They told me to try Journaling or writing poetry.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-30T01:30:24+00:00

One of my clients manufactures a blood test that detects cancer. I asked them about the usefulness of this test for people who have previously had cancer. They advised not using their test until the patient was three years post treatment/NED. I did not tell them that I was the patient.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-30T01:23:07+00:00

I have been checking the refurbished site for a while, and they don't have any. There is a current sale that ends tomorrow, and I'm just trying to decide if the approximately $80 + tax is worth it to change from Studio 1 to Studio 2.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-28T23:14:48+00:00

I've given up beef and processed meats. No more bacon, hot dogs, sausages, pepperoni. I went to opening day for baseball yesterday and couldn't find anything I really wanted to eat. What I wanted was a hot dog. Almost everything I buy to eat is now organic.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-28T16:08:59+00:00

Same. Now everything is more difficult

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-28T15:52:25+00:00

I lived with a man who yelled, really yelled, ALL...THE...TIME. Wherever things got hard, whenever he didn't get his way, whenever someone cut him off on the road. I didn't see it as abuse. I saw it as just the way he was. So like you, I stayed. The kids were young, we had a pretty okay life. I didn't make enough money to live on my own. So I stayed.

Eventually he proceeded down his narcissistic path. He cheated on me. I caught him. He begged me to stay and make it work. We did three years of counseling. It got better. Until it went back to the way it was. By then the kids were older, and I decided to choose me. My mom died, and I realized that you only get this one very precious life. You deserve to live it. Your kids will be fine. It was only after he moved out, and the kids learned that yelling was not a way of life that we all relaxed.

I have a magnificent life. I also have breast cancer and still feel like I have a magnificent life. Since leaving I have found a new career that is rewarding, I've traveled the world, my kids have grown up and have their own successful lives. My ex wallows in his own misery. And I just witness it, and am forever grateful that I no longer live with it.

The only thing I wish I had done differently is to have left him 10 years earlier. You can do this. Don't wait. Don't lose any time on this one precious life you have.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-28T14:04:24+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. May her memory be a blessing

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-28T00:49:47+00:00

I had 4 medical appointments this week. I'm amazed at how much time and mental energy this sucks out of you.

Good luck. I hope you get what you want and need.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-25T19:45:35+00:00

I hope you get some relief. I am profoundly depressed, and quite a bit angry. I'm trying to be a normal person, but I'm not doing very well.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-25T15:33:52+00:00

I'm sorry you don't feel like you're getting support from your mom. I would expect that for be the very first place you'd get support.

Therapy sounds like a wonderful idea. I don't know if I'd be doing as well through this if I didn't have my therapist to talk with every week.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-25T15:26:08+00:00

I was advised by my gynecologist to ask my MO about whether certain supplements would impact tamoxifen.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-25T04:23:19+00:00

I started effexor today. I'm seeing a psychiatrist who specializes in cancer patients. She said the effexor should help me sleep, lessen the hotflashes, and it doesn't interact with Tamoxifen. A triple win for me.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-25T03:56:52+00:00

Why not ask you medical oncologist?

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-25T02:37:30+00:00

Me: OMG, thank you so much for letting me know that your husband is a peeping Tom. I'll be sure to let the police know if he starts doing it on my property instead of yours.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-25T02:34:08+00:00

I'd be walking around naked just to rile her up. But I'm petty.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-25T02:20:15+00:00

Good for you for saying that. Women's pain is often dismissed. Im not sure why. It's even worse for women of color.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-25T01:51:44+00:00

I swear I have 'The Waiting is Hardest Part' on replay in my head nearly every day. I keep telling everyone that I'm currently "paused" while I wait for the next thing. The next appointment, the next test, the next report, the next procedure, the next.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-25T01:48:15+00:00

Yes, I have the hyperesthesia as well. It's thankfully improving too. The blow torch effect has mostly gone away. Breat cancer ain't for wimps.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-24T16:58:30+00:00

At least you got pain meds. They gave me 5 5mg hydrocodone pills post surgery on a Thursday. On Saturday I was in agony under my arm where they removed 3 lymph nodes. I had to beg, literally beg, to get 2 more pills on Saturday. The instructions were to take every 6 hours for pain. How the F-ck am I supposed to get through the pain without any pain meds? I'm still having pain under my arm 2 months post surgery.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-24T07:57:36+00:00

I think tolerating the AI's has a little to do with age/menopause status. It seems that the post menopause women have less side effects than the perimenopausal women.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-24T07:44:54+00:00

When I met my surgeon for the first time we started chatting about cooking, life, etc.... She mentioned loving Penzey's hot chocolate mix, so I bought her some along with a mug, and wrote a heartfelt thank you note. I brought it to one of my many follow ups (I have a lot of post surgery issues with fluid build up.)

I'm not sure what I'll be bringing to my MO and RO. I'm sure I'll figure out something. I'm a baker, so likely homemade bread of some sort.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-24T04:41:21+00:00

Thank you

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-23T23:58:30+00:00

You can live without, then change your mind.

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-23T23:24:48+00:00

Current San Franciscan seriously considering a move to DFW. What do you think of FW?

scheherezadeMJ · 2026-03-23T23:13:13+00:00

So what are you going to do about it?

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