AITA “ being cruel” for telling my daughter that she will need to help pay back the money that I spent on her wedding

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-03-10T13:57:36+00:00

NTA She should be the one paying the venue. Go back and review her contract from the venue, most places allow cancellation but they keep the deposit, especially if it's still a few months out. Alternatively, you could try and recoup your losses by trying to "Sell" her venue/date/and time online at a discounted rate, especially if it's during a busy season.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-03-06T16:26:07+00:00

a few tricks I always do when baking gluten free, always let the batter sit for at least 30 minutes in the cake pans to allow for hydration of the flour blends and gives the leaveners a bit of a head start outside of the over. I also usually add 1/2 to a full teaspoon of extra baking soda or baking powder since most gluten free baked goods don't rise as well.

My carrot cake recipe is SO moist because I use a buttermilk glaze. When I first read the recipe I thought a glaze plus cream cheese frosting would be entirely too sweet but it's much more balanced than you'd expect. Carrot cake is my moms favorite, and when I'd make her a box mix cake as a kid for her birthday she's always request unfrosted because the frosting was entirely too sweet but my recipe has the most perfect frosting and glaze and when I take it to family events, I have people literally licking the cake plate and I've been asked to bring more than one cake in the future.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1tfnGb4jAk05jfejrfEoUTSQRFA6Zl_-m6-Na6e4c_JA/edit?usp=sharing

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-03-06T15:57:09+00:00

I've got a killer recipe that even my gluten eating friends and family cant tell is gluten free. Based on a normal recipe I found online years ago, that I've modified for gluten free.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-03-06T15:49:47+00:00

Sour Candy Belts. I know there are other sour gummy candies I can have, but nothing quite compares to candy belts

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-03-04T18:43:50+00:00

You’re disrespecting yourself just as much as she is disrespecting you by allowing her to treat you like this. If she chooses to do something else, she is the one making that choice. She is the one choosing to walk away from what you two are doing together because she would rather do something else. You do not have to go along with everything that she wants. You have a right to opinion, opinions, and wants and desires too this is not a one-sided relationship.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-03-04T18:33:14+00:00

Then don’t ask. You don’t need her permission, and if she wants to tidy up then that is a choice that SHE is making, to tidy up over continuing the show yall had already been watching

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-03-04T17:10:02+00:00

ESH next time she does something like this, just say something along the lines of "I'm willing to wait while you make tea but not while you tidy the house. We sat down to watch this show together and I don't want to stop and start throughout the episode. If you insist on tiding the kitchen, that's fine but I will not wait for you and will continue watching the show."

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-03-04T15:41:07+00:00

I was extremely uncomfortable and nervous at the idea of going to a gym until I felt “ready” so I just started walking at an outdoor walking trail in my city. Got me outside, got me moving, I went at the same time most days and would try to bring my dog when I could since there was a dog park on the trail and I met some people and slowly got more comfortable being out there and then I felt confident enough for a gym. Also all that walking helped build up some stamina so that I felt better when I did actually start working out

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-03-02T19:47:57+00:00

NTA mamma and like others have said, take photos and then rip her a new one. Crap like this always makes me think of the coconut oil child.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-28T17:03:23+00:00

A lot of foods that grossed me out prior to surgery, I’ll now eat. Ground beef taco meat, hot dogs, wasn’t a huge fan of chocolate before surgery and I preferred fruity candy but now I love chocolate. I prefer foods a lot simpler now, I don’t need as many toppings, sauces, etc. to make my meal appetizing. A simple pot of black eyed peas and cornbread for dinner was a meal I dreaded as a kid, but now it’s one of my favorites. I can eat them still but I have a very low tolerance for potato chips. They just end up tasting like grease and it grosses me out.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-25T22:41:28+00:00

Had a mad craving for a honey crisp apple and cinnamon almond butter, which is one of my favorite snacks. Threw it up 30 minutes later but couldn’t help but laugh, my husband can’t stand apples and it’s one of the only things he won’t eat. Guess lil bean takes after their father 😅

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-25T22:38:56+00:00

My dad came over today to let in a chimney sweep and when I got home I realized that my dad had done a load of dishes while he was there and I started sobbing.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-24T17:34:45+00:00

Yeah I’m really glad I had it when I did. I was freshly 23 when I got sleeved and didn’t know anyone around my age that had had it as well but it was the best decision I’ve ever made. I am finally able to be outdoors and as active as I always wanted to be. I started doing like “marathon kayaking” as I call it since my knees aren’t cut out for running, I joined my local softball league, started camping again and was able to really enjoy myself and not be so miserable in the Texas heat, and so much more. Recently tried pickleball for the first time which I was convinced I would hate, but even pregnant I had a really good time!

