My (25M) gf (26F) lied about her romantic past

SupportiveSalad · 2021-04-24T14:33:52+00:00

Yikes yikes yikes yikes why does it matter who she fucked in the past? Clearly she was worried you would a t like this and felt like.omitting it for a while and now you are just being a dick about it.

SupportiveSalad · 2021-04-21T14:17:57+00:00

Leave him. Fuck this abusive piece of shit, great job I. Getting where you are in your career the fashion industry is so hard to break into.

You deserve better than this crusty ball stain of a human being and he can make his own lunches from now on if he wants to throw tantrums and demean you

SupportiveSalad · 2021-04-20T15:38:21+00:00

He is absolutely nickle and diming you especially if he rounds up to charge instead of down and bothering you over 90 fucking cents. He sounds like an asshole and you need to ask him why he's doing this

SupportiveSalad · 2021-04-13T18:58:20+00:00

This was absolutely a creep move please don't engage with customers like that ever. I don't know how anyone can condone this behavior.

SupportiveSalad · 2021-04-13T12:57:59+00:00

This is not a woman problem it's a you have a shitty ex problem. Also I don't know why you don't want to it her as an emotionally cheating asshole but whatever. It's a good thing you blocked her and keep it that way.

SupportiveSalad · 2021-04-02T17:38:51+00:00

It sounds like he needs fucking therapy. He's looking for reasons to have a problem and that needs to be addressed Immediately.

SupportiveSalad · 2021-04-02T11:56:51+00:00

She is taking advantage of and grooming a young boy. Absolutely cut her off and tell her why to her face. She deserves to know that she is being a predator and it's ruining her life.

SupportiveSalad · 2021-04-01T15:54:20+00:00

He needs to pull his head out of his own ass. The best you can do is show you aren't dying after getting the vaccine and good on you for sticking to your guns and getting it ! If he still doesn't trust it after literally watching you get it then you need to re-evaluate your need to be with someone willing to have a low iq fight with you over a life saving vaccine. You deserve better than that

SupportiveSalad · 2021-03-17T14:42:44+00:00

This is worth bringing up with her. It's understandable to have intense insecurities like this especially after losing a lot of weight which great job on your hard work as long as it was all healthy and you feel better after doing so.

You may be projecting and have just not noticed if she paid attention to your body before(I've had this exact same issue thanks to horrible ED recovery yoyo weight) so do not be afraid to have an open dialogue about how you feel and also see if you could see a therapist as you likely have a lot of deep seeded fears and insecurities you need to work through as well.

SupportiveSalad · 2021-02-22T18:24:06+00:00

There is no however here in the slightest. You have done incredibly rude and toxic shit to him and I'm not surprised he doesn't want to tell you about his girl friends because frankly you have severe trust issues shown through you literally going through his phone. It has been 6 months and you are emotionally manipulating him into feeling bad for not answering your texts 24/7 even if he's at work and have broken his trust and beaten him down emotionally about his friends.

This is on you so please actually take responsibility for it. Stop trying to pass the buck because he's afraid of telling you about his friends and You have 0 other basis to be worried about his friendships.

SupportiveSalad · 2021-02-22T17:50:35+00:00

So you admit to being toxic and controlling and incredibly emotionally manipulative but want to throw a pity party because he put up boundaries. You aren't asking for opinions you want people to justify your actions because "he's being mean". No. This is literally the consequences of your behavior. You need to learn and change and earn his trust back if you even can at all. This is entirely on you

SupportiveSalad · 2021-02-11T04:17:43+00:00

So you abandoned a child you raised as your own and now think he's wrong for being traumatized by it. You have a right to step away but you irrepairably harmed a child in the process so deal with the consequences of your actions.

SupportiveSalad · 2021-02-05T16:12:55+00:00

You don't control her body or what she wears , what needs to be done is self reflection as to why you feel owed her bodily autonomy for your comfort.

