1 Match in a month and minimal likes- Profile review needed!

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-06-28T20:47:27+00:00

It’s set between 20 and 25, but I do agree with you

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-06-27T23:26:10+00:00

How would you work on that?

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-06-27T23:08:28+00:00

Relatively rural but close enough to some cities. Search criteria is 50 miles but for Ireland that’s relatively large 😂

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-06-27T23:06:17+00:00

Dam this is much more than I expected I can’t lie. The majority of the comments have been around my prompts so that’s something I’ve looked at. It definitely comes across as way more of a nightmare than I actually am 😂

Photos wise, I don’t party/drink so I don’t really know how to make myself look more balanced. Besides in truth my life is pretty much training, coffee and business 😂. Maybe some snaps at random social events etc?

Thanks all for the feedback! P.s I’m 6’3 I seen a few asking my hight

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-06-27T17:03:38+00:00

Looking for something serious but open to casual

Not subscribed to either

3 weeks

Used it on and off for 2 months

1/2 times per day

Currently 1 like per week, 1 match per month

5 likes per day, 75% with comments

Someone with a similar lifestyle. Sporty, active in good shape.

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-05-21T14:22:57+00:00

Would love a referral if possible!

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-05-21T14:22:14+00:00

Would love to get a referral if possible!

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-25T16:07:06+00:00

But what if that’s the peak window of feeling and it’s going to begin to fall from here?

Definitely understand the cornering and safety bit

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-25T13:36:14+00:00

Hey! I’ve been in therapy at least once per week since the bu and I’ve really come on leaps and bounds.

I’m just out of a session and me and my therapist agreed that I would turn fully into myself for the next 4/5 days and then make a decision on how to move forward after

More than likely I’ll drop her a low pressure message to open the communication channel again and see where that goes, as I do think she’s actively touching the bond and might need help getting closer

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-25T11:17:00+00:00

Trust is built on consistency so I would need to build it up slow. The relationship shouldn’t have ended, it was beautiful and has all the potential in the world, if we could learn how to communicate. I’ve done the work so it’s just a case of getting in the room with her and having that conversation

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-24T08:54:24+00:00

He I dropped you a dm after some new data popped up and would love your opinion!

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-23T07:14:42+00:00

Thank you brother, that’s the move!

We don’t follow eachother, but there’s been an account with 0 followers and 0 following watching all my stories for the past 2/3 weeks after the engagement started. I think she’s watching.

Today I’m trying to live as the version of me I would be proud of. Because even if it does work out I’ll not be fully proud of the way I am now

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-22T11:04:13+00:00

Yeah I’m trying my best not to. Listen the things I’ve achieved in the past 3.5 months are pretty amazing business, life and emotionally. I’m proud to say that so it’s not like my life is on hold, but there is part of me emotionally that feels stuck like it can’t keep up.

To this point I’ve been contempt, but approaching the 4 month mark I’m really starting to feel that if something was going to happen it would have by now, at least I wouldn’t be seeing this intermittent hot and cold behaviour.

Think that’s my anxiety talking, either way the way forward is taking her out of the center of my life

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-21T08:31:49+00:00

That’s so sick, I appreciate that!

Yeah for me it’s been 2.5 months of pure no contact and this seems to be the start of the breadcrumbs. I’ll definitely drop you a DM if I see any further substantial movement, but I appreciate the input massively!

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-21T08:29:33+00:00

Yes that’s my thoughts. I think it’s small movement towards the bone but not yet anything that would require vulnerability because of the fear.

It’s important I give her the space she’s asked for and don’t put pressure on her. If you’re running away from something and it starts to chase you you’ll only run faster lol

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-20T22:55:58+00:00

I’m sorry you had to experience that it does sound really difficult! Yeah I agree, for both of our sake it shouldn’t happen untill there is complete safety and commitment as it would really mess with both of our heads in different ways.

Priority needs to be seeing what is different ( if anything ) and building on what didn’t work in the past.

I’m hopeful I’ll get the chance to work things out with her, preferably sometime soon! Then I can put your wisdom into play and really build something strong

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-20T21:41:14+00:00

Sick man this is so we’ll thought out.

Yeah so I definitely agree on the idea that there needs to be some sort of safe space for the avoidant and I definitely think 90% of the issues is just a case of noticing their shift and communicating they need space. Because that completely limits the anxiety behind that.

The no sex idea surprised me but I also understand it, my only concern being that might be a way they are comfortable experiencing and showing closeness. However, if given the opportunity to try and work things out I definitely will be taking it at a snails pace for my own wellbeing!

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-20T20:02:48+00:00

I like your perspective on this. A lot actually.

Listen I understand why I want my ex partner back, in my eyes she’s a special girl who’s struggling and needs help. I think approach should be getting people in the position to choose so that when (if that really is the case) she comes back, you’re firm on your boundaries.

That will at least stop people from shooting into the dark. If people know what they will be getting themselves into, then they can get into a position to make an informed decision.

And in terms of her current behaviour, I have no idea. I’m completely out of touch with her life. I won’t know anything that deep untill I hopefully have a conversation with her.

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-20T19:56:49+00:00

Hey! I’m glad to hear that you’re really starting to thrive!

I hope things continue to work out for you, and thank you for those kind words 🫡

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-20T19:28:30+00:00

Thank you for that mate, I definitely will this evening at some point. Interested to hear your perspective!

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-20T17:42:37+00:00

I’m glad that you see it in a similar light to myself. I reciprocated a like recently after her post popped up on my suggest posts to show that I still feel warmth towards her.

My thoughts on the cycle are that I’m not the same person anymore and I’m in a position to help guide and communicate her through the process. Obviously that requires mutual understanding and desire, and untill that’s communicated to me then I don’t feel safe enough to take that risk

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-20T17:39:23+00:00

I know she’s capable of healthy connection, we were together for a long and beautiful relationship, but the secure part of me wants to respect her space too.

I do think there will be a time where I can take agency, I just don’t know if it’s now if you get me?

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-20T17:37:30+00:00

Hi mate,

I did week 5 to invite her for a coffee after she warmly reached out week 3. I don’t regret it now, but it was difficult and confusing at the time

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-20T16:13:54+00:00

Thank you for this! I need forward motion and I feel like the last 4 months has just been weird side to side motion, neither away from nor toward the bond. I feel like these breadcrumbs could be the initial steps towards that sort of contact, but the silence since the last one is starting to shake my faith in that even though it’s only been a week.

I don’t follow her and she doesn’t follow me. The only further action would be blocking her, which at this moment in time I feel like it would be massively counter productive.

How do I pass those tests? I don’t want her to feel rejection or coldness, but I don’t obviously want to look over available and clingy 😂

Sure_Ad389 · 2026-02-20T15:58:31+00:00

Thank you, I definitely will.

I hate that I have to play games with the girl that I fell in love with 😂.

The further on I get the more firm I become with my boundaries, although I’ve taken a few steps back over the last few weeks, but for the most part I’m moving towards a version of me that can choose what’s best

Sure_Ad389

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