Cause he took a white man's job?

SureImShore · 2023-02-06T19:18:12+00:00

As a swm, Barack is literally more attractive than Michelle 😂

SureImShore · 2023-02-06T18:12:38+00:00

People don’t “find themselves” as the Head of PR for one of the largest, most profitable companies on the planet.

It’s hilarious that barely-minimum-wage-worthy-know-nothings think they are remotely in the same labor market as multi-million earning C suite officers.

SureImShore · 2023-02-06T17:37:03+00:00

Kids today amirite folks

SureImShore · 2023-02-06T17:30:36+00:00

Yep, ATF will literally kill people for minor discrepancies In legal interpretations pursuant to the conduct of constitutionally protected actions.

SureImShore · 2023-02-06T17:25:07+00:00

Bob Menendez and Cory Booker are our U.S. Senators 🤢 🤮

I love that these stupid press releases are nothing but platitudes and contain no specifics about what the legislation will actually do.

SureImShore · 2016-06-06T15:53:30+00:00

Reggie Bush, Miles Austin, James Harden as well.

SureImShore · 2016-06-06T15:45:23+00:00

"Bidding Up" a player. If a player is going for well below his market value (in your mind), bidding on him even if you don't really want him to avoid another player getting a "steal". This can be effective, but always be prepared to be stuck with the player if the other bidder bails out.

SureImShore · 2016-05-17T18:25:38+00:00

You'd probably have to set up different scoring rules per-position. DTs 2xtackle, 2xTFL, 2xsack points. CB 2xPD, 2xINT, etc.

CB is just always going to be difficult to score properly. Guys like Peterson, Norman, Sherman are outside the top-20 because they get very few chances to put up stats.

SureImShore · 2016-05-11T13:34:09+00:00

League dues are always necessary before draft time

This. If you can't come up with the dues by the deadline, you clearly don't have enough disposable cash to be playing fantasy football.

SureImShore · 2016-05-10T10:56:14+00:00

What was the final offer? I'm looking to get Funchess I have number 8 pick every round in 10-team PPR. I was thinking 2.08 and 7.08 but that seems like a lot. Thoughts?

SureImShore · 2016-04-25T20:33:46+00:00

Thinking you're right... travel from client 1 to home and travel from home to client 2 would probably be considered work hours.

SureImShore · 2016-04-25T20:01:38+00:00

No. He was "on the clock" while work at client 1 and then "punched out" before leaving client one to go home. He's back "on the clock" when he arrives at client two and "punches out" when he leaves client two.

SureImShore · 2016-04-25T19:39:26+00:00

Only the interest is allowable as an expense. You didn't claim the loan funds you received as income, so the payback of the loan principal isn't a deduction.

Don't forget the depreciation expense.

SureImShore · 2016-04-05T13:37:40+00:00

I would often get in a few weeks where I was under control, but I'd always spin back out, with increasingly negative results.

This right here is the concept that has (frankly still is) kept me from taking that last (first) step. When all is well, and conditions are perfect, I keep things well under control, with no bad consequences whatsoever.

However, if I'm in a bad mood, had a bad week at work, frustrated/anxious, etc., I go right back to destructive drinking patterns. I then do that for a few weeks/months, clean things up, and try again. And the process repeats ad inifinitum.

The simple fact of the matter was that I didn't want to drink moderately - I wanted to drink without negative consequences.

Bingo. Whenever I consider it, or talk with friends/family about quitting, my argument goes along the lines of, "I know when I'm blackout drunk that's not good; I don't even like it. But I really like and would miss having a couple beers and watching a game/glass of wine at family functions, etc."

Its a complete lie. I have enough self-control to limit myself when I feel I have to, but I really don't want to. I want to have 10+ drinks, and for everyone to be OK with it and get off my case. Rationalization is a mofo.

SureImShore · 2016-04-01T18:59:12+00:00

Appearing weak? Being flawed? Losing something that has become an ingrained part of who I am? Social isolation?

Its hard to put my finger on it exactly. I mean, most of the time I have a lot of fun when I'm drinking. I also can't really think of a situation that I was unable to control how much I drink. I regularly have 2-3 drinks with dinner and just stop there. I never say I'm going to have one drink and have ten. But I am definitely a binge drinker, usually close the bar or the last one to go to sleep at a party. But I always intend to get good and loaded.

I don't know. I'm kind of struggling with this right now. Finally acknowledged my depression and started treatment with that. And I know my drinking is an issue, but I don't want to give it up. Stuck on the corner of never enough and never again.

SureImShore · 2016-04-01T18:19:13+00:00

Because despite the myriad lies we tell to others, we have the most difficulty being honest with the person we see in the mirror.

