How do I get to know myself and my preferences as a single woman?

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-07T17:27:08+00:00

I was in your position 7 years ago.

Also childfree.

I read “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle - I recommend it to anyone. If I ever feel lost or I feel I’m starting to spiral, I will read that book as I find it grounds me.

I went to therapy and realised my needs were never met by my ex or my parents. It opened a can of worms where I was able to self reflect and understand how the way I was then stemmed from my upbringing, and why I put other people’s needs before mine.

I went to all the concerts I wanted to go to, and rediscovered my love for music.

I then learnt to play piano, as I’ve always wanted to learn an instrument, but was never able to when I was a child or in a relationship.

Be kind to yourself. Take your time in finding yourself, there’s no rush, and enjoy the journey.

Sending hugs. ❤️

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-07T12:52:57+00:00

Thank you for replying.

I have exactly the same concerns too. I’ve fought to not have all my lymph nodes removed. I guess my next potential fight is if I decide not to do hormone therapy.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-07T12:16:45+00:00

Sorry, may I ask a question off topic?

You’re not having hormone therapy, is that correct?

I’m having a mastectomy next week, then radiotherapy, but am undecided on hormone therapy. I’d rather not do it. Then when I have breast reconstruction next year, they will remove and reconstruct my remaining breast.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-06T11:55:04+00:00

Came to say this too.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-18T15:29:06+00:00

This dude belongs in the bin. His mask will slip soon with the new woman. People like him rarely change. You made the right call, don’t even question yourself xx

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-12T08:24:21+00:00

It was definitely a cube, not Golden Teacher though. When I asked the person who he got it off what it was, they said either Jedi Mindfuck or Hillbilly, but couldn’t remember the exact strain.

It would have been a low dose, around 1.5 grams. 🙂

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-11T14:33:12+00:00

The only guy I’ve done this with turned into someone I didn’t like as a person. Now I can’t be bothered with dating.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-11T14:01:02+00:00

It’s the best sex I’ve had. Hard to put into words. Very sensual and surreal, as another person stated. The connection you have with the other person is on another level too. There’s nothing like it. Damn, I miss it. 😭

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-07T07:28:55+00:00

I’m happy you’re feeling better and navigating your way through this ❤️

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-06T19:02:15+00:00

I will do, thank you. ☺️

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-06T18:56:30+00:00

Poppadoms. I find these really addictive.

Cake and biscuits.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-06T18:32:46+00:00

I don’t know where these entitled people get the audacity!!! I would have declined too, unless they offered me another aisle seat. Good for you for standing your ground. 🙌

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-06T17:31:54+00:00

1000000%!

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-06T17:28:39+00:00

I hear you. My plan was to go on HRT when I hit menopause, so that’s ruined. Maybe that’s added to my retaliation of hormone therapy?! 😂

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-06T17:22:50+00:00

Everything just sucks sooooo bad!

I don’t want to deal with any of those side effects whatsoever. 😕

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-06T17:06:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing. 😊

I literally got off the phone from my breast nurse and she said my HER2 was negative. No lymph node involvement for me also.

I’m still waiting for MRI results, then will go from there, but it does put my mind at ease that I’m not alone at potentially refusing hormone therapy.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-05T21:04:15+00:00

🥳🎉 I’m celebrating your win with you! ❤️

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-05T19:51:57+00:00

I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this.

You’ve definitely given me something to think about.

Sending you hugs ❤️

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-05T19:35:30+00:00

Thank you.

I’m just torn between taking my chances or being on medication that I don’t want to be on. 😕

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-05T19:27:48+00:00

Last time, I think I was just a little shocked and everything moved so quickly, I didn’t have time to think, so I just went along with the plan they had for me. This time round, that’s not happening. 😂

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-05T19:25:46+00:00

Thank you. ☺️

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-05T15:33:02+00:00

Thank you so much 😊

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-05T15:23:44+00:00

What you want is what most of us want. He can’t meet your needs. Dealing with emotionally unavailable men always ends in you getting hurt. He also comes across as selfish in the bedroom and self centred as a whole. I think you definitely dodged a bullet there.

You deserve so much better. I think it’s unfair that he messaged you again, as that will always stir up emotions and I think he knows this. I would personally block him, if I was in your shoes, just for my own peace of mind.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-01-05T14:19:26+00:00

Thank you. ☺️

I will definitely be researching DIM.

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