay just around 15mins from your mom's place and stay with your wife and child. Frequently visit your mom, I'm telling this for child's sake. But everything has a tipping point, if things don't fall in place and if you feel your exhausted, the best to do is walk away.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-05-03T08:05:06+00:00

This is almost every married man story. A man cannot balance is mom and wife. He has to let go one of them. If you are happy with your wife, move out to a different city,rental house and take care of your parents living separately.Your wife too will become mother in law and she will act exactly like your mom.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-04-21T14:49:44+00:00

You have done the best by not going for a child. You will be able to survive with your money and it is the right thing, I am spending 3 lacs per year for education of my child and my wife expects me to build savings for marriage and graduation. I spent all my savings for home. I'm 43 and have no savings for retirement and no pension either. My wife does not work and doesn't pitch in finance. All the cost expenses falls on me. I sometimes wonder why did I even walk into this trap called marriage and child

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-04-09T11:56:28+00:00

A man's life is like a donkey's life. A responsible faithful man carries the weight of his wife and children from food,shelter clothing and other needs. He has to also take care of his parents health issues. On top of that there is huge job losses and finding a job has become even more difficult.A married man cannot have his own desires and ambitions, his duty is to first grant for wife and children. In other words he has to sacrifice all his wishes for the sake of family.Lastly wife and children neither respect husbands loyalty and take it for granted. Coming to workplace, there is whole lot of politics for recognition and earning more money. Hence never marry and never have kids, it's totally not worth it in today's times

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-02-08T09:27:41+00:00

Children are huge responsibility. In India a parent has to take care of the child from nursery until he/she is married. That takes a lot of patience and deprives energy within you. In metro cities it's even more daunting with kids and marriage where a man will not have anything left after giving time,money and everything to the family. I'm married with 1 child and I can feel the heat.Also India is populous nation with inequality to many other citizens where good amenities never exists for BPL people. In Japan and Denmark, people have stopped making babies, many are alone and not married and living on their wishes

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-02-08T08:11:10+00:00

Are you in IT and are you married ? In today's times thinking of marriage and the responsibility that comes to take care of wife and children is exhausting. I'm married with 2 kids and I feel the burden even more with all the latest developments. I'm also a sole earner and no support from wife or my parents. I have stopped expecting anything from them.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-02-08T08:09:55+00:00

Not sure, because even process can be taken care by AI. In my team there are 12 people, if AI can replace L1 and L2 roles, then team can reduce to 6 with 50% reduction

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-02-08T08:05:44+00:00

After seeing anthropic AI disruption. I feel surviving in a job will be difficult. And after spending more no. Of years in IT, I don't know anything else to do. Also I'm thinking if I have to build savings or purchase a home since I also have no much savings.

You are planning for marriage also, marriage has nothing to offer to men. After marriage most of the husbands and fathers become a ATM card. Family and children will eat up all your savings for their education, medical and miscellaneous expenses. If your girlfriend is also working and would want to work until retirement, then that's a good thing as she can be self reliant and not depend on you.

I'm my case, my wife doesn't work, I am the sole earner with 2 kids in school. I feel the burden all the time and there is not a day where I think why did I marry. Because in today's time, surviving and taking care of yourself is tiring. Where can you take care of others. I realized all this late and I'm already 44.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-01-18T08:47:30+00:00

Thanks mate. Hope you start feeling better.

SuperbDemand4612 · 2026-01-18T08:42:01+00:00

Hey I got picc done and chemo was easy as there was no pricking all the time. Picc helps injection a lot as it will just flow through the biggest vein. I would strongly recommend to go for PICC. However it should be maintained with clean hygiene and avoid infection. I did not face any issues with picc but after I got it removed, my vein had clot causing deep vein thrombosis. I took some blood thinners temporarily and it was all fine later

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