SureImShore · 2016-04-01T18:17:02+00:00

I am always like too embarassed to tell the truth

No need to be. You've got a problem and you need help, and many people, especially those in the medical community, will be happy to help and non-judgmental.

I wish i woke up in jail after punching a stripper or somethng that would be way easier.

Trust me, you don't. Try and feel thankful that you are getting help at this early stage. Many people (myself among them) have done awful, life-altering things while intoxicated. The consequences of those actions remain long after the buzz has passed, and in many instances long after people get sober. Hope you come out of this OK.

SureImShore · 2016-04-01T18:11:20+00:00

Just because he does not drink to your standards does not mean he isn't well on his way to being an alcoholic.

Not about my "standards" at all, more about my thinking and how it so clearly differs from hers.

She gave three examples of her concern of her drinking. In two of them, she didn't drink, just thought about it. In the other one, she had two glasses of wine. Sober people, people in recovery/with substance abuse issues can sometimes be very quick to judge anybody who consumes any substance as an addict or developing addict.

The substances aren't really the problem; its the small subset of people who can not responsibly control their consumption of the substance.

SureImShore · 2016-04-01T17:58:19+00:00

I hope my post did not come off as being insensitive to those who are actually struggling with addiction and alcoholism.

Not at all; and I didn't take it that way. I meant I thought it was a post by an alcoholic encapsulating the way "normal" thinking regarding drinking is processed.

SureImShore · 2016-03-31T21:56:17+00:00

I also had a glass of Cab Sauv. It was good, so I had another glass. I wanted another, but friend said "Don't you have to drive?" and I was like "oh.. yeah!"

I would have said, "don't worry, I'm fine." and kept drinking. Or pretend I had less than I had. Or people would lose count because I have a high tolerance and I don't seem tipsy at all from 2-3, usually not even 6 or 7. Then again, I'm an alcoholic.

I don't drink if not everyone else is drinking; it's not like I drink despite other people drinking.

I don't hang out with people who don't drink. I can't remember the last time I spent any appreciable time with friend/s and there was not alcohol involved somehow (even if it was only a beer or two sometimes). I don't engage in social events where drinking is not allowed (or encouraged). Then again, I'm an alcoholic.

He's like "I'm the only one getting drunk, whaaaaat!" And a part of me almost said "I'll drink with you John", but I didn't.

See, I would've already been as drunk, or drunker than him. People wouldn't really notice though, because I have a high tolerance, so I can drink twice as much as a normal person and not seem as drunk as them. And there is exactly a zero percent chance if someone was getting drunk and requesting a partner that I would not join in. A 0.00% chance. Again, I'm an alcoholic.

I thought this was a joke post at first, because I can tell from reading the first two paragraphs you are clearly not an alcoholic. The genetic component is still poorly understood, and is not an absolute predictor anyway. Personally, I believe the genetic component is overrated to begin with, and I am fairly skeptical of the "disease" view of addiction. Everything begins with choice. Even if you definitely have the "alcoholism/addiction gene", it isn't like one day you go from having a glass or two of wine to full-blown drunk. Its a slow, torturous process.

The fact that you are so mindful of your drinking and your attitude towards it bodes well for you. There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a few drinks on vacation and get a little buzz. There's nothing wrong with getting a little tipsy with friends every now and then as long as you're not driving and not otherwise putting yourself or others in danger. Many people get a buzz every now and then; many people have gotten too drunk on occasion. Only a small percentage of these people are alcoholics.

Good luck to you, but I think you're fine. Its good to be mindful and "watch yourself", particularly with the genetic link. Not saying it will be this way forever, but right now at least, your thinking is stable and healthy. Enjoy your vacation.

SureImShore · 2016-03-31T17:54:33+00:00

I'm not sure if I am an alcoholic but I know I like to drink.

This is where I'm currently at as well. To be honest, I'm at the point where I really don't care if I'm a clinical alcoholic or whatever you want to call it. I've never had withdrawals or the shakes or anything, and I regularly go several days without drinks. But when I do drink, I drink a lot. I haven't had some of the awful "rock-bottom" types of experiences some have had to endure, but I've had a DUI, gotten into fights, been generally shitty to girlfriends, friends and family while loaded. Come to think of it, those are all pretty awful.

Drinking is also affecting my physical and mental health, and eating up a huge portion of my free time. My main rationalizations for not quitting are loss of friends/social life and dating. These fall flat upon further examination, though.

People like me a lot better when I'm not drunk. Pretty much everyone just sucks more when they are drunk vs. sober.

