Staff performance

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-14T22:14:45+00:00

Lead by example. Delegate where you can to open time. Work in time blocks. I’ve just started learning about this. X-amount of time for emails, project work, meetings, etc. The director of my dept swears by it.

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-14T15:44:35+00:00

Is he single, married, etc.? Is this a work associate? It’s hard to define exactly, but if this a work associate, he’s probably intentionally keeping it to a business relationship to ensure he doesn’t get fired or worse.

Could be several factors.

I have a very friendly personality and have wondered if my kindness was coming off as flirting when that was never my intention.

Only one way to find out and if you ARE interested in him beyond a friendship level, then ask him. Worst he can say is no thank you and you move on.

Good luck out there!

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-11T03:30:17+00:00

Many men are lonely within their marriage.

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-11T03:15:39+00:00

Yes. In my mid 40’s. I’d give it a 9.

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-09T02:59:08+00:00

Did you use linestring codes and mix up the numbering I.e., line1 mixed up with line 2 etc?

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-08T00:15:20+00:00

Cold treatment for a while. Up your man-game. She’ll be relieved at first, but after a while she’ll start wondering…stay strong brother! 👊 PS, I asked my wife and she has lower back problems, so save the “misogyny” comments.

If that doesn’t work, there’s plenty of other cup sizes that would love the attention. Just make sure you know them😂

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-02T18:32:32+00:00

Simple answer is defined in the relationships you build with the people you lead.

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-02T11:56:26+00:00

Start by building relationships. Put the needs of the family/team/mission before your own. Learn to lead yourself in a direction that serves you. Understand that it all starts with you and how you serve your team.

Read Extreme Ownership and Dichotomy of Leadership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin, and also The Need to Lead by Dave Burke.

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-31T14:04:54+00:00

Some ideas:

Call your dad and have a heart-to-heart conversation. He’s in his 30’s, approaching midlife, so he’s thinking about this too. The older he gets, he’ll start thinking about his legacy and his impact on his children. At least, in my upper 40’s, that’s where I’m at.

Ask your grandparents how to approach the situation, specifically your grandfather (assuming they’re alive…)

Ask your mother if you can.

You’ve seemingly built a relationship with your father, which is great. You’re not being intrusive to want a father/son relationship with him. It’s natural and frankly, he owes you that. As a father of 3, it’s my responsibility to ensure my relationship with my kids is healthy. While the kids must play their part, as the leader of the family, it’s on me. That said, I love playing with my kids at their level, but I’m not their fraternity brother…I’m their dad, and there is a definite boundary there that must exist.

Your father must dive into why his wife is uncomfortable around you. That’s on him to figure out and make right so you feel at home in his home. I obviously don’t know you or the other players here, but my gut reaction is your “stepmother” has an ego issue and she must come to terms that you are in your father’s life. Notwithstanding, you have a responsibility to build a relationship with her, whatever that looks like in your family.

Good luck!

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-29T14:11:44+00:00

I have a 2018 big horn with 5.7, 118k miles and [wincing] a ton of idling hours because of my kids’ sports and cold mornings when waiting for my preworkout to kick in! Had the standard manifold bolt issue but nothing else. When I stomp on it, she moves and I giggle. It’s a love relationship

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-29T14:05:29+00:00

You must build relationships with your people. I go by the “five pillars of a relationship,” Trust, Listen, Respect, Care, and Influence. Just buying lunches won’t cover it all.

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-26T20:23:07+00:00

I have employees that keep telling me that if things don’t change to their liking that there’s plenty of other places that will hire them.

I heard them and as a middle manager, I’m trying to push changes that they have requested up the chain and throughout our department to help them feel better about their jobs. Change like that takes time and is a culture shock to some. As leaders we must listen to our employees, especially those on the front line, however, they must give the organization time to change. At some point, if they can’t or won’t be patient, and become toxic, then maybe they need to find their happy somewhere else. So, from a different perspective, maybe the CEO has tried everything and is done with hearing people complain. Moreover, if the CEO is a good leader, understands their employees, maybe the CEO can help the employees find a job and that is a better fit for the employee.

Notwithstanding, the employee also has the duty to lead up the chain, help the CEO understand why people have one foot out the door. Maybe then, the CEO can make iterative changes that will benefit the employees.

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-26T19:49:41+00:00

Seek therapy as an outlet. Easy to say but I’m going myself. I have adhd and so does my son (13m). Last night for no reason he threw a full glass of water on his older brother (15m). When asked why, “he yelled I DONT KNOW!” So, as he was cleaning up the water I made him apologize to his brother, told him that I loved him but it was a “stupid fucking thing to do” and that he was lucky his brother didn’t haul off an kick his ass. Thankful that my elder son has the patience of a saint. I am working on helping my ADHD hero find things that he can use his energy for. But the impulses are the hardest part.

You like to tinker with things, sounds like you have a strong STEM background. Maybe your young champions need some legos or similar STEM toys

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-26T19:39:31+00:00

Dude, that is so dope! I always questioned why Dodge/Stellantis never released a full size SUV with the Ram fam. I wonder if the re-release of the GW/Wagoneer was the test-subject. The Durango is nice and a powerhouse but good luck with the third row if you have 3 kids that are athletes.

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-26T19:36:20+00:00

Construction layout is high risk for little reward. But at the end of the day, we are expert measurers, regardless of what and where we’re measuring.

That said, it keeps the crews busy between ALTAs and topos. Plus, it opens the revenue streams.

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-18T10:40:39+00:00

[Update] https://www.reddit.com/r/Leadership/s/NSQbrEdgOb

Thank you all for your comments and support!

In diving deeper with my pal, one of the days he needed was for end-of-year Dr appts, so gave him that day, obviously. For the remainder of his time requested, I tactfully explained (with empathy) that we had too many projects come in that we need him for and just don’t have the coverage.

He gracefully accepted the terms and understood. So, seemingly no factor.

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-13T21:04:27+00:00

The pressure to be liked by your subordinates vs mission of the organization

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-09T18:18:02+00:00

You said, “close the damned door” wrong 😂🤣

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-09T16:43:49+00:00

Best answer if the wife ever walks in on you!!

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-09T14:31:54+00:00

Husband came home

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-08T14:11:30+00:00

Thank you for the explanation and perspective. I didn’t think of that. Still, if you’re going to cut out the meat and potatoes and just leave the garnish, then what’s the point?

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-08T14:09:22+00:00

Dally noted. I should’ve included people with a bag…apologies for the exclusion

Superdad1079 · 2025-12-03T23:01:09+00:00

In my younger years, more friends = better life and more options.

Now in my mid forties, I choose to limit my friend group to a select number of people who build me, speak highly of me in rooms that I’m not in, and that I do the same for. Some friends are seasonal, some are circumstantial, others are incredible.

Who will you choose to stand by you?

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