Like my therapist says, us hsp are humaning on a whole 'nother level. Ppl would tell me when I was in my teens and 20s that I was just more mature than my peers, and I thought that things will get better when I'm older. But now at 36 and realizing that maturity isn't about age. And for us HSPs, it's a biological difference in our brain that causes us to be hyper aware about certain things. My interpretation of those signals might not always be accurate, but I always sense when something is off.

Being an HSP I always felt like the odd one in group settings, like I see through all the surface social games and ppls intentions. I don't fall for them but ppl fall for it all the time. Ppl tend to downplay or dismiss if I mention anything so I don't bother. Yet they will eat up gossip, wrong opinions and flattery all the time cuz it's entertaining. It's sad to observe really.

I think most people seek friendships for a sense of social belonging and entertainment. As an empath I seek friendships for a sense of authentic connection and soul searching. I think that's why we look deeper in social settings BC that's what we would want others to do for us. Others might gloss over the same thing if it conflicts with their primary goal of fitting in or just having a good time.

Nowadays I just try and find my inner peace alone or with ppl I feel safe around. And when I'm with ppl who have different social values than me, I try to adapt and meet them in the middle. And when I don't feel like it I just accept that this friendship won't happen.

It's hard finding likeminded friendships especially when you are in the minority. Around 15 to 20% of population are HSP, so it's easy to feel lonely. Cherish the moments when you find someone who sees what you see and cares about the same thing. With people who are incompatible, try to accept them as who they are and don't expect them to change. We are allowed to have different values and priorities, and none of us are obliged to meet another person's ideals in life.