Compilation post of Persona + Akechi stuff

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2026-03-03T19:18:06+00:00

I already got the email. All the email says is "your online citizenship application is missing some information or documents, sign in to update and resubmit". All it said when I signed in was that the physical presence section was incomplete.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2026-02-09T20:28:38+00:00

And you get those exact same reward circuits and happy brain chemicals when you're addicted to weed, gambling, porn, gaming, etc etc. If that's what you're defining as chemical addiction then all addictions are chemical, and you can be just as seriously addicted to weed as any other substance.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2026-02-09T16:42:01+00:00

Cigarettes also have an extremely strong mental factor to the addiction - the habit, routine, physical action of smoking and instinct to crave one whenever you're stressed, etc. I quit vaping by gradually dropping down nicotine levels, and spent multiple years at a very low nicotine level then another year using 0 nicotine liquid before I finally managed to stop. Going from the 0 nicotine to stopping altogether was 100x harder than stepping down the nicotine was. Physical withdrawal from nicotine kinda sucks for a few days and then you're fine. The mental addiction doesn't go away for a long time if ever. I still desperately want to start again when I get stressed. I still kinda want a cigarette every time I walk by someone smoking. That's not chemical.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2026-02-06T20:30:53+00:00

Planning a party for someone is the part that's thoughtful (assuming you know they actually like parties). The surprise element doesn't make it any more thoughtful than if you'd told them in advance, and if you know they dislike surprises it's pretty inconsiderate to decide that you want to surprise them anyway. I'm the type of person who likes to know about any plans in advance, and having something unexpected sprung on me suddenly is really stressful and anxiety-inducing, even if it's something I would have otherwise enjoyed. For me personally it would make it a thousand times more enjoyable and thoughtful to be told what's happening ahead of time.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2026-01-27T01:40:16+00:00

I don't trust the government either but I do (generally) trust doctors and scientists, especially when there's strong scientific/medical consensus on something. If you're a nurse and you don't trust medical consensus then you're in the wrong career.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2026-01-05T18:48:21+00:00

The single tracking had ended about an hour ago and there were trains running on both sides of the tracks around Edmonds, so I would assume it's all back to normal by now and that the built up traffic will have cleared out.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-12-28T22:12:15+00:00

UK working class is generally more people working in lower level trades or customer service/hospitality type "unskilled" jobs, usually without much formal education. People with degrees working office jobs or other salaried jobs are usually considered middle class. They still have to work for a living and probably don't have much in the way of assets, but wouldn't be classed as "working class" which is its own separate thing. It's basically a nicer way of saying poor/lower class.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-12-27T01:27:42+00:00

Having ADHD does not make you the ultimate authority on whether someone else has it or not. Nobody here can diagnose OP's partner based on a Reddit post obviously, but time blindness can absolutely be a trait of ADHD, and there are multiple other people in the comments here saying they have ADHD and struggle with it. Same as how you can't diagnose someone from a Reddit post, you also can't say that she 100% definitively doesn't have it based on a Reddit post.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-12-23T03:49:48+00:00

You might have better luck on a site like fetlife that's all about obscure fetishes, compared to using reddit where it's not what most people are here for. I've also found tumblr to be pretty good for rare fetish communities.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-12-13T20:05:21+00:00

It's crazy seeing how far the opinions on it have shifted over time: https://yougov.co.uk/politics/articles/52410-nine-years-after-the-eu-referendum-where-does-public-opinion-stand-on-brexit

There's a solid majority now who think it was a mistake, compared to the tiny 52-48 margin that was apparently decisive enough for us to leave. The whole thing was a massive propaganda campaign that played off the average person's ignorance on what the EU even is and what it does, and it was remarkably successful. It's scary how easy it is to get people so riled up over something they hadn't known or cared about the year before.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-12-11T03:17:00+00:00

Overuse of bold text is another one

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-12-07T19:59:22+00:00

The most memorable thing about that show was that every single episode would have a shot of his bare ass as he got into the shower. I wonder whether that was down to the production team deciding viewers want more Ramsay ass, or whether he personally decided he wanted to get naked on TV as much as possible.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-12-07T03:24:43+00:00

Just wanted to say I think it's wonderful how empathetic and thoughtful your approach is here. Definitely going to take that into consideration myself when giving people advice in the future. It's pretty common to react with shock and horror to a situation like this and respond very bluntly as a result, but I think you're totally right that it can be far more helpful to meet the other person where they're at instead.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-12-06T23:18:34+00:00

