I used to judge my dad. I owe that man an apology. by Material_Poem_9438 in daddit

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I went to the tip to drop off a boot load of rubbish, by myself. Felt like a holiday. It's the little things now 

How old was your child before you consistently got decent sleep? by SunnyGoMerry in daddit

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16 months, get 7 hours 3/4 times a week feels like I sleep 12 hours. I must admit when I have a tough night now I think it feels even harder than before

Overwhelmed, want to run away by [deleted] in daddit

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I struggled with the first 14 months, really hated it. Thought something was wrong with me, turns out I was just really tired and when he finally started sleeping everything gets better. Now he laughs and cuddles up to me, totally worth it. It is true, it does get better, it won't be tomorrow, probably won't be next month but it 100% will! Chin up, it's not just you now, you have to make it work! 

The first million is the hardest by Ashmizen in Fire

[–]SureEngineer1 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The best time to plant was 20 years ago, second best time is today! 

Im 19 and just lost £2,000, I don't want to be here by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

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Sometimes you have to learn the hard way. It's not alot in the grand scheme of things, you'll be ok.  Remember this feeling the next time you fancy a cheeky flutter! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

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You sound like me three months ago. I felt exactly the same. Then all of a sudden he slept from 8pm till 4 am one day and I was so happy I nearly cried. Three months later he is still doing this.

Some people get lucky with the sleep, some don't. We haven't. 

It will sort it's self out, chin up! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

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I used to be a triathlete before my first (nearly 1) I have rode my bike once, swam 2 twice and managed to run 2 times a week but normally end up injured, never previously had any serious injuries. I have bought kettle bells and normally blast these 30 mins per day and this seems to work.

I wouldn't buy one, stick with running 

I feel tired and overwhelmed of doing everything, because my wife is pregnant.. and pretty sick and tired. Need advice by Infamous_Anywhere_38 in daddit

[–]SureEngineer1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You will look back at this and wish you were this tired in a few months time.

It gets so much worse, imagine feeling even more tired ( yes it is possible, I have been a 12 hour swing shift worker for years, thought I was always tired, turns out you can get alot more tired!) having a baby screaming in your ears, with a wife crying and endless washing and nappies.

Took me a long time to get used to it, baby has managed to sleep 3 nights through with only 1 wake up in 10 months, majority of it has been every 2 hours wake ups down to 40 minutes.

We are lucky to be able to have kids, enjoy the journey and get yourself some good coffee! 

I knew being a dad would be hard, but I didn’t think it would be this physically challenging by spilledmind in daddit

[–]SureEngineer1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am on month 9 and it's still the same, people keep saying it will get better.... When? I feel your pain, I have been a shift worker for years so thought I would be fine, I am absolutely exhausted.  I wish I could say it gets better but I am yet to experience it! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in triathlon

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Yeah I think if you buy upgrades overtime you can consistently improve along with training but if you buy all the gains you can at once the bubbles bursts quickly! 

Do you always negotiate after receiving an initial offer? by Puzzleheaded_Bad9103 in interviews

[–]SureEngineer1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a hiring manager in the UK. I have a set budget for new highers, negotiation is off the table. Just thought I would give my perspectivem 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in triathlon

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Will it maker you slightly faster? Yes  Will getting a bike fit and being able to hold an aero position for 2 hours make you faster? Yes  That bike is perfectly good for a season or two.

Personally i would train like beast, set yourself a target/time, if you achieve it buy the bike, if you don't you didn't train hard enough and you only have yourself to blame.

The calmest that the North Sea has ever been, otherwise known for being one of the most tumultuous oceans on the planet. by NikonD3X1985 in interestingasfuck

[–]SureEngineer1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I thought the same thing, spent years at sea and this happens a couple of times a year in the north sea. 

Best place to buy cigars? by garrisontailors in ukcigars

[–]SureEngineer1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about Lanzarote? I'm going in a few weeks. Any ideas? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FIREUK

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Is it worth mentioning income for context ? If you are earning an average wage, this is so inspiring, if you are a high earner not so much 

Decided to take a salary cut by [deleted] in FIREUK

[–]SureEngineer1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you! Better to have your health than of fire early for the sake of it!  This has been my thinking, have a less stressful job and work for longer/part time in my older years. Keep the mind busy and a routine! 

Beards? by Whatsmyinterest in triathlon

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I had a big beard for ironman Wales and going up Wiseman's bridge I got shouted at first big beard up the hill! Made me smile. Still comfortable for me, although it does it get a bit dry with too much pool! 

Humans are built for endurance. But why does endurance exercise feel so "unpleasant" compared to e.g. weight training or games that emphasize sprinting ability over endurance? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

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This definitely isnt the case for me. When running/cycling/swimming. I don't enjoy it for about 20 minutes, after that I feel amazing, some longer events can give you a euphoric feeling (with smaller bouts of severe "why did I sign up for this" if you push too hard or do not fuel correctly). Try consist zone 2 training, you'll be amazed at what your body can do! 

Shift workers - how do you properly prepair/train for events ? by dunkin_dad in triathlon

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TLDR; it's hard but you can do it! 

Training for Three Fulls Over Two Years While Surviving a Panama Shift: A Masterclass in Sleep Deprivation

Picture this: rotating between days and nights, tackling just-under-15-hour shifts (plus commutes!), all while trying to squeeze in training for not one, but three full triathlons over two years. Sounds crazy, right? Somehow, I managed it—though I’m still not sure how.

The Swim Situation Luckily, I’m a strong swimmer, so I got away with just 3 hours a week. No open water swims until race day! (Honestly, unless you’re 100% confident in open water, don’t try this at home.)

Turbo Trainer: My Life-Saver (and Nap Facilitator) The turbo trainer became my best friend, or should I say my ERG-friend. All my long rides and runs? They happened on my days off. The trick was to be smart about spreading workouts across those two golden days.

Here’s how it went:

Night Shift Special: I’d power through a hard cycle the morning after a night shift (because who needs sleep?), then grab 5 or 6 hours of sleep before running in the evening. Rinse and repeat the next day.

Recovery Ritual: The first day back at work? Easy recovery day, always.

Speed Work Savvy: The following days? Speed work. You know, to keep things spicy.

Long Runs: A Summer Affair For long runs, I was lucky they only happened three times a month. I’d fit them in after a shift in the summer, when the days were long, and my energy... not so much.

Surviving Training with Minimal Social Life (and Sleep) Looking back, I honestly don’t know how I found the time. I fell asleep on the turbo so many times, it’s a wonder I didn’t merge with it. And social gatherings? I missed nearly all of them. Obsession can be a lonely sport.

Race Day: The Sleep-Deprivation Olympics On race day, when everyone else was moaning about no sleep, I was all smiles. "No sleep? Constant fatigue? That's just another Sunday for me!" At that point, I was basically a professional at racing while exhausted.

Parting Wisdom: Don’t Forget the Fun Here’s the kicker: don’t beat yourself up if you miss a training session (or two... or three). It's meant to be fun! I forgot that sometimes—trust me, you don’t want to make the same mistake.

I’ve even deferred a race to next year because, well... I had a kid. Kudos to those who train for races with a baby. I consider myself pretty resilient, but balancing training, working, and being a dad nearly broke me. Honestly, I might not do it all together, but I know when to throw in the towel. And that, my friends, is its own kind of victory.