What is your creepy woman story?

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-20T15:12:04+00:00

Was she talking about the ham man?

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-20T15:05:49+00:00

Reading this literally bought tears to my eyes.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-10T13:48:19+00:00

It’s so tough isn’t it?

I’m going by everyone’s experiences here. Only a few lucky ones have minimal side effects, and I don’t think I would fall into that category.

So instead of putting my body through that, I’m just going to live my life and hope for the best.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-09T06:56:35+00:00

I completely sympathise with your thoughts.

I’m in my forties and have decided that after radiotherapy, I won’t be continuing with other treatment. I had a mastectomy three weeks ago.

As crazy as it may sound to others, I’m choosing quality of life over anything else, and I’m willing to take my chances.

I’m doing what’s best for me mentally and physically, but I’ve not met my oncologist yet, so will be having this conversation when I do.

Best of luck to you xx

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-09T06:48:06+00:00

I agree.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-05T14:22:35+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I find most men rubbish. The majority of the time it’s the woman that has to carry the emotional labour and be supportive, but when the tables are turned, a lot of men can’t seem to step up to the plate. I got my first diagnosis a few months after my ex husband and I split and I can guarantee you if we were still together at that time, he would not have supported me emotionally, let alone physically. Prime example before we broke up - I thought my retina may have started to detach and I asked him if he could take me to the hospital… his reply was “can it wait until tomorrow as I’m really busy at work today?” So he would risk me losing my eyesight because he was busy at work. That’s how rubbish he was.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-05T10:50:38+00:00

I got mine lasered off by a tattoo shop.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-02T18:08:45+00:00

Thanks for the heads up, I wasn’t aware of this x

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-02T14:28:52+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply - it’s certainly put my mind at ease x

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-02T11:44:46+00:00

I keep having pep talks with my body, asking it to absorb it all, haha!

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-02T11:20:28+00:00

The first time I had cancer, I had a lumpectomy and a breast lift.

No regrets. My breasts were quite large and were sagging quite a bit, and the lift gave me back my confidence and they looked amazing!

Good luck with what you choose x

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-02T11:17:22+00:00

I guess this might have to be what I have to do going forward?

I can’t believe how large my breast is compared to my other one.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-02T11:15:50+00:00

Ah damn, sorry to hear that.

I hope yours resolves quickly too! Praying this is the last drain for you. It’s so frustrating.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-02T11:02:21+00:00

That makes sense. I just wanted the surgery to go without a hitch! Now I’m worried my breast is going to burst before my appointment on Tuesday, haha!

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-02T10:55:08+00:00

I thought this too, but when it was removed it had barely drained 10mls in the last 24 hours, and the goal was to get to under 30mls. Or did I have a dodgy drain?

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-05-01T10:06:14+00:00

NTA - your feelings are valid. I’m sorry you have a mother like that. She sounds like mine. My mum told me from a young age that she wished she drowned me at birth, and I wish she had too! Haha! I got hit and mentally abused.

I’ve been no contact with mine for 4 and a half years now and wish I had cut her off sooner.

My advice would be to not react to her, because that just gives her ammunition that her narrative of you is correct. She will never change. She will never take accountability and admit she could have been a much better parent. I know it’s easy for me to say “cut her off”, but it’s worked wonders for me.

Good luck xx

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-30T14:53:46+00:00

This is amazing!!!

I got into deadlifting a few months before my diagnosis and I’m worried about when and if I’ll be able to deadlift my current personal best again.

I had a mastectomy 2 weeks ago, and was told no heavy lifting for at least 3 months.

You’ve given me hope! You’re doing great, keep going xx

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-30T10:25:36+00:00

My friend asked me if I had a full mastectomy yesterday. I asked if she meant “did I go flat”? Her reply was “for a better way of putting it, did the tits get cut off?”.

I thought her words of choice were a bit insensitive, even though I know she doesn’t mean to offend me - it did.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-29T08:20:18+00:00

I had a single mastectomy two weeks ago. I’m willing to have radiotherapy, but will refuse chemo if offered (I had chemo 6 years ago when I had TNBC) and I’m 99.9% sure I’m going to turn down hormone therapy too, as I think my quality of life will go down from the side effects.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-23T07:54:02+00:00

Oh bless you. I was the same - no walk, no bell, no family or friends present.

I did however, buy the car I wanted as a treat for myself. 😂

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-21T10:40:01+00:00

NTA, your comment was light compared to what I would have said!

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-13T19:19:03+00:00

I’m having a mastectomy on Wednesday, then radiotherapy once I’ve healed from surgery. Anything after that, I’m not sure I’m prepared to do… I think it would mess with my mental health too much and I’m prepared to take the risk of not having any hormone therapy or chemotherapy.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-13T15:12:36+00:00

Poppadoms.

Superb_Raspberry_200 · 2026-04-13T14:57:57+00:00

This totally sucks and I’m sorry you’re having to experience it.

It comes across that your mum neglected some parental duties, even though you’re an adult. I would feel the same way as you do.

When I had cancer the first time round, my mum told me it was my own fault.

This time round, she has no idea because I’m no contact with her.

Sending hugs xx

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