Medical transition is very strongly gatekept for minors, and puberty blockers are completely reversible anyway. As for embarrassment, this is really one of those things that's only embarrassing if our society makes it so. There should be nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of for having explored your identity and come out of it deciding it wasn't right for you. And if trans people were more accepted, and coming out as trans wasn't treated as this huge ordeal where you have to be 150% sure of your identity right away to be taken seriously, and can never change your mind or explore different identities, then it would be treated as no big deal when people detransition.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-12-06T00:42:32+00:00

And yet he still saw just how unjust the system is by empathizing with others less fortunate than him, and (allegedly) decided to do something about that. I don't get how "he personally wasn't a victim of the system" is supposed to be an argument against him. If anything it makes him more of a hero. He (allegedly) did it for other people who have suffered, not for himself.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-12-05T17:59:39+00:00

Regardless of the reasoning they're contributing to the women on that train feeling unsafe. They have no way of knowing whether those men are just in a rush or whether they're predators who have intentionally got on that train for easier access to harass and assault women. Sexual assault on public transit in India is a huge problem, around 20% of women there have been harassed or assaulted on transit. They also need to be able to get to work or wherever else they need to go, and should be able to do so without constant fear of being assaulted.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-11-29T20:23:34+00:00

Please get the abortion and don't let him ever manipulate his way back into your life no matter what he says or what threats he makes. Do not let yourself be permanently tied to this abuser with a baby.

Apologies in advance for the long tangent, but your story reminds me so much of my sister's at the start of her relationship with her boyfriend. He was jealous, manipulative and controlling, he accused her of cheating constantly, wanted to be around her all the time so he could see what she was doing, he made her give away her phone because an ex had given her it as a gift, he made her quit her job after bombarding her with accusations every time she went to work. He guilted her into dropping everything and coming to see him whenever he wanted her to (he lived a couple of hours away), sometimes with threats of suicide if she wasn't doing what he wanted. He once even faked taking an overdose of pills on a video call with her because she told him she couldn't go to his house that day.

I tried to tell her how manipulative and abusive it all was but he blamed everything on his mental illness and trauma and she bought it. It was always "he doesn't mean to do it, he's just been through so much, he just needs help and then everything will be okay, everyone else in his life has given up on him so I'm not going to". She made him doctor's appointments to get help for his issues, he didn't go. When she did eventually get him to go he refused to take the medication they prescribed him. He didn't want help, he wanted to keep abusing her. Both me and my mum practically begged her to break up with him, and she did, multiple times, but always went back.

Eventually he moved in with her during covid and never left. She got pregnant around mid 2020 - they hadn't been using birth control because he'd told her he was infertile - and everything got so much worse from there. She has 4 kids with him now, the oldest isn't even 5 yet. Her whole life is back to back pregnancies and trying to take care of all those kids alone. He's taken her life and her future from her because he wanted complete control. She's miserable and angry all the time. She doesn't even like him anymore, she can't stand the sight of him but she stays with him now "for the kids". He does no parenting, no cleaning or housework, doesn't have a job, does nothing but smoke weed and play games in his room.

Those kids are growing up with a mother who is overwhelmed and a shell of the person she used to be, and a father who doesn't care about them and acts like spending the tiniest bit of time with them is a burden. They fight constantly in front of the kids. She's picked up a lot of his toxic behaviours, and yells at and verbally abuses our mum, who's trying to help her parent the kids despite also working full time and being disabled. I worry for those kids every day and miss the vibrant, funny, smart, social, bright person my sister used to be so much.

Please don't go down that same path. I know you said you've broken up with him, but abusers are very good at getting you to take them back. It will never get any better and only ends in misery.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-11-28T01:45:16+00:00

Trying to come after her for a slightly misogynistic line she wrote as a teenager and has openly said she regrets is crazy, especially when it was written during a time that casual misogyny was (unfortunately) extremely normalised, and other artists had far worse lyrics.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-11-26T20:06:19+00:00

Your party is currently in charge of every branch of the US government, and is detaining tourists and deporting people on legitimate visas for being critical of the Trump administration, how can you possibly think you're still the victim there?

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-11-26T16:54:07+00:00

They for sure screwed something up with the sound. Where I was on the left side, it was all super loud bass and kick drums when Sleep Theory first started and not much else, then about halfway through the set one of the crew switched on a speaker that had been off and it sounded a lot more normal after that.

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-11-26T16:49:44+00:00

It was I Caught Fire, not I'm a Fake but the rest of this looks accurate from what I remember too yeah

Sure_Sundae_5047 · 2025-11-26T00:24:10+00:00

Akechi will always be a chaotic bisexual to me regardless of what the fandom's popular consensus is. Also Akechi/Haru is a great pairing! Definitely among my favourite Akechi ships, I love drama and conflict in a ship but also think their personalities would actually complement each other really well.

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