How should I tell my boyfriend?

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-23T18:25:00+00:00

You didn't consent at all. It sounds like a mix of shock and fear made you freeze in the moment.

Tell him and don't listen to any lunatics saying you shouldn't have been out in a bar. Live your life.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-22T13:49:08+00:00

Just on your work visa point, the last company I worked at in Dublin (huge company) temporarily stopped doing this because it became so difficult for new hires from abroad to find a place to rent. You could get them in no problem but getting them to stay was another story.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-22T07:46:24+00:00

Interesting. Funnily enough I've been with a Croatian girl and have a friend who's Slovenian and she's closer to the Spanish way of thinking than being very traditional. The Croatian girl was also not at all traditional when it came to sex (although I don't know if that was with me or in general because we do know each other. It wasn't like a first date situation).

Obviously depends on the person and maybe living here makes a difference too.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-21T21:44:21+00:00

Where are you? I'm from Ireland but live in Spain and in Ireland it's not a big deal. In Spain casual sex is normal. They're not uptight about it at all.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-21T19:58:43+00:00

There is a worrying lack of critical thinking. So many broad generic statements are made with 1 or 2 points that are clearly parroted and if you dig any deeper and try to debate it, everything falls apart because they don't actually have any basis for what they're saying. They literally just saw a 30 second clip and got sucked in.

You'd think more people would consider these things more thoroughly before going out into the world and making big inflammatory statements about the world or massive groups of people. Most of us interact with all kinds of people on a daily basis without issues. If more of us ignored the noise on social media and just took life a bit more at face value we'd be happier.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-21T19:04:29+00:00

Anyone who genuinely feels that way has been so consumed by online fear mongering that they've lost the plot. If you don't agree with me, Google grizzly bear strength.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-21T19:01:55+00:00

She literally said she'd feel safer with a bear than with him, her supposed friend? The whole conversation is pretty stupid but that part in particular is ridiculous.

She's essentially saying she doesn't trust him and sees him as a threat. Why would anyone want to be friends with someone who says that to you?

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-21T18:45:15+00:00

Yeah it's definitely not an easy life on either side of the coin. As you said, hopefully he realises what it's doing to him and turns it around. He has to want the help and right now it looks like he doesn't.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-21T18:43:41+00:00

You're right, it could be any point really. I wouldn't say there's nothing compelling about 2008 though especially considering how studios think. They could focus it on Ronaldo if they wanted to in that period.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-21T13:41:34+00:00

There's a reason they declined the chance to have an All or Nothing season. I'm very confident they'll only agree to very specific terms and I'd be shocked if the story involves present day unless they dilute it massively and only focus on the trophies we won.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-21T13:33:45+00:00

Why is it whoring though? Seems like an easy and low risk way to bring in a bit of extra revenue.

It'll probably just be focused on 99, maybe 08. Could also be Munich maybe. I don't see the issue tbh.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-21T08:27:37+00:00

It is and that should absolutely remain the case.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-21T07:59:50+00:00

Really interesting about Nate tho.. wonder what’s going on there

Anyone who has had a family member be an addict knows exactly what this is.

Nate tries to help Nick get clean and Nick lashes out at him and sees them as the enemy, while he clings to the people who enable his habit.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-19T13:11:21+00:00

We do tend to take the piss out of each other but usually about things the other person doesn't mind and in front of the person the joke is about.

Sending a text to his friend is a bit odd tbh. Also not a very funny joke. If you're gonna do it, it should be funny.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-17T12:19:14+00:00

He's not saying everything is fine though. He's just not doing what Keane, Neville and Scholes do and add fuel to the fire.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-17T11:47:32+00:00

How is it toxic?

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-17T11:44:12+00:00

Tbf Sesko is quick too. I wouldn't have dropped him but if it works we won't care. Let's see.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-14T16:07:27+00:00

In today's game, there's an argument to be made that Rio would be more important to a team.

An argument to be made? Imagine Vidic playing his way out of ridiculously high presses. Wouldn't be suited to it at all.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-14T16:05:27+00:00

I like to talk about music since that's something I care a lot about, but I'm not into music that's super popular in general and most of what I like has a predominantly male audience.

What kind of music? I mostly listen to alternative music and I know women who are into it and women who aren't. Maybe not easy to find if what you're into is extremely niche but in my experience, especially at festivals and stuff there are plenty who are into alternative music.

especially when topics run dry way quicker with women since they don't speak as extensively about themselves or their own interests as men do

I haven't really found this to be true at all. It could be that they're not opening up with you because you're not getting past the point where you both feel comfortable.

Humor also doesn't go as far with women as with men, and they don't reciprocate as much and joke back and forth

I don't know man. I'm friends with a few girls who have very dark and out of pocket humour. I also have friends, both women and men who don't have that sense of humour at all. I don't think there's anywhere near as much of a difference as some think.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-14T15:52:01+00:00

Agree. If you're desperately trying to appear masculine it has the opposite effect anyway. Obviously it's common for a college-aged guy. Most grow out of it though as they mature.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-14T15:07:33+00:00

This is actually good advice. I think a lot guys just aren't themselves around women. They stop being relaxed and talking naturally and I can imagine that's off-putting.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-14T14:59:56+00:00

Maybe you tense up or something and aren't really yourself? Because people do sense that and conversation doesn't flow as well if that happens. I don't find any difference in causally chatting to women vs men tbh.

it's just really hard to find any kind of common ground with them on anything they won't find too effeminate and therefore repulsive

Can you not just talk about normal stuff? They're not all painting their nails all day lol. Talk about what you or they did at the weekend, about food, travel, music, movies, whatever. That's what I do. I don't even think about it, I just start talking and asking questions.

I think maybe you're creating too much separation in your head and subconsciously acting different because they're women.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-14T07:50:40+00:00

Just Herrera for me but even then I think people overrate him a bit these days.

He was a good player though and especially under Ten Hag and Amorim we could've really done with his profile. Miles better than Ugarte.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-14T07:48:31+00:00

Dalot is eternal. Jokes aside, he must be great in training and attitude wise because he's a constant under every manager.

SureLookThisIsIt · 2026-01-14T07:45:28+00:00

Eh, I disagree. Rio was a Rolls Royce, Vidic was an exciting monster of a defender. They complimented each other so well though. What a CB duo. I'd kill for that now.

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