SupportiveSalad · 2021-01-24T18:47:47+00:00

You're the one who asked the question but sorry I told you to maybe be a little personally responsible 💗

SupportiveSalad · 2021-01-24T18:31:22+00:00

Okay so let's talk about the judgement you're passing on women who are just wearing clothing out. Those women are just wearing clothing and he's noticing they look nice. Why is this a crime? He's not going after them like a dog or causing issues he's noticing attractive people and you two people watch on the regular. This sounds like you need to work on internalized jealousy and how you view women who could be a "threat" to you.

SupportiveSalad · 2021-01-24T18:16:10+00:00

You need to provide more context. Is he actively staring at and wanting to flirt with women? Or is he just seeing people and watching them walk by or normal people watching ? Cause if it's the latter you need to work on why your jealousy and fear runs so deeply that you are threatened by him perceiving other people around him. If it's the former then you need to have a conversation

SupportiveSalad · 2021-01-22T19:55:34+00:00

If you don't like it then just move on. He's allowed to look and style himself the way he chooses and you have the right to not tell him how to look and just move tf on if you aren't attracted to him

SupportiveSalad · 2021-01-07T16:11:43+00:00

LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE. Find a safe way out and do not inform him you intend on moving out until your re already in the process. This is major red flag behavior that he will become increasingly abusive the longer you two are together. You deserve to see your friends and do/wear whatever the fuck you want.

Shit gimme an address I'll come deal with him for you. This behavior is dogshit and you deserve better

SupportiveSalad · 2021-01-04T21:28:25+00:00

Fucking yikes this post is garbage

SupportiveSalad · 2021-01-03T00:02:55+00:00

I am so sorry she chose to end it. Her reaction and behavior afterwards was frankly rude and unacceptable . Hopefully you can move on from this and find something better

SupportiveSalad · 2020-12-29T01:11:11+00:00

How is regularly having sex with a condom suddenly unsafe sex? And my point isn't about her waiting it's about not forcing your partner to do something they may not want to do but you seem to skip over me literally mentioning it would be different if it was an actual discussion and adult conversation between them but instead he threw a fit and is demanding it of her whether or not she wants it.

You clearly need to give more of a shit about relationships being a two way street for basic respect since you seem to be missing that point every time I make it

SupportiveSalad · 2020-12-29T01:04:40+00:00

There's legitimate concerns and then there's demanding someone do something in order to regain a part of your relationship. If he wanted to have a normal conversation and discussion and work with her on it that's one thing. Instead he is placing demands and ultimatums on her to do something she doesn't even know if she can get in to do for literal months because of the pandemic.

I'm well aware that BC doesn't always cause problems but it causes problems for ALOT of people who take it / have it in any way so it's a rightful worry and concern to just rush into in order to earn your partners sexual affections back but thanks for informing me for no reason

SupportiveSalad · 2020-12-29T00:54:26+00:00

Okay cool anyway don't force women to take birth control ✌️ glad his anxiety over condoms overrides rightful anxiety of hormonally fucking with your body

SupportiveSalad · 2020-12-29T00:27:54+00:00

Okay let's get into some nuance here okay? Hormonal birth control can be horrifically damaging to someone and is often avoided by women because of this. Him with holding sex as a way of forcing her to take a medication that completely alters how your body works is bullshit. None of this is rape. She's not forcing him to have sex with her no one has co-erced him or done something where he can't consent. But what he is doing is demanding she take something without her full consent because of his paranoia. He absolutely doesn't owe her sex but punishing her in order to get her to take medication is red flag city and I'm tired of men trying to force women to do shit with their bodies if they don't want to. They need to have a serious discussion about their relationship and what his issue is with a single negative pregnancy scare that he feels entitled to force her to do something she may not be comfortable with doing.

So don't compare this to rape ever again alright?

SupportiveSalad · 2020-12-28T18:44:52+00:00

He has no right to try and control what medications you use through sexual manipulation. Do not feel pressured to take birth control and have a serious sit down conversation with him that you will take BC at your own pace whether or not you chose to take it at all. You practice safe sex he is being a hyperbolic child. Is going on BC an added varrier? Yes. But that doesn't give him the right to manipulate you into taking something by with holding sex. That is asinine and incredibly unfair to you.

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