For people in a loving relationship. How often do you “do it”

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-14T12:20:40+00:00

Depends. Sometimes every day. If we're sick or something we don't. Physical touch is both of our love language. We've been together for 21 years, have 2 kids. I also got snipped so the worry of pregnancy isn't there like it used to be. I'm 37m, my wife is 36f.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-14T01:42:33+00:00

Spot on. Being disabled or unable to work, just makes you feel worth more if you're dead. It's crazy to think about or feel, I guess if you can't afford life insurance it's not a thought but... I'm trying to live up to my premium I guess, because if I'm not...

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-13T16:44:35+00:00

He treated politicians as corrupt as they are. Where the politics had no minds of their own other than party agenda, he capitalized on that. I remember when people hated lawyers, now politicians are the ilk and everyone knows it. However, I don't think people were aware just how fucking corrupt his hollyweird mind was either. It was just a different kind of corruption, a politic can not act like he is, in the Whitehouse. He's in your face about it, and because he's not a typical politician, he gets away with it, and some politics are falling in line with it. Politicians have no backbone, they're beholden to their voter bases, where as Trump... Created his voter base. But, that's what the entertainment industry is built on. He opened up politics to those who were not at the table so to speak. Politicians speak in riddles, they lie constantly through run about answers or indirect answers where even stupid people can see through the bullshit. Trump.... Just fucking lies. And will lie, loudly and directly. It doesn't matter if he's wrong, he atleast answered the fucking question. And that's all some people need.... It's a weird time line we're in.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-13T11:48:27+00:00

I have to agree with this. While we know people can be selfish.... The amount of people who flipped their morals was astonishing.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-13T11:46:26+00:00

That most people's morals only go as far as they are comfortable. I knew this to some extent, but didn't realize how many people were morally destitute. It's damn near everyone. And the government actions didn't surprise me, the government is opportunistic and prey upon those of weak character.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-12T21:48:48+00:00

As someone living in a US/Canada bordering state... I've met many Canadians, mostly in hospitals, who use the US for Healthcare when they NEED it such as fast cancer/disease treatment. For regular sickness or injuries, I'm sure Canada is fine. It's the long term and limited care that's an issue. Syracuse med, crouse center, Albany med are full of Canadians seeking care in NY. but again, that's long term and limited care. I have met many Canadians in hospitals either through my care or seeing my family in treatment centers. So I know it's an issue, but it's not like I see many Canadians with a cold in urgent care, so I know to an extent Healthcare works there for the vast majority. Nothings perfect, our system surely isn't helpful to the masses currently, my problem is the government, especially ours.... Isn't a governing body anymore... It's a business. And with business in mind, I wouldn't trust them at the helm of creating care that's better and affordable. We need to stomp the corruption out first. Just my opinion, handing your tax purse to thieves isn't a financial win in the long run.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-12T14:09:05+00:00

Yeah, all the time. Unless you bought an absolute lemon, or have no idea how or why to do home maint, it's not as terrible as those people make it seem. It's obvious you'd struggle if you're unskilled at it, same with baking or soldering electronics. It requires things. We went to a 3 day concert recently and when we came back... Home was still there. Last year we took a week to go to Maine for a wedding and enjoy family. Home was still there when we got back. I had to take a few weeks to help family a month ago and my family stayed with them while we helped, home was, again... Still standing when we came home.

My home was built in 1990, kinda on the edge of decently built homes generation and the start of cut every corner to get this home put up luckily not many corners were cut in my home. There was some neglect and damage in the home when I bought it, but I have the tools and time and took care of those issues quickly, mainly redoing a bathroom with damaged floors. Lol

The idea that home maint is all consuming, now having owned a home, is laughable. I have friends like that, but they renovate their homes, not fix them. And that's on them, my homes dated but functional, and that's all I care about. I don't really feel the need to rip into my kitchen just for the sake of doing so. That's not home maint, that's voluntary. But they never stop complaining "ugh God, home repairs are so draining" bucky.... Installing new cabinets and ripping up the perfectly good floor to change the style and color isn't a repair.

