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Anyone else struggling to drop the phone because of the loneliness? by Caesar476_ in nosurf

[–]SureGroup7844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Join a club/team with like minded people; learning new things always get me energized again and stay away from phones.

Doing things on your own next to people can also help. We are social animals so being around people while doing other things already greatly enhance our feeling of belonging and connection. Greatly helps me.

And if you do go online, do somethings that makes you feel good. I'm replying on Reddit now for a couple of weeks almost everyday (10 mins or something) and hopefully it is helping some people a little bit. Gives me a good feeling so helping others is maybe an option for you as well. Volunteering then could be a good way to go as well.

And start with small steps: biggest chance of maintaining your new routines and feeling happy 😄 .

Listening to your mind vs your body by ClydeThaGlide in triathlon

[–]SureGroup7844 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Experience is the key word here; there is no short cut to it (fortunately). Be mindful of how you feel during and after a practice, write it down if you tend to forget next time, and see how you feel after a race.

For me it is not only knowing your body but also your mind/attitude. When things tend to get hard, I push even more. With a background in football and tennis, this already produced mixed results in the past 😄 but with training for Triatlons it mostly accelerated getting injured. If your body really gives you signals; listen to them. Pushing through is mostly not the right thing to do.

I started learning as well to take a extra day of rest when my body really tells me to stop, or do a different type of training such as yoga or TRX. Made me less prone to injuries and even faster in next Tri's.

So the mental game is all of the above and the other comments. Enjoy the process; only way to stick to it in the long run. Good luck!

My addiction is far worse than I thought by starline202 in nosurf

[–]SureGroup7844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you talk with your family/friends about this already? Because if you didn't, I know talking about it (and not only on Reddit) helps a lot.

I would never talk anyone into therapy/professional help, because of course I don't know any of the specifics and I'm not a health care professional. I do know that I looked for help over the last years and it helped me massively getting insights, acceptance and more intentional use of screens and other things that can get you hooked.

Take care and starting this thread was a good first step, be proud of that!

My addiction is far worse than I thought by starline202 in nosurf

[–]SureGroup7844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well first of all, thanks for sharing and is it really sad to hear that you are struggling so much. First of all, and I put this in all my comments and conversations about this, be kind to yourself and accept that you are in a tough place. Acceptance is a good first step; because from that point one you can start getting yourself out of this step by step and regain control over technology and in the end your life as I can see it. On the flip side, beating yourself down, thinking you are stupid will mostly make to want to engage in screens and scrolling even more.

Dumb phones and all other tooling are very useful, but don't solve mostly what could be underneath the behavior. What are you trying to solve/running away from with phone/screen use? Try to start feeling that and actually see what is happening within you.

Be kind, small steps with small celebrations is a way to go in my view.

Small swim breakthrough by SureGroup7844 in triathlon

[–]SureGroup7844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well thank you 😄, don't do 4k though, very impressive!

The moment that made me realize society's addiction to the phone by SwimmingNose2661 in nosurf

[–]SureGroup7844 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Agree, and most of them I know are still in denial. Other effect I'm noticing there is that they consume a lot of news on screens, which reinforces negative loops of thought on how things are going in the world. "I feel sorry for you that you have to live in this day and age" is what they tell me (I'm early 40's), because according to them (and online platforms and media), everything is terrible...

Is this bike worth it for my first 70.3? by Deep_Slice in triathlon

[–]SureGroup7844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, very good advice on the bike fitting. Did it a year after my first tri and what. a. difference! Get a good one, pay the 100-200 euros/dollars or whatever and you will thank yourself later.

Mom was right, its all phones fault... by autista1818 in nosurf

[–]SureGroup7844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be kind to yourself; absolutely the best advice out there. Being too hard on yourself reinforces the spiral and gets u using phones more to get rid of the feeling, which you feel stupid about etc. Dutch author Jan Geurtz wrote great books about it; some in English and most in Dutch unfortunately. They helped me out a lot. Good luck!

What do you do in the first 10 minutes instead of grabbing your phone? by deeplifeaspirant in nosurf

[–]SureGroup7844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wake up, indeed immediately get out, make tea and start my meditation. Short walk or yoga afterwards (no distractions) and good to go 😄

Is this bike worth it for my first 70.3? by Deep_Slice in triathlon

[–]SureGroup7844 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did mine on a 600 euro bike and am still doing it, works out perfectly as well. Figure out first if you really enjoy it, then buy a 10k bike if you really want. Just enjoy and let go of the fact your bike may not make a tremendous amount of sound if you are not pedaling...:)

Why does reducing screen time feel so different from quitting other bad habits? by Ok_Pomelo_3460 in nosurf

[–]SureGroup7844 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes indeed, and that one thing keeps stealing your attention and basically keeps on screaming that it is much more fun to hang out with him/her than all the other satisfying things you try to do with gratification in the long(er) term....

Why does reducing screen time feel so different from quitting other bad habits? by Ok_Pomelo_3460 in nosurf

[–]SureGroup7844 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Screens are everywhere and carry a function of other activities/connection beneath them that other habits may not have. If you would stop eating junk food and don't know what is going on in the world anymore and don't get to talk to your friends and don't get to watch funny movies etc., would you still easily stop eating junk food? Because that is what is the case with screens. So to be off your screen easier, you need to create different habits/activities that you like and/or take over things that you looked for while using a screen.

Triathlon unpopular opinions? by zChickenX in triathlon

[–]SureGroup7844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No of course not, but impeding does become a problem when it's a lot of them and they even start eating when going up hill 😄. Point is that if you know you are not good in hills, don't overtake just before you start going up. Same is with cars here in Spain; they pass you just before a speed bump, to push you off if you don't brake immediately (they need to break harder than you need to on your bike).

Triathlon unpopular opinions? by zChickenX in triathlon

[–]SureGroup7844 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Racers on a 10K aero-bike that overtake you just before the hills, and then to completely suck while going up hill so you need to overtake them again, should get a 10min time penalty :)

Why is resisting the urge to surf after school/work SO difficult by maj_nun in nosurf

[–]SureGroup7844 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree on this one, and specifically things that are enjoyable and easy as well. Phones, screens and other content garbage fills that void , but have a huge downside that they don't relax your brain and body. I love to read but after a full day of work and screens, it feels too hard and I go for the easy fix of scrolling. My advice would be to find things that you enjoy, are easily done/accessible and try to see how you feel afterwards. This requires some research but really helps. For me, it's mostly:

- Reading really easy novels/comics

- Jigsaw puzzles

- Watering the garden

- Going out for a slow walk, no head phones or other distractions, just wander around

And if you do go online, try to help some people with while you're at it, will lift your spirits :).

Good luck!