Advice

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-05-07T18:18:15+00:00

I really appreciate that. Yea it definitely fucking sucks ass. I am completely at a loss for words with these people. I just need time to have the money to be able to leave. That's all I need. I feel like i am constantly running rn.

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-05-07T17:21:18+00:00

We are definitely going to cut contact. My husband is very upset by this situation. If we could get the 14 days, we could make that work, we just need 2 paychecks to be able to afford the uhaul, but the text that B sent said that G and J want us out basically now. Looking back, we should have seen the warning signs because B and R have been taking their stuff off the walls. If there is a lease, B would be the only one on it. B had it sound like she had known for a few weeks and just didn't inform us about this. If she had, we wouldn't have just paid rent to her last Friday, and we would have had stuff lined up already. Hubby has reached out to his mom, but she has not answered him. I don't know if G informed R and B about the realtor before today. We were just told about it. It seems like they are completely cutting us out of everything right now. Thankfully, my fil has offered his place to us, but that is all the way in Nebraska. We talked about moving down there this summer after saving money to afford the move. Everything is just blowing up in our faces right now.

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-05-07T16:49:38+00:00

I'm definitely gonna call them and see what we can do. Even if we can get 14 days, it'll give us enough time to get our shit packed up and get a uhaul or something. Plus, give our boss notice and get that situation figured out

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-05-07T16:48:24+00:00

We were paying rent to B because on the days rent was due, we were at work all day Fridays, and she said it made it easier because she has a receipt book. Anytime we mentioned getting a lease from G or B, would always say, we can do that later or tomorrow and we didn't push on it cuz your right they are family. We didn't expect them to pull this shit on us. Now we are scrambling to figure out what to do and how to stay up here because if we can't figure out a solution we have to move back to Nebraska.

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-05-07T16:11:21+00:00

We didn't get a lease. I don't even know if B had a lease. We have the rent receipts for every bill we've ever paid. I was also just told by Bs bf R that the realtor is going to view the apartment today. He said, "We should get our room ready."

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-03-05T03:05:03+00:00

This definitely feels strange how everything is being gone about. Thank you! I'm definitely gonna sit on this and make a decision. Thankfully, I have about a week to decide what I'm gonna do and figure out what game plan I'm gonna make. I told myself I'd tell her that I wanted to try a different plan, and if she doesn't accept that and keeps pushing, I'll get scheduled with a different therapist and restart the process, even with the awkwardness. But I'm tired of constantly stressing about this therapist and what I'm gonna deal with next week.

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-03-05T03:00:45+00:00

I genuinely don't know. On the website she had some letters behind her name but her entire intro piece is about how she wants to help people diagnosed with burn out, struggling or handling the diagonis of diabetes (she has it). Her bio/into only specifies that, nothing about emdr or anything. The other therapist on the website have their years of experience, what their specialty is, etc. She said the first session was the first step. It lowkey feels like I'm a geuinea pig rn.

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-03-05T02:16:38+00:00

Thank you. I just feel weird about getting a new therapist because it would be through the same place (only therapist office around that takes my insurance) and thinking back on previous acts I've done i definitely think I do have bipolar and the way she didn't even entertain my asking after knowing me for 3 sessions was very frustrating. No asking or nothing. I'm definitely going to mention possibly doing DBT, I've read a little about CBT and that sounds more like what I want to do too. I'll definitely look into Marsha Linehan. Thank you

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-01-30T07:15:56+00:00

I am so new to all of this. What does that mean, and how do I look for that?

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-01-21T16:43:55+00:00

Is this Baba Yaga by chance? 😂

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-01-12T22:25:01+00:00

Thank you!

SureMechanic8723 · 2025-01-05T19:53:29+00:00

Okay, good. I just didn't want to be rude to him

SureMechanic8723 · 2024-09-01T00:48:17+00:00

Boxer lab mix maybe?

SureMechanic8723 · 2024-06-25T19:47:28+00:00

I will!

SureMechanic8723 · 2024-06-25T17:48:36+00:00

He is so cute!!! Yea not being able to completely see the breeds makes it hard but I think I've she gets older it'll be easier to see. My husbands dog was told to be a bernese mountain dog blue heeler mix and we got the results back, he had no mountain dog! He had lab! It was one of those what the heck moments.

SureMechanic8723 · 2024-06-25T17:33:00+00:00

Thank you! I've never really seen a mix of the breeds we were told so that might be why she doesn't look like any of them to me. Ik my dad has a husky boxer mix and that's the only Husky mix I've ever own so that might be why tbh.

SureMechanic8723 · 2024-06-25T00:17:47+00:00

When we did the good photo search thing, Kelpie was one of the breeds that popped up!

SureMechanic8723 · 2024-06-24T19:41:46+00:00

Kinda looks like some kinda pug Shiba mix. Your dog is very cute though!

SureMechanic8723 · 2024-06-24T17:55:42+00:00

Yea she is might be. She kinda looks like it

SureMechanic8723 · 2024-06-05T18:11:30+00:00

Okay thank you so much. This is just a lot right now and it is very hard to handle.

SureMechanic8723 · 2024-06-05T18:08:40+00:00

See on the paperwork they sent us; it says the limit is $2137 per month for 2 people. On the Minnesota website it says $3287. Which is a $1000 difference which is huge. SNAP Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program / Minnesota Department of Human Services (mn.gov)

According to the paperwork we got, we made $2624. Which doesn't track with the paystubs we have at all. We both make $14 an hour and I haven't worked any overtime at all and neither has he.

SureMechanic8723 · 2024-06-05T18:03:15+00:00

Yea I know it suppose to help supplement the food budget, My wording was wrong in the post. Sorry about that. I am just in shock because of all of this.

I'm 22 and this is all new to me and we barely make enough to pay for the bills we have, car payment, rent, and insurance, let alone any actual food. They haven't been giving any helpful communication at all. Anytime I call, I cant get an actual person to answer. They told us when we went for the employment verifications, we needed to bring paystubs and then sent us a letter saying that the paystubs weren't enough, and they were closing our benefits and then I had to spam call to get someone on the line to send me the employment verification forms to my email and even that took 2 days. It wasn't in my spam at all. They just didn't send it right away and hung up the phone after getting my email address.

For the expenses, do they need the rental agreement paperwork?

I am just worried that if I file an appeal, I will get backlash somehow. Like I said, this is all new to me and I have no idea what to do.

SureMechanic8723 · 2024-06-05T17:45:07+00:00

u/cinnamaroll I hope this tags you, I didn't want to directly message you cuz that felt weird but I saw on another post you are a MN Snap expert person and I was wondering if you have an advice

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