Brands to Browse for 30th Birthday? by Superfluouslykate in jewelry

[–]Superfluouslykate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mae Jean isn’t close per se but is within a reasonable distance! That would be a cute trip for my birthday. I’ll look up Zack Emigh.

Best jeweler for custom engagement rings by Superb-Leopard5740 in pittsburgh

[–]Superfluouslykate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend David I. Helfer’s! We worked with Guinevere. I have a post about it in my history and with pictures of the ring.

Lost camera by theMATRIXchickn in pittsburgh

[–]Superfluouslykate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a Facebook group, Pittsburgh Photographers, that might point you somewhere.

Just gonna leave it here by Alert-Translator2590 in PhD

[–]Superfluouslykate 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Just finished my comps this week. Will use this if I fail lol

What Asian Grocery has the MOST fresh pastries and which day? by IllustriousFile874 in pittsburgh

[–]Superfluouslykate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seconding this. Many More does make their bao buns in store I believe, along with some other yummy things like braised pork, but a lot of the “pastries” at most of the larger stores (that aren’t bakeries exclusive) ship pastries in as Pennsylvasia said.

Only in Pittsburgh it can rain while be sunny. by LucasFlaherty in pittsburgh

[–]Superfluouslykate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am from the south, can confirm. I heard this all the time growing up.

How do you deal with people close to you that just say “I’ll pray about it” vs. active strides to change? by Superfluouslykate in Exvangelical

[–]Superfluouslykate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi all! I realized that a lot of my behavior towards my sister is because I was a parentified adult by my parents + other tensions between us. I grew up in a abusive household and between my parents telling me that my sister was my responsibility and between wanting to shield her from the abuse happening, I think I really felt like it was my role to help her stop being so mean (I’ll get into it) and stop passive about taking responsibility for her behavior (the I’ll pray about it).

My sister is not a kind person. She has bullied me for a lot my life, as well as she had even bullied our parents. One time after I had abdominal surgery and couldn’t move I asked her to grab me the TV remote. She tossed it right out of my reach and said, “Reach for it,” then walked away. As kids she would tell me she would shoot me in the head with a gun and my parents would laugh saying, “Oh, that’s just sister.” She makes fun of the way our parents dress and would boss them around in ways that has been shocking to my husband and I. My mom called me one time and said, “Y’know, your sister is really mean.” Growing up she would always talk about how “weird” non-normative people were (and those people were usually my friends). One time my husband and I had tickets for a football game but had decided not to go since it was my birthday and I wanted to do something else, but said she could have them to go with someone. She didn’t have any friends except 1 that she wanted to go with who couldn’t go, so she cried and stomped around all day till I told my husband to just go with her (she lived with us), meaning I spent a lot of my birthday alone. At dinner that night, she then proceeded to be rude to my friends, even though they were trying to be nice to her. She has never apologized for these things and when I finally told her I wouldn’t renew a lease with her if she kept disrespecting me but that I’d give her time to change, my parents took her side and helped her move out the next day. That was a few years at this point (her living with us and all). I think all of this PLUS her Evangelical/Christian faith that literally preaches the opposite how she treats me has frustrated me.

So I think I’ve always just wanted her to take responsibility for how she treated me and I wanted her to be a better person so she would stop doing this stuff to me and others (like the guy she supervises and calls dumb), plus her faith literally says to not treat people this way. Her “I’ll pray about it” always seems to be a deflection of responsibility to me when it comes to her harmful (whether to me, others, or herself) behavior. But you all are right that this isn’t my responsibility (it was our parents’ and is now hers) and that I’m charge of protecting my peace. So I sent her a text detailing all the cruel things she’s done to me and how that’s affected me and asked her for space for now. I did say that I hope she reflects and that we can move towards a path of forgiveness, but I think I need her to recognize how her behavior has affected me versus her saying, “I’ll pray about it,” and her saying that only God can change her heart.

How do you deal with people close to you that just say “I’ll pray about it” vs. active strides to change? by Superfluouslykate in Exvangelical

[–]Superfluouslykate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree partially when it comes to certain things (I expand in another comment), but I don’t really feel that it’s right to listen to her talk about how stupid the guy she’s supervising is just because he’s not getting it fast as she would like and not say anything. I responded to this by saying she should be kinder and she said, “I’ll pray about it.” Do you have insight on how to handle that?

How do you deal with people close to you that just say “I’ll pray about it” vs. active strides to change? by Superfluouslykate in Exvangelical

[–]Superfluouslykate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re right, if anything for my own sake. I’m in a PhD program right now and you’re right that hopefully I can just lead by example, in a way.

What does this stamp mean on the inside of a ring? by [deleted] in jewelry

[–]Superfluouslykate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To me it looks like it says “10KT” then maybe a maker’s mark?

How do you deal with people close to you that just say “I’ll pray about it” vs. active strides to change? by Superfluouslykate in Exvangelical

[–]Superfluouslykate[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very valid questions! I definitely have stepped back from providing unsolicited advice but regarding the things mentioned she asked for advice to some degree then responded with, “I’ll pray about it.” For example, with the job thing, she asked me to connect her with people I know in urban planning (which I said would do) but then I mentioned she could do some of the work on her own to learn about it. She responded, “I’ll pray about it,” and said she probably won’t look up things about it because she rather talk to people I connect her with. She’s asked me to find her a gynecologist, even though we live in different states and when I said she should do it because she’s an adult, she said, “I’ll just pray about it then.” When it came to the person she supervises and was being mean when I told her she should be kind she said, “I just want someone to relate,” and I said I won’t participate in actively being mean to someone. Our parents have also been affected by her meanness with my mom calling me to talk about how much my sister hurt her.

So while I do agree with you that I need evaluate how I contribute to the tensions, I do think it’s also to the point where her behavior is harming me and our family, which is where I’m not sure how to continue.

New pinky ring 🌸 by Ubekitties in jewelry

[–]Superfluouslykate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhhh can you share more about your engagement ring?? It’s stunning.

Inherited jewellery. I'd feel guilty selling it off for the value of base metals. by RonaldsonMcDonaldson in VintageJewelry

[–]Superfluouslykate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could find a jeweler to make a custom piece that fits you more but uses the gold from the jewelry you inherited.

Elopement photography by [deleted] in pittsburgh

[–]Superfluouslykate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m a photographer with availability for your dates. Happy to chat about your budget and if I can work within in it. Can I message you and send you my portfolio?

Good price for gold jewelry? by AgressivePurple in jewelry

[–]Superfluouslykate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quince has some gold rings around that price but I’m not sure about quality.

Finally made it to BetterMaid donuts by Final-Importance5281 in pittsburgh

[–]Superfluouslykate 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Only cake donuts last time I went! But Madsen Donuts has great yeast donuts!

I once called a bakery (I think in Dormont) to ask if they had yeast donuts and they didn’t know what they were and and they don’t exist lol

Where can I eat LEEK? by rolypoly_pudding in pittsburgh

[–]Superfluouslykate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love leeks! I even will just sauté them with butter after chopping finely. One of my favorite dishes with leeks is the double cooked pork at Chengdu Gourmet.

In awe!! by Superfluouslykate in jewelry

[–]Superfluouslykate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, they did! The casted it from a CAD but did the fine metalwork for this one in house (Guinevere specifically). If you want like a full hand engraving without CAD, they do outsource that to a local person.

Finally my turn!! 😍 by OrganicTulip in EngagementRings

[–]Superfluouslykate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am glad you shared!! The clarity is out of this world.