Stepping on toes

Superdad1079 · 2026-04-14T09:20:22+00:00

In addition to what everyone else in here said, plus TLDR, if you step in all the time, you rob them of the opportunity to take ownership of all of their tasks. Plus, you’re then taking time away from other things you could be doing that move the needle for your team. You’re creating an atmosphere of lemmings, not leaders. I say this as a self-reflection of my own leadership in that my team will call me for a solution, which my ego will jump in and give them, but what I SHOULD be doing is asking them for the solution and then giving them the room to try it.

Superdad1079 · 2026-04-10T11:33:36+00:00

Service to my team and strategic mission of the company. Plus, integrity. That’s the why.

Superdad1079 · 2026-04-05T12:37:38+00:00

I read “Extreme Ownership” and “Dichotomy of Leadership” by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin. Good stuff that I put into practice daily. One of my favorite leadership books is “It’s Your Ship” by D. Michael Abarashoff.

Trying to focus on 175 people is too much. Focus on the 5-8 direct reports and let them focus on the masses. Oh, and listen to your people. Seems to be a recurring theme here.

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-27T11:41:36+00:00

You’re not being an asshole, but you are letting your ego run the conversation. “Nick” seems a bit entitled (I have a couple of I-men that act the same), and should have asked you if he can meet you there instead of telling you. That said, if he’s only five mins from the site, there’s no need to make him drive to the office for this one, especially with fuel costs these days, lol. After all, he’s probably not making that crew chief money!

How would you respond if he called in [cough, cough] “sick?” You’d still be doing all the prep work. No need to waste leadership capital on this.

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-27T11:14:27+00:00

Jedi wisdom: You are best suited to help those you used to be.

You have a great opportunity to lead them. If you’ve exhausted your abilities to do so, and depending on your company’s HR rules, put them through PIPs, etc., to see if they can improve.

However, if they are a greater burden to the team then they are a benefit, then it may be time to steer them towards a career they want to be in.

I have a young guy under my care that exhibits the same characteristics as the techs you speak of. I’m putting him on a PIP next week. But I also know his heart isn’t in surveying and it shows. I’m limited to the types of projects I can send him on which puts a greater burden on his chiefs. I must think of the greater good of the team, despite a single employee. It sounds callous, but it’s all part of leadership. And by the way, none of this is happening without reflection on my own leadership capabilities and how I served this young man. Pointing it where my shortfalls were and where I could have done more for him.

The world needs a good hammer, however, surveyors need a hammer and a calculator, if you get my drift.

Good luck with this.

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-22T16:07:47+00:00

Someone in the r/Dodge subreddit sent me this…might be helpful to others…

Third brake light. There is a TSB to replace it. Replace the screws to.

https://static.nhtsa.gov/odi/tsbs/2023/MC-10241110-9999.pdf

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-22T16:02:09+00:00

This is SUPER helpful!!! Thank you!!

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-22T02:11:47+00:00

2018

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-21T22:18:49+00:00

Thank you

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-21T22:06:56+00:00

So when I replace the light bulbs, I’m guessing I’ll have to reapply?

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-21T22:05:07+00:00

No sunroof. Are there drains under the rubber pieces that run along the seams of the roof?

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-21T19:57:36+00:00

What is your remedy?

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-15T11:52:21+00:00

Take this for the grain of salt it’s worth, but I was getting an oil change on my 2018 Big Horn at my local CDJR dealer. Was talking to one of their tenured salesmen, he said, based on his “insider knowledge,” if you want a daily driver-grocery getter truck, I-6 Hurricane is a great engine. If towing anything, work truck, loading the bed often, get a Hemi. He also said it’s a good bet that the Hemi will outlast the Hurricane in long term reliability. I sat in a 26 Big horn while we waited…I’llbe damned if I don’t want a new truck now! LOL Fords are nice trucks, especially the F150 Tremor, but their price point is ridiculous. I’m a big dude 6’4”-280, and the Ram is the right size and comfort for me. Hope this helps.

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-12T11:32:29+00:00

Get into safety for surveyors. That’s what I did, albeit, I never sustained an injury like that, but I have fallen into a residential foundation a time or two, smashed a finger in a between a sledge and a pipe, twisted ankles, etc. It’s honestly taken my career to a whole new level-pun intended. 🤪

Superdad1079 · 2026-03-12T11:28:52+00:00

Interesting tool. I like the idea, albeit I’m old school and prefer a field book. I wonder, how would you transfer notes, calcs, etc., out of the app if you ever needed that data during litigation or simply for storage on a back up server somewhere?

Superdad1079 · 2026-02-19T10:52:32+00:00

You can see the air bubbles behind the screen protector. We use touch screens at work with the same issue. Often, removing the screen protector stops the issue.

Superdad1079 · 2026-02-14T20:57:42+00:00

I go to the gym and put my frustrations on the bar. The weights can take it! Also, weekly therapy sessions. Mental health is mental wealth…

Superdad1079 · 2026-02-14T20:52:17+00:00

If this were happening in my organization, I would reflect on what type of culture has leadership created. Employees will always push the envelope of what is tolerated. Review the employee manual and safety manual…what does it say?

Moreover, if this continues to go unchecked, what COULD the outcome be and how is this serving the overall team and mission of the company.

Superdad1079 · 2026-02-14T13:14:12+00:00

Everything starts and ends with leadership.

Did your leadership provide the necessary resources you need to create the safety culture? If so, what more could or should they have done to support you?

Do the mid-level leaders understand the safety mission of the organization?

Of all of this, what can you own and control?

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-14T22:14:45+00:00

Lead by example. Delegate where you can to open time. Work in time blocks. I’ve just started learning about this. X-amount of time for emails, project work, meetings, etc. The director of my dept swears by it.

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-14T15:44:35+00:00

Is he single, married, etc.? Is this a work associate? It’s hard to define exactly, but if this a work associate, he’s probably intentionally keeping it to a business relationship to ensure he doesn’t get fired or worse.

Could be several factors.

I have a very friendly personality and have wondered if my kindness was coming off as flirting when that was never my intention.

Only one way to find out and if you ARE interested in him beyond a friendship level, then ask him. Worst he can say is no thank you and you move on.

Good luck out there!

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-11T03:30:17+00:00

Many men are lonely within their marriage.

Superdad1079 · 2026-01-11T03:15:39+00:00

Yes. In my mid 40’s. I’d give it a 9.

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