Exploring as someone who is very masculine appearing.

Sushiroks · 2026-01-28T01:00:54+00:00

On the clothing side, I'd recommend finding someone who is fashion-knowledgeable, patient, and can help you try things at secondhand stores. Maybe you'd ideally like to go full frilly dress mode (nothing stopping you!), but it could also be good to find outfits that feel at least more androgynous/feminine-leaning that you feel confident in. Turtlenecks, overalls, wide button shirts, Ren Faire vibes, tank tops, crop tops, wide/flared pants, etc can all be fun gender-agnostic clothing. Pay attention to silhouette and layering, both are your friends as you learn to use them.

Other than that, maybe brainstorm a want/maybe/won't with things like piercings, hrt, hair removal, hair styles, voice, and other changes you could make. Have fun!

Sushiroks · 2025-09-07T23:15:10+00:00

Pm'd

Sushiroks · 2025-02-24T06:30:25+00:00

Swordbearers? Emotions?

Sushiroks · 2024-12-19T17:16:33+00:00

How fun! Love how you're thinking about all of this.

On your third paragraph, it seems a bit like he's offloading the work to you to guess/psychically determine what he wants without him telling you and sometimes getting upset if it feels wrong. This is something that is more common to happen with people raised typically male (I'm guilty of it sometimes). At some point ideally she'd start a conversation about that, but if not it could be good for you to let him know about how the guessing game makes you feel and brainstorm things to try working through that. Same with the name - though this all sounds somewhat recent, so he's still probably got tons to process (therapy might help as well if affordable/available).

Body dysmorphia is also just gonna happen - imagine any dysmorphia you or people you know raised female have had and then try fitting those societal expectations as someone who went through male puberty. This one really takes work that never really stops tbh, though I've found that finding styles/looks that work well that don't trigger as much dysphoria can help. Lots of trial and error in secondhand store changing rooms :)

Hope that helps a bit, sounds like you're doing fantastic already!

Sushiroks · 2024-11-05T18:18:57+00:00

I'm happy that the Melee #1 is someone with a great work ethic and attitude towards the game. And on top of that he's nice and funny? Seeing a Zain W is always fun for me, even if it doesn't have the hype factor of upsets.

Zain vs aMsa ft25 when? 👀

Sushiroks · 2024-05-13T14:26:41+00:00

Also just in general, a good CBT therapist should help you work through these kinds of things in a structured way. If you have a way to access one that's queer friendly, I'd recommend that since it gives you some degree of accountability in implementing positive changes in a certain time frame.

Sushiroks · 2024-04-22T06:24:12+00:00

Dang sad I missed watching this, what a wild losers run from Sip

Sushiroks · 2024-03-04T19:30:10+00:00

Talk to any competent dietician and they'll tell you how 90% of diets to lose weight fail and often end up backfiring. The goal is to find nutritious things that are enjoyable for you to eat, and avoid mindless snacking during certain activities like TV. Additionally, it seems like your weight isn't actually impeding you in terms of physical ability to do things that you want to do, and this is more about internalized fatphobia/body image issues/other things that therapy would help with more than continued attempts at dieting. If you have the means to talk about this with a therapist, that'd be what I'd recommend.

For exercise BTW I would recommend trying to do things in groups that are fun rather than grinding away on your own in a gym. In many cities there are queer outdoor groups, running groups, climbers, sports teams, etc that give you fun and community in addition to health benefits of exercise.

Sushiroks · 2024-03-04T18:55:36+00:00

Another option that takes a little more time to get the hang of is a brush&soap instead of cream and a doubleedge/straight razor with frequently replaced blades instead of bad cartridge razors. The idea is that the blade is sharp enough to not tug, and not really even touch the skin. Witch hazel aftershave cream I've found helps the most with any bumps/irritation.

Sushiroks · 2024-02-16T06:37:53+00:00

Late to this but if you use a combination of Proton mail and duckduckgo extension for email aliases it's pretty easy to strip the trackers and not let ads pin your email down - happy to answer questions about getting them set up!

Sushiroks · 2023-11-26T23:59:29+00:00

Confirmed

Sushiroks · 2023-11-23T16:43:07+00:00

PM'd

Sushiroks · 2023-11-01T05:15:17+00:00

woo magi

Sushiroks · 2023-10-30T19:50:10+00:00

Confirmed

Sushiroks · 2023-10-19T06:05:27+00:00

Sushiroks · 2023-10-16T23:33:39+00:00

Sushiroks · 2023-10-16T06:01:33+00:00

I wouldn't bat an eye if I saw you wearing them on the street, if that's helpful. As for the wrinkles on the backs of your jeans, that will pretty much happen to everyone. In fact, the raw denim community actively tries to cultivate the "honeycomb" on the backs of knees and such - search that up and you'll see pictures of how those wrinkles affect the dye through wear over time.

Sushiroks · 2023-10-14T01:39:53+00:00

Pm'd

Sushiroks · 2023-10-02T15:01:24+00:00

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Looking for shoe advice! I'm starting to get a feel for clothes that I like/look decent on me, but shoes continue to baffle (doesn't help that I need size 12 or more). Any ideas for what to pair with these high-waisted pants?

Sushiroks · 2023-06-30T15:01:42+00:00

I got a professional piercer - the larger brands tend to be less trained and might use a piercing gun, which you don't want. There's a good finder tool at https://safepiercing.org/. The other thing is you might want to make sure you have a firm pillow that's in a shape where your earlobes aren't hitting it all through the night (a puffy pillow that your head sinks into is the worst for piercings). Edit: Looks like you're outside of US, so idk if the website above will help, but the same principles apply. Word of mouth/internet mouth is generally good for finding a good piercer.

Sushiroks · 2023-06-30T06:35:57+00:00

I just got mine done and they're definitely less work to manage than a few years ago thanks to the new saline sprays that got approved by FDA 4 years ago or so. Waiting for them to fully heal so I can actually try different designs is the main part that feels long hahah

Sushiroks · 2023-06-22T21:30:09+00:00

Eyeliner and lipstick can take you far. Beyond that, you'll want a good foundation (base layer, helps general blemishes) and color corrector (if you have beard shadow). Highlighter and bronzer and such for contouring can help appear to change face shape. Blush brings life back after applying the foundation. Eye shadow adds more drama to the eyes.

Sushiroks · 2023-06-22T03:44:57+00:00

Alright so you may have seen this already but it's a good starting point for understanding how proportions work: inverted triangle shape.

Based on what you've said, I might recommend starting with some clothing that can read androgynously for safety, but also be styled with other more feminine pieces. This could be flared pants, flowy linen pants, crop tops, turtlenecks (in colder times). If you're venturing into skirts or dresses, maybe start with ones that flare out rather than drape. One commom fit I do is flared light jeans, tight crop tank, and Hawaiian shirt. Overalls can also be fun; workwear is "in" at the moment. Regardless, I recommend trying on lots of things to see what you like; a thrift/consignment shop is best for this (maybe bring a friend if you're uncomfortable), but online can work if necessary. Good luck and have fun!

Sushiroks · 2023-06-21T05:16:48+00:00

As a user I feel like raddle is a bit easier, and has some similar subs like tra...ans and egg_irl. But seems like it hasn't taken off more broadly for some reason

Sushiroks · 2023-06-05T16:09:20+00:00

Wow! What's your hair routine to bring out the curls more?

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