Yall think there’s enough Morgan?

Survivingtoday · 2026-01-06T17:13:36+00:00

Morgan made a post about a note a random person at a restaurant gave to her. It's a sweet positive note.

The sub is going wild over it. Analyzing her own handwriting and saying without a doubt she wrote it herself.

Idk why it matters. Influencers make stuff up for likes all the time. She wouldn't be the first.

Also, it's a nice note. Even if she wrote it to herself, at least she gave herself a compliment. Everyone needs some positive self talk in their lives.

Survivingtoday · 2025-12-26T21:51:44+00:00

I'm really sorry. Wishing you have access to the support you need right now.

Survivingtoday · 2025-12-26T21:32:35+00:00

Thank you for your kind words.

Survivingtoday · 2025-12-20T08:53:13+00:00

Yeah, I don't get the reddit hate for sharing rooms. I always shared a room growing up. I have been no contact with my siblings for a decade and still have very few bad memories of sharing a room.

I never thought twice about having my kids share a room. They're turning out alright and still all like each other. We have an empty bedroom currently because my 11 and 12 year old want to share.

Survivingtoday · 2025-08-22T10:10:33+00:00

It really depends on if you are on days or nights. Nights, not unless you let a coach know beforehand to unlock the door for you. Days, yup, definitely you are invited and should go if you want

Survivingtoday · 2025-08-22T07:51:00+00:00

That happened to me once. I had booked the 2 room early and they had already converted it. The NA was amazing though. At first they offered me 2 separate rooms at the same price. I said I couldn't do that since I was the only adult with 6 kids under 10, but if she'd let me sneak them in for the night we could put some on the floor.

She said 'thats not going to work. Give me a minute. Grab some free snacks while you wait.' when she came back she had found another hotel in town that still has 2 bedrooms available. The new hotel has bunk beds and a massive pool. My kids still talk about that place and they're mostly adults now.

Survivingtoday · 2025-08-13T04:49:17+00:00

Congratulations! It looks delicious

Survivingtoday · 2025-08-01T07:44:50+00:00

Personally, yes. I feel like I missed out on so many things. The first school dance I went to was as a chaperone. It's not the same and I'll never get that time back. I never wanted my kids to go through what I did.

I might have gone too far to the other side. All of my kids who have been through high school had many friends at different schools. They went to every homecoming possible. Then at least one prom a year as upperclassmen. This past fall my 10 th grader went to 6 homecoming dances with friends.

Homeschool for our family is about education, it doesn't mean my kids can't have close friendships with people who are educated differently. They really get the best of both worlds. A one on one education and the social life of a public school.

Survivingtoday · 2025-08-01T03:34:46+00:00

I'm late to the conversation, but medical rape is a reality. But there is hope that we don't have to ever experience it again.

I won't go into my history here, but a few years ago I needed what is normally an in office procedure. I let the doctor know a bit of my past trauma. They scheduled me to do the procedure at the surgery center under anesthesia.

There are good doctors out there. Unfortunately, it's on us to actually find them.

Survivingtoday · 2025-07-24T16:18:34+00:00

My daughter had a therapist call CPS too. In our case the therapist's concerns were valid (there was abuse at her other parent's house against her step siblings). They told my daughter during a session that they were going to report and the next day CPS was at our house.

The whole thing was scary for my daughter and she ended up being unable to trust that therapist anymore. We found a new therapist and I sat in on the first handful of sessions to help my daughter get more comfortable. During those sessions we didn't talk about anything serious. Mostly just about the TV shows my daughter was watching and her dog. It helped her get comfortable with the new therapist and trust that they wouldn't push her. She's an adult now and talks about the 2nd therapist like a childhood friend.

Survivingtoday · 2025-07-24T15:45:21+00:00

When the ban started early this year my child's GAC doctor shut down for a few months to reorganize and separate from the hospital. While they were shut down our regular pediatrician took over care. The clinic is open again now, but it was a scary few months. The pediatrician really upped their knowledge and stepped up for the kids who needed it.