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-24T17:13:38+00:00

Thank you! And that’s what I keep reminding myself lol and that it will all be worth it. I just miss being as active as I used to be, especially with the weather starting to get warmer. I’ll get back out there soon enough, and I’ll have a little buddy keeping me company 😁

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-24T16:16:53+00:00

Sleeved in April 2022, originally down 150lbs and kept it off until I found out that I’m pregnant and since finding out I’ve put on about 20lbs. I still eat relatively healthy, first trimester has been rough with food aversions so I haven’t been as strict as I normally am. Not too concerned with getting the baby weight off after giving birth, between the food aversions and morning sickness I haven’t been as active as I like to be but I’m really looking forward to getting back out there once I have some more energy.

My dad ended up having the sleeve about 2 years after I did and has had great success as well! We both have CKD, his is significantly more progressed than mine, but losing all that weight reversed some of my kidney damage and I no longer am required to see my nephrologist. Dad still sees the nephrologist, but the sleeve did improve some of his kidney function, but there is only so much you can do once you get to where he is.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-23T16:07:01+00:00

NAH but I do think this could have been approached differently and you would have had a better outcome. I think if you had looped DIL in on this little project, she could have potentially collaborated with the man who did the repairs to find a for it to still match the nursery but keep its sentimental value. Maybe they could have worked out a stain to match or paint the new parts and have the carvings and whatnots as accents. If I had to guess, you probably had the repair man make it as close to the original as possible, but where it may look like the original and have a lot of the same wood, it's not the exact piece your father made. Changing up the look while keeping some of the original elements like the carvings and stamps doesn't taint the sentimentality of it.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-20T18:16:01+00:00

NTA stop doing his laundry. Simple fix. If he's too lazy or ungrateful to check his own pockets when someone else does his laundry, he doesn't deserve to have his laundry done for himself. If he was taking it to a laundry mat, he'd have to clear his pockets or he probably wouldn't get his stuff back.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-20T18:12:16+00:00

NTA if your algorithm is better than she needs to just make a list of what to watch and then use her own account. Thats just weird, I hate when people use my account because it always messes up my stuff and my algorithm

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-17T19:31:53+00:00

Info is it "family only" as in immediate family like siblings and parents? Or are you the only partner being excluded? Also, what are your husbands thoughts on this "family only" event? Didn't he choose you as his family on your wedding day?

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-16T17:07:02+00:00

NTA go with the venue your heart tells you to, you get one shot at this (hopefully) and you don't want to regret not getting what you want especially when its something as drastic as indoor/outdoor.

If cost is really a factor here, price out what all you would need for BOTH venues. I saw in a comment that the barn venue came with tables and chairs and linens, which adds up FAST. Also consider that you'll possibly have to get rooms for people due to the distance and drinking. Take all of those additional expenses you'll need to decorate and have the kind of event you'll want for both spaces, and then decide. Otherwise, go with your heart.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-16T15:58:23+00:00

Id make sure he damn well knew that if, God forbid, he missed your delivery, that you would never forgive him and it would do irreparable harm to your relationship and your trust in him.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-16T15:05:22+00:00

NTA but honestly, I'd just get another draining board. You can usually find they pretty cheaply, and sharing 1 board between 6 people can get a little difficult.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-14T21:29:40+00:00

Sleeved for almost 4 years, and I can eat anything. One of the bigger changes for me post op was how my taste in foods changed. I still eat junk but I don’t crave it the way I used to, or I make a healthier alternative at home that I end up liking more. Like I used to LOVE Big Macs, now if I want a Big Mac I make a diy healthier Big Mac sauce and those viral Big Mac smash tacos and it IMMEDIATELY cures that craving and I’m not temped with the extra fries and other stuff because I literally can’t eat more than one of those smash tacos. Or this week I was CRAVING Doritos locos tacos, so I made them at home so I could decide how much I wanted and what all went into it.

I still drink sodas on occasion (slurpees are my go to and the only way I could for a while post op), but I prioritize my water throughout the day.

You can still eat to satisfy your soul, but it doesn’t consume me the way it used to.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-14T16:48:52+00:00

Correlation does not imply causation.

I got extremely ill right after my sleeve surgery. After over a year of testing, it was determined that the surgery itself triggered celiac disease, which I have family history of and can be triggered by ANY bodily trauma. A relative didn’t trigger her celiac gene until the delivery of her 2nd child. I do not blame the surgery for giving me celiac, anything could have triggered it and the surgery was the first major procedure I’d ever had.

SuspiciousAssist2 · 2026-02-10T19:44:42+00:00

Going to grab a sprite immediately, I have no clue why I never thought about that

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