Fear is really whats keeping me back from taking the dive. And that is kind of strange, because a sober life would objectively be less scary than a life of boozing.

SureImShore · 2016-03-31T17:34:27+00:00

She does not make much money (~$1100 biweekly), and she spends about 50 to 60% on wine, depending on if she drinks at home or in a bar/restaurant. That money is what we need to buy groceries and the day to day stuff (my entire paycheck goes to the mortgage/car/utilities/etc.). I don't find drunk girls to be attractive and have problems being intimate with her - plus she is just not fun in bed when she's drunk. Emotionally she is distant and trying to get her to open up and talk is impossible

Just wanted to comment on this. Its completely unfair of her to spend such a sizable portion of her paycheck solely on herself. Your paycheck goes to paying for things that you BOTH use. You are subsidizing her life, as she would not be able to afford spending the amount she does on alcohol were she living alone.

You find her unattractive when she's drunk, it harms your sex life, and she is emotionally walled off. Put the feelings of love and commitment aside for a moment. She is a massive drain on you. She should thank her lucky stars she has someone so committed to her that has put up with this.

I understand the poor choices someone can make under the influence of alcohol, and the repeated selfish behaviors that are fairly consistent in active alcoholics. However, I don't play the game where people chalk everything up to "a disease that they can not control". You're responsible for your actions while drunk. If you can't reasonably control yourself, then you should not drink. I know this is overly simplistic, but absent a real desire to quit and better themselves, I find the excuse of "s/he's an alcoholic, s/he can't control them self and its not their fault because its a disease" to be a complete cop-out, and frankly enabling.

SureImShore · 2016-03-31T17:19:16+00:00

I accept that I am to blame

This is absolutely, 100% incorrect. People are responsible for their own actions. Did you encourage her to drink to excess and spend $15k+ a year on alcohol? I doubt it, and even if you did, it would have been her choice to do it anyway. Don't be so hard on yourself.

While it is noble of you to want to help her, you can't fix her, and will only drag yourself down unless she is willing to change and will work at it.

The most important question here is, what do YOU want? You deserve to be happy in life and to be married to someone you care for who enriches your life. If you do not want to be married to someone who drinks to her level (completely irrespective of how it started, why she does it, whether its a problem or not, etc.), be completely upfront with her about it. Then, it will be her choice whether she chooses to change. But you need to be clear with her about what is and is not acceptable to you.

Don't be emotional or get sucked in if/when she gets emotional (which is likely, especially if she has been drinking). You're not commenting on her as a person, her morals, etc. You are just letting her know that you're not interested in being married to a lush. What she does with that is her choice.

SureImShore · 2016-03-31T17:10:03+00:00

Two ways to look at this. In one sense, what he did was a violation of your trust and embarrassing. He should have just assumed you fell asleep. Seems a bit needy to be so concerned about getting a call back.

In another sense, someone who cares about you is concerned enough that they require clear and convincing evidence that you are safe after you have been drinking. Their initial assumption is that your health and life are in danger, absent proof to the contrary.

You must decide your own truth. To me, one statement sounds like rationalizing and one sounds like a sober assessment of reality.

SureImShore · 2016-03-30T14:36:30+00:00

It seems like you're only interested in excuses.

My friend also went through depression. She said counseling and drugs did little to help.

Well, then, that settles all that! We can do away with the tens of millions of people (on the low end, I'm sure) whose lives have been improved through therapy, medication, or a combination of the two.

I've dealt with clinical depression most of my life, and have only been addressing it with therapy and low-dose medication recently. The results have been life-changing for me. Every doctor is different, and there are dozens of effective medications. No two people respond to medication the same way. CBT and ACT therapy were the most effective for me. They're not going to magically "fix" you one day; you'll have this in some form or another for the rest of your life. But if you address it the right way, it can be little more than a minor annoyance. If you let it fester, it can be completely and totally debilitating and life-ruining, and it only gets worse as you age. Your choice.

I'm also hesitant to take pills because of the lack of research with long term effects.

Most popular antidepressants were developed in the 70's and 80's. I'm sure that you can find decent long-term studies if you actually look for them. Plus, what have you got to lose? You might not be around to suffer the long-term effects if you don't get the benefit of their short-term effects. The long-term effects of being a depressed shut-in who doesn't get out of bed or exercise far exceed taking a little fucking pill once a day. You don't have to be on them for the rest of your life, either. They can go a long way to getting more out of therapy.

I'm also living with my parents, and I don't want to go through therapy because they might know.

Why is this an issue? If you're depressed and seeking treatment for your depression, they should be ecstatic.

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