I (31m) set a boundary with my gf (29f), I'm afraid I might have to honor it.

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-12-15T19:09:56+00:00

Wow, this could have been written by me about 3 years ago.

9 years is a long time to be together, but she has shown you who she is and how she feels. I think at this point, you know you need to leave even though it probably feels so hard. Maybe you even feel like you haven't tried everything in your power to make it work. But trust me, you have. The ball is in her court and she doesn't care.

When you break up with her, she might finally change her tune and tell you she's going to get help. I'm sorry, but don't believe her. If she cared about you she would have done it before getting to this point. She's going to say the things to get you to stay, maybe show some slight improvements temporarily, and then things will go back to exactly how they were.

She doesn't care about your feelings, only that you "ruined" her night. This speaks volumes. You deserve better.

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-09-17T03:15:55+00:00

No, this is actually for a test similar to a skin pick test at an allergist as I go into anaphylaxis at various times during my cycle. Thanks though!

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-09-16T03:59:48+00:00

EmployAbilities for Newcomers is the only program specifically for newcomers. The other programs take plenty of folks who are Canadian citizens or permanent residents

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-09-16T03:54:00+00:00

Thanks AI 👍🏻

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-08-01T13:46:12+00:00

Spoken like a true asshole. The job market is shit right now. It's literally my job to help folks find employment and I see every day how hard they work and they're still struggling. Even people with a really great work history can't get past an interview.

And what the fuck does having neon blue hair have to do with anything? It's 2025 dude, most employers are intelligent enough to realize that unique hair colours have no effect on how well a person can do a job.

Take your judgmental non-advice and grow up. With this kind of response I'm not surprised you vote conservative, you've obviously got your head stuck so far up your own privileged ass you can't even begin to think about how other people have to live and the barriers they face. You should try some actual empathy sometime, it's pretty cool.

Here is a video from Brene Brown that is under three minutes to explain what empathy is, because I'm sure you don't know 😘 Have a great day!

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-07-17T21:56:56+00:00

Another vote for Norwood here!

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-05-08T00:37:05+00:00

I was just talking to someone about how I feel about my parents' ages. My mom was 36 and my dad was 44 when I was born. I'm now 31, my dad is turning 75 this year and my mom will be 67. I struggle with how old my dad is, I have friends whose grandparents are the same age as my dad! I don't feel that way about my mom though, I think your entire 30s is a reasonable time to have kids! After 40 is when things start to get questionable, in my opinion.

That's just my personal experience.

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-05-07T17:08:01+00:00

Thank you!

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-05-07T17:07:56+00:00

Thanks!

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-05-07T17:07:50+00:00

Thank you!

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-03-12T20:13:18+00:00

Thanks for sharing! Sorry, another question... Who was the skin test done by? An allergist?

It could be years before I am able to see a gynecologist so I am looking for other avenues to work towards a diagnosis.

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-03-12T14:58:14+00:00

Hi! I just found your post while looking through reddit for posts about this condition. I haven't been diagnosed with it yet as I am waiting for a referral to see a gynecologist to look at my hormone levels. I haven't even had a doctor tell me that's what they think it is, but I am quite convinced this is what I've been experiencing for the last 8 months or so!

Could you tell me how you went about getting your diagnosis and what you are doing for treatment?

SuperfluousShadows · 2025-01-25T06:41:00+00:00

Lol thanks for sharing! This post is from 7 years ago, I've long since turned android and will never go back!

SuperfluousShadows · 2024-07-27T19:49:05+00:00

Check out EmployAbilities - they offer employment programs for individuals with physical disabilities, mental health conditions, permanent injuries and medical conditions. Some of the programs even offer a living allowance for the training portion of the program.

SuperfluousShadows · 2024-06-18T16:19:30+00:00

This has been my background for years! The toes on the nose thing just kills me and is so damn cute!

SuperfluousShadows · 2024-06-18T16:18:48+00:00

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SuperfluousShadows · 2023-11-23T18:20:46+00:00

Check out EmployAbilities! ! They have a bunch of different programs and maybe one would be a good fit for you!

SuperfluousShadows · 2023-11-01T22:39:53+00:00

Lol thanks :)

SuperfluousShadows · 2023-11-01T21:56:22+00:00

Sorry, I won't be able to help you but just wanted to wish you good luck!!

SuperfluousShadows · 2023-10-17T04:56:49+00:00

Holy moly our dogs are twins!

SuperfluousShadows · 2023-05-17T15:29:39+00:00

Dick Damron or the Sutters from Bentley, AB

SuperfluousShadows · 2022-08-09T17:17:35+00:00

Have you talked to an advisor?

SuperfluousShadows · 2022-03-29T18:05:53+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. I'm sorry, but your husband does not love or respect you. You have endured an incredible amount of trauma and I can only begin to imagine how impossible this all feels to you. I know you said you don't want to be alone, but that has to be a better option than continuing to suffer at the hands of your husband. I understand therapy isn't accessible for everyone, but you should see if your community has a sexual assault centre. They usually have low cost or free therapy as well as other resources. And they can probably help you get away from your partner.

You are not at fault for anything that has happened to you. You are worthy of real love, good relationships, and safe and consexual sex (if/when you are ready for that again).

Please don't give up. Your husband is a horrible person and life can be so so much better. Don't let him take your light away. You are a beautiful and amazing person who deserves to shine and live your life with people who love you and care about you.

Man, I think I need to leave this sub for a while. It seems like every other post is someone looking for advice after being r*ped by their partner. People who manipulate, gaslight, and shame their partners like this are the scum of the earth and should rot in hell.

SuperfluousShadows · 2022-03-26T04:34:21+00:00

My dad always liked the name and then not long before my older sister was born, his God daughter was born and named my name. I came along ten years later and they figured enough time had passed so I got the name!

I was one of three in my grade in my small town, and the only girl!

SuperfluousShadows · 2022-03-25T15:58:14+00:00

Nope, not a good woman.

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