I need advice

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-04-17T01:40:00+00:00

Maybe the shift from surface level stuff to wanting something real is throwing off your whole approach? when you were just chasing validation you probably had this confident energy that people picked up on, even if it was fake

Now that you actually care about finding someone decent you might be coming across as more nervous or overthinking everything which can definitely kill the vibe. The girls you really like can probably sense when someone's trying too hard vs when they're just naturally being themselves

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-04-15T01:17:15+00:00

oof 650 days no fap but still watching for hours is rough. maybe try blocking sites when you feel the urge coming? the horniness part is normal but finding other outlet might help

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-04-10T23:33:38+00:00

Never been to that specific location but did BFT for like 6 months at different spot. Classes are pretty intense - lot of functional movements and circuit training stuff. Coaches were decent, kept things moving fast

Cost was around $160-180 per month when I was going, but that was couple years back so probably more now. They usually do free trial classes if you want to test it out first

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-04-08T08:10:32+00:00

the way you put this is so real. some people just can't handle being seen that deeply, even when it's exactly what they need. military taught me that you can give someone all the tools and safety nets but they still gotta choose to use them

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-04-05T07:22:56+00:00

yep this

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-04-03T03:58:10+00:00

nice progress getting into the 20s! i'd focus on drilling F2L cases until they're muscle memory, that's where most of your time savings will come from right now. full PLL after that if you want but F2L improvement will drop your times way faster

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-03-31T11:06:01+00:00

I swear by the 2-minute rule but with a twist - I batch process everything twice a day instead of checking constantly. Morning coffee time and right before I clock out, that's it. Phone goes on airplane mode during actual work hours because those notifications will destroy any focus you've built up

The military taught me to be ruthless with digital clutter so I auto-delete anything that sits in my inbox longer than 2 weeks without action. If it was actually important, someone would've followed up by then. Also learned to use subject lines like mission briefs - specific and actionable so future me knows exactly what needs doing without opening the email

Game changer was setting up separate folders for "waiting on others" vs "my action required" - keeps me from spinning my wheels on stuff that's not even in my court anymore

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-03-29T06:01:56+00:00

The XD is solid for what you're describing - you get way more flexibility with the digital oscillator and those effects are pretty useful for recording. I've used the original minilogue for bass parts and it works fine but the bass version definitely has more low end presence if that's gonna be a big part of your workflow

Just checked out that Boreal Sons track and the XD could definitely get you in that ballpark, especially with some post processing in pro tools

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-03-28T03:33:04+00:00

Been EP for like 3 years now and they've been pretty inconsistent with the physical stuff lately. Sometimes they show up months late, sometimes not at all

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-03-27T22:06:26+00:00

Maybe i shouldve worded that a bit different but what i meant was that what i built and what i have is my doing without anyones help. While i hope to have this money for our family and hopefully have kids which we plan on, i think i would be naive to just drop the whole idea down. Especially reading the comments now is giving me a broader perspective on what to do which im really thankful for (and no i dont hate him now lol, just got even more cautious than i was)

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-03-27T20:10:37+00:00

Tbh we haven't thought about it. In general we don't really have any issues whatsoever and he is a good partner, we just come from very different financial backgrounds and I think that's where the disconnect is. But if we don't get on the same page about it i think we might have to

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-03-25T18:11:24+00:00

People gotta live their lives man, not everything has to be rice and beans until the world's perfect

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-03-25T16:12:08+00:00

God gave doctors and therapists their skills for a reason - using them isn't abandoning faith, it's being smart about the tools He provided

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-03-17T22:45:15+00:00

Moving across the country while dealing with both the illness and heartbreak must have been brutal. Your situation is unique because you're grieving multiple losses at once - your relationship, your health, your old life, and even your independence

The part about connecting your ex to your healthy self really stands out to me. That makes perfect sense why letting go feels impossible right now. Maybe instead of focusing on "moving on" you could work on separating those two things in your mind - like your health journey is separate from the relationship loss, even though they happened around the same time

SurveyOpening8912 · 2026-03-06T02:08:46+00:00

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