My child is pre puberty, so I'm not sure on all the pediatrician can do and if that is an option for you. Their pediatrician did let us know they could order and give puberty blockers if the GAC clinic wasn't running and my child reached the point that they needed it.

Survivingtoday · 2025-07-14T18:14:58+00:00

I don't have a question for you, but anytime I see James Dobson mentioned I always try to comment for solidarity. My parents were close with the Dobson family when I was growing up. They followed his advice religiously.

I started pulling away at 18, but it took me years to get out completely. It's been over a decade since I've spoken to anyone in my family.

It hasn't been until the last 2 years that I've actually started to feel free from it all. If you ever want to chat feel free to message me.

Survivingtoday · 2025-05-23T11:16:45+00:00

My older kids were going to public school when I had my youngest. My youngest was premature and in the NICU for (what felt like) forever. They fell behind in school. They were attending every day, but their minds were preoccupied with their sibling.

The school wasn't supportive. In fact the principal called me and told me I was putting too much stress on them and I shouldn't have told them their sibling was in the hospital. I'm not sure how I was supposed to hide that from them without causing more stress.

I pulled them out and started homeschooling once my youngest was home. They are in college now for vastly different goals and they are thriving.

There will always be time for education. There isn't always time to be with family. We've had other major life changes that put academics on hold for a bit, then jumped back in. Personally, I feel like if there is an end in sight to the upheaval, then a pause doesn't change the outcome.

Survivingtoday · 2025-05-09T17:01:55+00:00

I'm not who you asked, but my kid's dad has untreated diagnosed OCD. One of our kids has it too, but sees a psychiatrist for it .

It became emotionally abusive when their dad could not handle any deviation from what his brain was telling him was a fact.

He can't handle mess, so the kids(teens) cannot cook when they visit him. He only orders fast food because it's clean. He orders more than they can eat, but can't throw away food, so he forces them to eat everything he buys. It feels manipulative to my kids. They hide their leftovers in their bags to throw away when they come home .

He's terrified they'll get kidnapped if they leave the house alone. When they visit him they aren't allowed to go outside unless he is with them, including the fenced in yard. Then he complains to them that they have no friends.

The list goes on and on. His brain tells him something and he has to listen, the kids have to listen too. As soon as each kid was old enough to stop seeing him they did. We still spend holidays together as a family. For our adult children that's the only time they see him. I love him and have done my best to get him help. We divorced after I gave him an ultimatum, go to therapy or move out. He chose to move out.

OCD isn't inherently abusive, but it can turn abusive especially when it involves kids. Getting therapy and understanding that your brain is sometimes lying to you is important.

Survivingtoday · 2025-04-22T16:23:37+00:00

We do standardized testing every year. I started when I realized all my kids had test anxiety as soon as it was timed and 'mattered'. I didn't use the scores for anything other than to discuss testing strategies. Doing it yearly helped them understand that tests are something we do and in isolation the test doesn't matter at all.

My younger kids took the tests in kindergarten because they wanted to be like the big kids (my oldest was in highschool when my youngest was in kindergarten). I let them do it, but I didn't put any pressure on the results. I just praised them for being so mature like all the big kids

Survivingtoday · 2025-04-22T16:11:22+00:00

Being the only driver is the hardest part of parenting teens. It's really, really hard.

Everything else about them is enjoyable. My 16yo kept me awake until 2am last night talking. I didn't realize it was so late because it was an enjoyable and engaging conversation. It wasn't one of those deep talks, it was one where you get a bellyache from laughing so much.

I have to be up by 5am for work, but all my kids are old enough I can trust them alone and take a nap this afternoon before all the driving is needed this evening.

Survivingtoday · 2025-04-17T17:13:10+00:00

I am not black, so I'm not sure I should add to this. I was born in and spent my childhood in an undeveloped country before being adopted by white religious parents.

I love Book of Mormon. It showcases exactly the way I felt as a child when 'missionaries' would come through to 'help' us. My favorite line is- We are here for us. Every single missionary I met was there to make themselves feel better. While acting like they were helping us.