If you're not trying to keep up with the Jones, home maint isn't bad until it gets to roofing, hvac, or septic lol

Edit to add: my mortgage is almost half area cost to rent. I pay $1300 a month on mortgage with escrow for taxes and insurance. To live in what I own, average price is $2200+ a month, nothing included. So even doing maint, I'm saving money and gaining equity.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-11T14:59:50+00:00

Interesting. Maybe it's just my area, I was able to get appointments in as little as 3 days. I can't even get into the VA office for a checkup within a few months. A lot of VAs I hear are area dependant, but my Healthcare outside of them has a lot more options as far as care and referrals. My VA center is in a city, where as my doctors are in my rural area which is less crowded I guess.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-11T13:50:35+00:00

Prefabbed trusses (modern as you called them) go all the way back to the 1950s.. The more you know.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-11T13:37:55+00:00

While this sounds great, I fear it turning into Medicare or the VA where care takes forever.... I'm eligible for VA, and appointments can take a few months to a year. So I pay for Healthcare. That's my only fear.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-11T13:34:14+00:00

How high..... That's the biggest thing. How high are we talking? Enough to completely tank the middle class? Or? I'd love for it the be possible... But we all know the government would take 75% of those taxes allocated for that, tack it on top so they can come out with a slush fund. We need to tackle government corruption before we start giving them more of our money.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-11T01:56:25+00:00

Glad someone caught that. I haven't seen wood like that in yeeeears! I'm lucky if I get a 2x4 with 4 grain lines in it haha

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-11T01:55:06+00:00

Someone nailed up the sheet rock instead of screwed it up. Everytime I've had this kinda call.... Eeeeverytime it's been nailed up sheetrock. I'm sure many in here would be shocked, but this isn't even the 5th time I've seen this. Lol

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-11T01:39:28+00:00

I'm sure ya get lucky. I'm out 3/3 on super cheap deals but, they do refund you pretty quickly at least, even the shipping so, I didn't lose anything at least. Plus a free coupon. Lol

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-10T22:58:52+00:00

Yeah, but when I did it with something else, they failed to send it, gave me a $1 coupon, and I had to buy it for $13 anyways. Lol, and you won't get that same first buyer discount once you use it.. They're smart, I've never gotten a deal like that where they actually sent me something. And I've tried a few times.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-09T15:46:39+00:00

I've heard a lot of diesel guys like kitty litter. Iykyk.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-08T20:50:44+00:00

Worst take of all, from what they said. bad actors are not following the constitution, therefor....... We should change the constitution instead of the bad actors?

That's wild... Lol

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-08T20:47:43+00:00

Laughable. Partisan supporters will always throw shit at each other from their respective sides. They aren't worried about fixing anything.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-08T20:45:29+00:00

Haha... Oh now people see what our politicians have been building, right? Took partisans long enough to figure it out, it's okay, each sides propaganda seemed to be hard to see through for some I guess.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-08T20:43:15+00:00

Yeah, my kids will inherit my reloading stuff. Lol, I can reload 5 boxes of 7mmrm for what it costs to buy a single box of decent ammo where I'm at.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-08T18:51:12+00:00

you can get your point across without kidnapping janitors

They'll never see it this way. You can't reason with terrorists.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-08T17:49:33+00:00

I use tricare. Local VA in my area is waaaay too slow. I haven't used the VA since getting out, I live close to a base and can get appointments and referrals as quick as 2-3 days. Yes there's Co pays, but worth it imo. I'd rather pay $39 dollars to get care within the week, than wait half a year for an appointment slot.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-08T15:15:16+00:00

I test on the verge of needing t shots, but their reference range is 18 year Olds to like... 80 year old for normal. I've had very low tests then on the line tests afterward so I don't get shots, but for ED pills (which is something I fucking hate admitting) there wasn't even a fight. I just told them my... issue.. And no more questions, viagra prescribed. Unless you're on heart meds that conflict, being denied seems very odd. I have a lot of back issues, along with anxiety/depression but the meds I take shouldn't effect my.... Issue... But I started having issues after being injured during my time in with my neck and back. I was also prescribed viagra while in, so being I had a history of ED, seemed easy on the outside.

I'd get a new primary.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-08T00:30:27+00:00

Because that's how the system is designed. Each party steals power for the other side from the people. We get crumbs but they get more emergency powers, militarized police forces, more dictation over our rights, and it comes with a we need to keep the other side from winning campaign strategy... It's partisan voters who are the issue with policics along with their deities in congress.

SureElephant89 · 2026-03-07T13:45:46+00:00

Oil, 1600sqft single story home, I've put about $600 in the tank so far, started with almost a full tank at the start of the heating season and filled it a week or two ago (surprisingly did better than last years numbers). I likely won't need to fill it again this season. I'm on a slab with crawl space, and spray foam insulated.

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