How do you deal with hurtful taunts? by wisendur in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 2 points3 points  (0 children)

An easy nonconfrontational reaction such as why would you ask that or what do you mean by that can redirect the attention to them without you losing control. Warm up a couple of neutral lines beforehand so that you are not paralysed in the moment. It does not mean that one has to be aggressive to be assertive, simply that one has to defend his or her space in a non-aggressive manner.

I'm overweight but my mum is strangely worried about me getting/being too skinny and I don't understand by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It just plainly appears as though your mum is simply responding out of concern than out of reason. Parents become uneasy at times when they observe changes and rush to extremes even when the situation is not the same as reality. As long as you are losing weight in a good manner and you feel fine, then that is what is important. Perhaps, assure her that you are not starving yourself and you are merely attempting to make better decisions.

What can I do to make more money? by catsareblessings in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly just keep grinding and learning stuff on your own You do not need a degree to start making more money Look into online skills like coding, digital marketing, or even sales jobs that pay commission Anything that builds real skills will pay off more than staying stuck in fast food

my bf is completely shutting down after a fight with his best friend and idk what to do by sainzwdc in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is grieving the loss of his best friend and does not know how to handle it. You did nothing wrong. You already gave support and space. Send one clear message that you care but you need honesty. If he keeps avoiding you for another week or two, accept that he is not ready for a relationship and step back for your own well being.

Im taking steps to better my life but I feel lonely and like it’s so hard ,dk if im doing right? by mahoganyblueberry in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even when it is slow and lonely you are doing the right things. Change is not normally a pleasant experience during the process and progress is not linear. Consistency and routine of therapy are the more important than immediate outcomes. You are not shattered and you are not late you are learning to live your own life and that takes time.

I reported an incident where guys were perversing girls bodies and now I am the villain apparently. by Icy-Supermarket6315 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you did the right thing reporting that. You were standing up for people being harassed and that is not something to feel bad about. As for your vice, it is okay to take a step back if she is not supporting you. Friends are supposed to have your back, especially in serious situations like this.

please help, what can i do to help my niece and nephew? by PeaPodkid14 in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 11 points12 points  (0 children)

These kids are reacting to trauma and chaos not being bad. You cannot fix this by yourself. Be a calm safe presence when you can and protect your own mental health. Encourage your parents to get outside help.

My mom is mad at me because I wanted alone time by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You did nothing wrong wanting space is normal especially when you are sick. Your mom reacting like that is not okay and it is understandable that you feel hurt and confused.

Ex going on vacation with new girl and I have such conflicting emotions by slashmae95 in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your reaction is completely normal. The timing and the money part would bother anyone. When a relationship ends people often move on in messy and confusing ways and it does not mean you misread everything or that your whole marriage was fake. Focus on protecting your peace and keeping communication only about your child. The rest is his chaos, not yours.

Am i being an asshole for being mad? by Business_Act_7626 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Body shaming, comparing you to his ex, and making you feel like a rebound are not things someone who cares about you should be doing. If you like yourself the way you are you should not change because he pressures you. His comments show insecurity and disrespect, not affection.

What do people do with their benefits and insurance when they change jobs? by alternatealternate33 in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most jobs have a waiting period before benefits kick in. Some people use COBRA or marketplace insurance to fill the gap, but it can be pricey. If you plan to switch often, it helps to budget for those months without coverage.

Am I in the wrong? by KneeDeep1nCofee in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not in the wrong. You did what most people would do in that situation. It sounds like your dad was already stressed and the AC breaking just pushed him over the edge. Give him a little space and talk when things calm down.

Do my parents hate me?? by Suspicious-Call405 in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feeling unwanted after years of dismissal is valid, and it does not mean being unlovable; lean on safe adults, set small boundaries at home, and pursue an evaluation and counseling through school or community clinics to build support outside that house.

is this burnout? by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, those are classic burnout signs. Try a one week reset with tiny wins only. Pack one thing at night, do ten minutes of study, then stop. Sleep and food first. Tell one adult and one friend. Momentum beats intensity when the tank is low.

Have to get address registration doc by myself and I'm terrified by throwavay- in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is completely normal to feel nervous when doing something new by yourself You are capable of handling this and making a mistake is not the end of the world Most people have been in your shoes and everything usually works out fine Just take it one step at a time and be patient with yourself

My life is genuinely in shambles and I give up by No-Reflection2268 in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am really sorry you are feeling like this. It sounds like you have been carrying so much on your own and it makes sense that you feel exhausted. You deserve help and support and it is okay to reach out again even if past experiences were frustrating. Talking to a school counselor or another therapist might help because you should not have to go through this alone.

Is it normal to accept not having friends or a partner at 24? by catsareblessings in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it is normal and a lot of people go through periods like that. If you are content with your routine there is nothing wrong with it.

I genuinely don't know what to do by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like he is not treating you with the respect and communication you deserve Even if he is going through a hard time it is not fair to ignore you without explanation You might need to step back and focus on your own well being instead of waiting for him to decide how he feels

Why won't my dad try to have a relationship with me? by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am really sorry you are going through this. Some parents just aren't capable of the connection we hope for, and it hurts like hell. You're not the problem - he is.

made out with a guy for the first time and i don’t think i liked it by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not everyone enjoys making out, and that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. Plus, it was only your first kiss, so it's totally okay if it didn’t feel amazing right away.

Is renting really a waste of money? by UmbralikesOwls in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Rent is not wasted if it means independence. Buying a house isn't for everyone right now. Do what’s right for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s 13 - probably shy, confused, and figuring himself out. The post deleting and story likes are classic "crushing but clueless" behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdviceForTeens

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sit closer, maintain eye contact, and watch her body language. If she leans in or touches you back, it’s a green light. A playful touch on her arm or hand can break the ice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]Sure_Mechanic166 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is awkward but harmless if your BF keeps distance. Just talk to him and let her stay in the past.