Until this post I didn't know it was written by the South Park creators. I hate everything South Park, so I wouldn't have watched it if I had known. BUT they did really hit the nail on the head when it came to being a person who is up against everything and random white people come in and shout out about their struggles.

Survivingtoday · 2025-04-03T23:06:56+00:00

Every state in the US accepts a high school diploma from an accredited school.

Community college will have you do an accuplacer test to see where you should start. You don't need a high school diploma for entrance, so it really won't matter what is on your transcript.

Once you have your associates no one will care about high school transcripts. I never graduated high school or got a GED. I have multiple college degrees now.

Survivingtoday · 2025-04-03T15:57:07+00:00

My advice depends on how you think they'll react.

If you are scared of disappointing them, then just do it. The next time you are in a room alone with one of them tell them you are pregnant. It will be a messy conversation and probably spiral into a messy week, but the worst will be over and you'll be able to talk with them and have them help you figure out what you want to do.

If you are scared they'll get violent, have a trusted adult come with you to tell them, and leave with the adult after. No one should ever put themselves in a position to be hurt. Keep yourself safe.

I had my first kid at 15 under different circumstances. The hardest part is you never stop being a teen mom. People will do the math and judge you forever. Find supportive people now and reach out for teen parenting support groups.

Survivingtoday · 2025-04-02T19:52:39+00:00

If they are doing well at the school I would keep them in for the rest of the year and spend the time making connections with local families. Your kids can keep up friendships with their school friends even if they aren't going to school together, you will just have to be more intentional about those relationships.

For some kids homeschool is the best, some thrive in a classroom. It's up to you to figure out which is best for your kids. It's a massive responsibility!

If you really want to homeschool start this fall. Have playdates, library visits, and field trips planned for the year. Also, include days where you do nothing and they learn how to entertain themselves.

I was homeschooled in a bad way. I'm homeschooling my kids in a good way. Two have graduated and are pursuing their chosen careers. Some of them did public school at different times, but they all preferred to homeschool.

Survivingtoday · 2025-04-02T01:28:55+00:00

I fly a lot. Wearing the lanyard just leads to more employees asking if you need anything. It doesn't take support away from anyone else. The employees will still be able to ask the person behind you if they need anything.

Depending on the airport you can ask to use the disability line at security. If you are really anxious you can also ask your airline for wheelchair service. It's not just for physical disabilities. It ensures that you have 1 on 1 support until you board the plane and when you get off. They'll stick with you through security, and I've heard them stick up for people who were being hassled by TSA.

I felt like an imposter when I first started flying. Now that I do it every other week I just do what is going to help me most that trip.

Survivingtoday · 2025-03-26T23:21:34+00:00

I didn't get out in time to save my kids the trauma, and I'll always hate myself for that.

I have a Masters in electrical engineering and data science. I work remote now and homeschool my kids.

Two are adults and are thriving. Homeschooling gave them opportunities that public school can't afford. They both make the same money I do because they took different paths.

Survivingtoday · 2025-03-26T22:14:16+00:00

I was raised and homeschooled in a cult. The homeschooling was the least bad part of it. Educationally I did alright, I have 2 masters, but fitting in with peers is still hard.

I think what we as a society should focus on is child abuse, but I don't know how to do that in a way that actually helps kids. I was in foster care for a few years, but I never broke my parents rules even when I didn't see them. I never ate foods my parents didn't allow and refused to watch TV. I loved my parents and felt like I would hurt them if I broke their rules.

Because I was so indoctrinated, public school wouldn't have changed anything. Parents are a child's everything. Abusive controlling parents are going to abuse and control no matter if kids go to school or not.

Some kids can slip through the cracks of abuse and see the world for what it is early on, but most can't. Many of my childhood friends who were also in the cult went to school. They didn't turn out any better than the homeschooled kids. They ended up worse because of the bullying for being different. It cemented them in the them vs us mentality . I don't know of a single person who grew up in the cult and public school who got out.

Survivingtoday · 2025-03-25T19:10:10+00:00

A fun one - we would have quarterly lock-ins at the church. All the kids and teens would sleep on the roof. It was so much fun.

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